Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing: Using the Unique Dual Approach of Family Constellations and Emotional Mind Integration for Personal and Systemic Health.

By Yildiz Sethi

An effective and innovative new approach called Rapid Core Healing (RCH) is a succinct, holistic strategy for psychological healing and growth. In this innovative guide to assisting people dealing with trauma, conflict, and a wide range of emotional and relational issues, Yildiz Sethi provides an introduction to the dual approach of Family Constellations and Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) as RCH. Applied neuroscience and epigenetics
Drawing from her experience as a Rapid Core Healing psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, and Family Constellation practitioner, Sethi developed RCH for effective therapeutic resolutions to emotional healing that follow rapid core healing pathways.
Fundamentally RCH is composed of two methods:

•EMI to facilitate the location, resolution, and integration of conflicting or disturbed parts of the psyche into the greater personality.
•Family Constellations to enable people to find a healthier place with their family of origin, resulting in better inner and relational connections in the present.

Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Integration is for those looking for a holistic approach to overcoming trauma, such as conflict, emotional and relational issues, and recovery from trauma including sexual abuse or domestic violence. This book is a great resource for counsellors and mental health professionals and for those working on their own personal development.

Rapid Core Healing Pathways for Growth and Emotional Healing presents a dual psychotherapeutic approach for working holistically in a new and innovative way with a wide range of mental health and wellness issues, rapidly. The author Yildiz Sethi comes from a science teaching background prior to her career as a psychotherapist and educator of counsellors, psychotherapists and coaches. Her work in this field has resulted in her creation of two new modalities of psychotherapy which she is pioneering to address the next step of growth in this area.
Rapid Core Healing (RCH) is a dual modality consisting of Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) and Family Constellations (FC) that is designed to work with the personal conflicts that people face in life and systemic (family of origin) issues simultaneously.
The book may be used by a wide range of professionals or ‘people who help people’ such as counsellors, hypnotherapists, social workers, psychologists, and natural therapists’ and those who are interested in the human psyche. It is suitable for students of counselling and psychotherapy or people who help people.
The purpose of the book is to present a new psychotherapy approach designed to address the need for faster and more effective responses to mental health and wellness issues. The RCH modality is holistic in utilising the best from the past along with the latest findings in neuroscience and epigenetics and includes the clinical practice of the author into a comprehensive new way of enabling recovery.
The RCH process requires an average of only 3-5 sessions for satisfactory resolutions for most client issues (excluding those with serious mental health DSM5 diagnoses). RCH is suitable for people who experience depression, anxiety, panic attacks, sexual abuse, trauma, and relationship issues. This includes couple’s and family relationships.

The dual therapeutic approach consists of a unique fusion of strands from former and present psychotherapies combined with hypnosis. This forms a potent methodology coming out of philosophy and practice, for locating and enabling the strengthening of innate resources and the promotion of the natural human potential for healing.

Naturally occurring healing pathways are followed in the therapeutic process to enable people to resolve a range of personal trauma and poor core relational bonds (primarily with parents) for better mental health and wellness in the present.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Yildiz Sethi
• Release date: Jun 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9781005882327

Yildiz Sethi

Yildiz was born in England to an English mother and Turkish Cypriot father that inspired her interest in culture and religion from an early age. She always had an interest in culture, religion and science and personal development. She became a school teacher teaching science until a sensitive point in her life she was introduced to Vedic astrology and her spiritual curiosity was re awaked. She started an intense study of Vedic astrology where she became fascinated with karmic cycles. She felt the call to move away from teaching to follow this passion. She became a Vedic astrologer with a fascination for karmic cycles. Eventually new questions arose. Isn't it possible to change karmic cycles? Do we have to remain in constant cycles of suffering? This led her to studies to become a counsellor and her discovery of Family Constellations. Later she became an author and the founder of two new psychotherapies. Emotional Mind Integration and Rapid Core Healing. Yildiz Continues to learn and grow and assist others through sessions, workshops, training speaking and writing.

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Preface

Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing represents a lifetime of curiosity, observation, study, research, practice and fine-tuning of philosophies and methodologies to promote knowledge and emotional and mental wellbeing. Coming from a science and teaching background that includes spiritual curiosity, I have always been interested in how things work, at both the micro and macro levels.

I am grateful for the support of Satish Sethi, my life partner, and the encouragement and input of Lyn Macintosh, a friend, colleague and former supervisor, in creating this book.

I realised in talking to colleagues that I have a lot to share that may be of benefit to the psychotherapeutic world and also to the greater population, in terms of better mental health outcomes; hence the birth of the modality, Rapid Core Healing (RCH).

In moving from the teaching of physics and chemistry at school into counselling at a crossroads in my life, my intention was to increase my own happiness and to assist others to do the same.

I was interested in assisting those who were ready to break out of their patterns and feelings that bound them.

This set me on my own journey of discovery, in counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy, Ego State Therapy, Family Constellations and finally in the development of Rapid Core Healing.

During this process of development, I was a part-time educator of counsellors, specialising in methods of counselling. This increased my appreciation of the value of each psychotherapeutic modality. Further, through my sixteen-year experience as a supervisor, colleague of counsellors and hypnotherapists and, most of all as a counsellor to a great group of clients, I have discovered a way of working that is effective in locating the source of issues quickly, and provides healing pathways rapidly, which is the essence of what I share in this book.

The Rapid Core Healing process draws threads from essential elements of the major therapeutic modalities of the past and it still holds true with present-day, cutting-edge developments in psychotherapy, neuroscience and epigenetics. This has formed a dual, adaptable modality that is effective for a high percentage of the issues that are presented for psychotherapeutic intervention.

In order to present this information, I have looked at what holds the mental health industry back from engaging and utilising the possibilities that are available, if only they would step outside of their traditional models to view human beings in a different way; in a way that allows them to locate the innate healing pathways that are present in human beings for recovery and resilience for a large proportion of the population.

Put aside your ideas and assumptions, at least for a while, and allow in new ways of viewing the human psyche through the philosophy, case studies and techniques of Rapid Core Healing. This will be a journey of discovery as to what is already available in the human spirit for recovery and healing.

Introduction

Rapid Core Healing (RCH) pathways to growth and emotional healing for personal and systemic issues using Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) and Family Constellations (FC) is aimed at people who help people, in particular, counsellors, psychotherapists, hypnotherapists, mental health professionals, alternative therapists and those who are interested in understanding the human psyche. It provides clearly defined pathways that may be utilised to enable psychological healing relatively rapidly for a large proportion of the public. This book includes essential knowledge from the past as well as the latest from neuroscience and epigenetics, and it presents psychological developments in the present in a way that is a brief and effective therapeutic approach.

This book may be a valuable addition to psychotherapeutic knowledge, education and development of those involved in counselling, psychotherapy, family constellations, hypnotherapy, personal development and growth. The modality of RCH may be an important step forward in the treatment of a wide range of relational and emotional issues. It may also be an important resource for those interested in understanding the human psyche and for those wanting to know the difference between psychology and the wide range of psychotherapies that are available in an ever-expanding market place.

Yildiz Sethi is an ex science teacher who is a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist and family constellation facilitator and trainer. She has developed Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration through practise with clients in dealing with both the individual and systemic elements of their issues in a holistic way.

RCH is a dual approach that works in a seamless way with both the individual and the systemic aspects of human experience.

Sethi believes that it is time for a more integrated, holistic and effective approach to mental health and seeks to put aside divisions and myths around psychotherapeutic approaches in promoting wellness.

In RCH, natural pathways to healing are revealed that draw on innate impulses that are present in human beings for assimilation, recovery and improved wellbeing. This book demonstrates how EMI and family constellation processes may be used in RCH to enable effective therapeutic resolutions in an effective and respectful manner. The process is experiential, solution-focussed, person-centred and emotionally focussed in engaging many senses simultaneously.

RCH consists of EMI and family constellations in addressing individual and systemic aspects of human experience involving conflicts, dysfunctions, trauma, unhealthy family patterns and relationships.

EMI is an approach that can quickly locate and safely access the source of an individual’s issue and guide them through the resolution of conflict, trauma and ‘unfinished business’, and facilitate integration into the greater personality.

Family constellations is a methodology developed by Bert Hellinger that is a brief, experiential, solution-focussed modality that assists individuals in coming to a better place within their family system. It also assists in addressing patterns that persist through generations and does not require members of the family to be present. The process may take place in workshops or private sessions. Family constellations assists in creating a better internal connection with the family system to enable better connections with the external world.

RCH is at the forefront of effective brief therapy by providing a revolutionary way of assisting people with trauma and a range of emotional and relational issues, including sexual abuse and domestic violence. In summary, this book is about a new approach to therapy that is brief, thorough and effective.

It includes a summary of how psychotherapy got to this point with some research to show evidence of the developments made so far.

The benefits and shortcomings of the existing psychotherapies, such as humanistic and cognitive behavioural therapies, the traditional medical model and the pharmaceutical industry, along with the problems of psychotherapeutic research, are explored.

Throughout this book, there are case studies to demonstrate the theory, practice and outcomes. The philosophy and practice behind RCH, EMI and FC are presented with the natural healing pathways that may be followed for deep resolutions in a wide range of issues.

Chapter 1: Rapid Core Healing

A New Approach to Psychological Health

I introduce pathways to RCH as a fellow human being, a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer, supervisor, educator and former science teacher. I am also the author of two other personal development books.

The focus of my work has always been on helping myself and others to fulfill our potential in becoming empowered to live more satisfied and meaningful lives. In my earlier years, my intention was to inspire children, through physics and chemistry, to develop and expand their minds and, upon entry into the therapeutic world, this intention shifted to assisting people in improving their inner and, as a result, outer worlds. This broadly includes mental health, relationships and wellbeing.

My entry into psychotherapy has been a fascinating exploration of a wide range of psychological, philosophical and scientific knowledge.

While this continues to inform my clinical private practice, my experience with clients has been the most valuable in informing me about what is effective and therapeutic in facilitating positive change and in assisting them to gain more resilience to navigate their lives. My clients remain my primary teachers.

I join many people who have and are collecting, sifting, fine-tuning and synthesising knowledge and methodologies from the past and present, in order to find the most effective ways to work at providing positive therapeutic outcomes for those who seek better mental health and wellbeing.

Psychotherapists, psychologists and social workers enter a particular school of thought in their training as a result of being schooled in a chosen philosophy and gaining skills with practise. They very often stay within this field, trusting that this is the best or only way to work psychotherapeutically with their clients.

Mental health professionals often maintain a sense of loyalty to their chosen modality that may become a restriction to exploring other ways of working or thinking. In this book, I invite you to come out of your school of thought, at least for a while, and explore what is taking place in terms of innovation and development in the psychotherapy world and the formation of new approaches.

New approaches are taking what is of value from each of the major strands of former approaches and integrating them into new modalities so as to provide a means to improve their effectiveness with clients as mental health professionals continue on their own personal and professional growth paths.

Rapid Core Healing (RCH) is a dual approach of psychotherapy that is composed of Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) and Family Constellations (FC).

I have adopted a largely humanistic philosophical stance in developing RCH in that it is largely person-centred and experiential, while also solution-focussed, psychodynamic and brief.

Through my work with clients, I have discovered that the issues that they face may be divided primarily into two main categories:

Personal, individual issues that have their source in life events, choices, conflicts, distress and dilemmas.

Systemic issues that have their source in the relational, psychological and emotional impacts coming from their experiences within their family-of-origin. This includes any deeply ingrained patterns or traumas from previous generations, and is unconscious, for the most part.

I have developed RCH and EMI from the evolution of former approaches with present-day developments and in my personal practice with clients. I have developed EMI from Resource Therapy (2014) and Ego State Therapy (2003), as presented by Gordon Emmerson, and through my own techniques. FC was developed in the 1990s by Bert Hellinger, who is a German psychotherapist. It has continued to evolve and develop into the present day. The combination of EMI and FC is the RCH approach.

From an EMI perspective, human consciousness is comprised of a group of emotional mind (EM) states that come into existence to deal with particular situations that a person encounters during life events.

Many EM states are healthy, adult states that help form a healthy adult consciousness that has the capacity to grow, mature and integrate over a lifespan.

However, other EM states, that I call disturbed EM states, are also formed in the personality during the more disturbing or traumatic periods of life.

Disturbed EM states appear to be frozen and inhibited from the normal, healthy growth, maturation and integration that normal EM states move through organically.

Further, disturbed EM states may be triggered into activation periodically through life events. In otherwise normal and healthy people, these disturbed states take over the personality periodically, depending on the situation, and present as anxiety, depression, fear, anger and others, in erratic and unpredictable ways. We may consider them to be moods or emotional states. They may be triggered into action by specific and often sensory cues in daily life, such as a look, word, smell, tone of voice, location or situation. Disturbed EM states normally reside outside of a person’s conscious awareness.

FC is a philosophy and practice that views the individual in the context of their family system. The family system includes the biological family and former generations. While families are connected fundamentally by genetics and the love that links them as a group, from a FC perspective, there is another field of connection that Dr Albrecht Mahr, a leading trainer and developer in this modality, called the Knowing Field.

This is not simply a DNA connection, but rather another level of connection that links all within a family system through psychosocial, emotional and cultural dynamics.

This is thought, by FC facilitators, trainers, innovators and writers, to take place through the relational bonds that operate between the generations.

These are bonds that connect one generation to the next where shared experiences are felt through relational links. Through these relational bonds, it appears that circumstances, events, loyalties, bonds and entanglements are transmitted through the family group, often in an unconscious group consciousness. This often has a systemic effect on those in the present.

FC acknowledges that systemic information, involving trauma and exclusions, in particular, that could not be resolved by those of former generations, may be felt through the relational bonds by all in the system and, in particular, by those in the present.

So, for example, being born into a system must also involve being part of the felt sense of what is held by the whole family system.

This felt sense links the present to the past and forms a field of connection that may be utilised in the family constellation process.

The process may locate the underlying dynamics and assist in resolving the entanglements that may inhibit or hold individuals back from realising their potential.

So, a child born into a family who were victims of the holocaust, may sense the trauma, sadness or helplessness of their forefathers and mothers, in the same way that those children born to Syrian refugees will undoubtedly sense the tragedy of having to flee their home, for several generations to come. Events have an effect on the individuals concerned and, hence, on those connected to them in the family system. Such felt senses appear to be transferred through relational bonds unconsciously. This is some of the philosophy of FC that is demonstrated repeatedly in family constellation groups and personal sessions. However, as yet, there is little substantial research on this phenomenon, perhaps due to the difficulty of sourcing the tools and strategies required to quantify and measure such experiential processes.

RCH normally takes three-to-five sessions for most people, depending on the complexity of the issue. Frequently, one session is sufficient to achieve a positive change.

Case Study

History:

Jeremy, 32 years old, came to see me with the intention of coming out of his depression and coming off the antidepressant medication that he had been prescribed by his psychiatrist and taken for the past 10 years. He said that he wanted to find another way to live and to deal with whatever was the cause of his depression. He had read that, with a suitable psychotherapeutic approach, it may be possible to come out of depression.

Jeremy had a good job in the financial industry and a wife and young family. He said that he was frustrated by the fact that his depression was debilitating and made little sense to him, as his life was going well in many practical respects. During the discussion, it seemed that Jeremy had a fairly normal early life with his Mum and Dad and had done well in school and at university.

From a RCH perspective, as the issue of depression was chronic for Jeremy and may have had its roots both in his formative years and the family system, I worked with both his present experiences and his formative years, as well as his family system. I was interested in exploring Jeremy’s depressed EM state pertaining to his personal biography and also his connections to his family system. I used RCH in a range of specific EMI and FC techniques.

EMI was employed to identify and resolve disturbed EM states and FC to deal with systemic issues.

Firstly, I told Jeremy that, as a psychotherapist, I could not be responsible for him coming off his medication, as that was the responsibility of his psychiatrist or general practitioner (GP), but that I was happy to see what would happen through the process of facilitating the resolution of the underlying source of his depression. I told Jeremy that if the process assisted him in his recovery, he would be able to approach his psychiatrist with my business card and let him know that he wished to be weaned off the medication. (The business card was to allow the psychiatrist to contact me, if they wished to, about Jeremy’s therapy, support or progress.)

I used EMI techniques to facilitate the resolution of conflicts that had their source in the biography of Jeremy’s life and FC for those issues that related to his family-of-origin and former generations. After presenting his issue, I invited Jeremy to take part in an EMI process to assist in finding and resolving the source of his depressed EM state. This was done experientially and in a person-centred series of processes through locating the depressed EM state and facilitating its feelings and expression, and discovering its resolutions or solutions.

Session 1:

Even though Jeremy had stated that he had a good family history, through the EMI process, it was evident that there were major issues between Jeremy and his father and also with his mother, to some extent. For this reason, I facilitated FC processes over the course of the sessions, to assist him in finding his best resolutions for his connections to his parents and the family system.

As we had formed a good rapport at this point in the first session and he was highly motivated for change, I invited him to take part in the EMI process.

During the EMI process, while focussed on his depressed state, he said he felt numb. Jeremy found it very hard to feel any emotion or sensation in his body. He also found it difficult to visualise. I invited him to allow me to take him on a guided visualisation whereby he was encouraged to notice the sensations in his body. He said that he found guided visualisations difficult, as his awareness remained primarily in his head, for the most part. I asked him to practise what we had done in the guided exploration a few times each day for the forthcoming week, just so that he could get used to being in contact with his body and feelings.

Session 2:

Jeremy reported that he had found it difficult to focus on his body but, nevertheless, he felt that he was beginning to do so and had realised how cut off he was from his feelings and physical sensations.

I invited him to take part in an EMI process.

Through the process, the numb EM state was located and regressed to the first time it came into his life at the age of around six years. He was in the presence of his father who was berating him for some small misdemeanor.

Through the EMI process, we worked with the numb EM state and elicited other strong adult EM states to resolve the stress and vulnerability of the numb six-year-old state.

Through the EMI process, the numb EM state transformed into anger and then sadness. We continued to resolve the anger and sadness with a FC process and an image he had of his father before moving forward in his life to other times when such feelings were present.

A combination of RCH processes were used to accommodate further resolutions, which included an incident with a teacher and also with some bullies at school.

Session 3:

Jeremy reported feeling lighter, but still rather flat. We discussed the fact that he was on medication and how it might be difficult to decipher what truly was his emotional state from what was due to the effects of his medication. Nevertheless, I invited Jeremy to take part in an EMI process to explore his flat EM state. This state regressed to the age of approximately four years old when he was faced with a vision of his father who was extremely annoyed with him. The distressed EM state was so upset that it had decided that he couldn’t do anything to please his father and had given up. This became a flat state.

The EMI process proceeded to resolve the situation of the four-year-old flat EM state, with the support and guidance of appropriate adult EM states. During the process, the flat EM state transformed into a raged EM state. The EMI process guided the raged EM state to express its rage and to give the injustice, blame and shame that he felt from his father right back to him through a RCH process.

Finally, the healthy adult EM states were invited to look after the four-year-old state to continue to look after Jeremy’s best interests as an adult.

Session 4:

At the fourth session, Jeremy was a little disturbed by the feelings of anger that had continued to move through him in waves since the previous session. He spoke of his frustration with his helplessness; not only for himself, but also for the way his had father treated his mother.

In discussing what he knew of his father’s upbringing, Jeremy told me that his father’s Dad had died while he was a young child.

I invited Jeremy to do a RCH process, starting with a mind’s eye (visual) FC process. During the process, I invited Jeremy to imagine his father looking at his own mother and father. During this process, Jeremy said that he felt the deep longing and distress of his father towards the loss of his Dad.

In facing his father in his vision, I guided him through a FC process whereby the layers of anger, sadness and disappointment were appropriately expressed to the vision of his father. Then the newly expressed and empowered states were integrated into the personality of the healthy adult group of strong EM states of Jeremy, the man.

Session 5:

This RCH session was a combination of EMI and FC to introduce and confirm the connections that Jeremy had with the men in his family system. Following this, a process of integrating healthy EM states to the forefront of Jeremy’s personality was facilitated to assist him into the present in a more resilient manner.

Following this, Jeremy did indeed come off his medication, with the guidance of his psychiatrist, and I had a phone call from Jeremy a few weeks after the end of our sessions to tell me: I was walking during lunch time and noticed a fluttering feeling in my chest. It felt strange and then I realised that perhaps it was… happiness.

Analysis

In repressing his anger and sadness, Jeremy had repressed all of his emotions. In allowing his emotions to be released, Jeremy was able to gain access to a fuller emotional state, including happiness.

A cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) approach would have focussed primarily on his thinking processes. The source of Jeremy’s depression was his poor connections with the significant people in his life during his formative years. These would not have been addressed by focussing on his cognitions or current behaviour. The source of his depression lay in past highly emotional situations that he hadn’t been able to find a suitable solution for. He had repressed and unexpressed feelings of anger and disappointment that were too painful for him to deal with by himself. Simply raising awareness or assessing and analysing his thoughts around his resultant poor self-esteem and helplessness, without assisting him to resolve the source of his depression and emotions, would have likely been ineffective in finding the kind of resolutions that were obtained in the RCH process.

Jeremy’s issues were both individual and also systemic in nature. CBT does not address systemic or emotional issues directly.

The Humanistic Person-Centred Therapy (P-CT) approach would have focussed on the meanings that Jeremy drew from his situation.

While this approach may well have encouraged him to connect with his feelings, it lacks the structured pathways necessary to facilitate effective processing and expression.

In addition, while the person-centred approach does allow people to find their own solutions and make new meanings, the process may take considerable periods of time to assist them to come out of their depression. Jeremy’s issues were both individual and also systemic in nature. P-CT addresses personal issues and does not address systemic issues. The humanistic approach is experiential, but does not include a procedure for processing emotions, other than by talking about them, in the main. Furthermore, in its approach of staying in the ‘here and now’, much like CBT, it does not include the techniques and skills required to locate the source of an issue and lacks a solution-focussed stance.

Furthermore, it should be noted that Jeremy had entered into marriage in a depressed state. In making the choice to come out of his depression through the RCH process, he came out of his depression and became more present, motivated and assertive, which changed the dynamics of his relationship. Jeremy and his wife saw me for a few sessions after his recovery from depression, to help them find a new relationship dynamic that they could both accept. Until then, Jeremy’s wife had been used to making all the decisions in the family and was finding it challenging to have him wanting to be more involved.

The RCH Approach

Jeremy had created a disturbed and a flat EM state at the time of the confrontations with his father in his childhood. These states were numbness, through his suppression of anger and sadness, and also a feeling of helplessness through having given up. While he had given up, beneath the surface were suppressed rage, sadness and disappointment at not being able to reach his father and receive the love and support that he so longed for. While this did not stop him from moving on in life, in terms of his work and in forming his own family, it affected his mental health and, hence, the quality of his life significantly.

The RCH process was able to locate the disturbed EM states and begin the process of resolution.

The FC process was able to assist him to find a suitable resolution for