Single, Struggling, but Still Significant: With Bible Study

By Lexi Fitts

Are you still searching for that significant someone? That person who is supposed to be your other half?

Well, so am I, but I don’t feel overwhelmed about it, anymore—and neither should you!

In this book, I share God’s promises about who you are and who He is—and I’m talking to you single women. I want to help you discover who you are while you are waiting for that special someone to come along.

Be ready to find the answers to questions such as:

• How does the Lord feel about you?

• What do you do while you’re in this season of being single?

• What might be holding you back from a relationship?

If you have this book in your hands, that means we are in the same boat. Jesus is calling out to us. He is willing to help us get through this. Are you willing to jump out and swim to Him? I am. Let’s do it together.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: May 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9781664257177

Lexi Fitts

Lexi Fitts is from a small town in Oklahoma where she earned a degree in psychology. She has spent years working with youth and listening to women share heartbreaking stories about being hurt in relationships. Her goal is to share with women how much they are worth, especially in the eyes of God.

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ISBN: 978-1-6642-5718-4 (sc)

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ISBN: 978-1-6642-5717-7 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2022902613

WestBow Press rev. date: 04/29/2022

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 Purposely Created

Chapter 2 Broken

Chapter 3 Identifying You

Chapter 4 Defeating the Spirit of Comparison

Chapter 5 Defining Marriage

Chapter 6 Desiring Our Desires

Chapter 7 What We Let in Matters

Chapter 8 Contentment in Your Placement

Chapter 9 Yell, Scream, or Just Talk

Chapter 10 His Plan Is Greater

Epilogue

Introduction

Here you are beginning this book, possibly filled with some expectations. Maybe you picked this book to read because you are struggling with the same thing I am. The struggle of being … here comes the dirty word: single. Sigh. What a dirty word.

We have been searching and searching for a way to get through this never-ending time of being alone. Or maybe you just got out of a relationship you thought was it, and it turned out to be completely wrong. You may be heartbroken and want to know why you cannot seem to find your Mr. Right.

I am sorry to disappoint you, but I cannot give you the answers you are seeking. I have been there. I have picked up book after book, trying to figure out what I need to do to find my own husband.

I am writing this book as a still-struggling single person, but I am writing to share what Jesus has revealed to me during this difficult time.

I’m not an expert, but I come from the same place as you. Have you noticed that most books that cover being single are written by women who are married? Not just married but married at the time of the writing. Don’t get me wrong; I have read many books by amazing women who have really helped me discover things that Jesus has been trying to tell me. They are amazing books, and I highly recommend many of them. But the one thing these books always lack is what I am truly searching for: help. The real, down and dirty help I am asking for. These girls got their husbands. They get the privilege of writing from an everything-turned-out-okay point of view. I am writing to you from a still-waiting, when-is-he-coming, Jesus-is-it-time-yet point of view.

This book is going to contain some of the hardest stories of my life. God expects me to be completely open to you, completely vulnerable. Do not read my stories feeling sorry for me but rather be amazed by God’s saving grace, His abundant love, and His transforming power.

Throughout this book we will take a look at a lot of scripture, so that we can see God’s ideas and His intentions. All the scripture is taken from the New International Version Bible, unless otherwise stated. Using scripture is so important, because it helps us refocus our eyes onto God instead of ourselves.

I pray that as you read through these words I have typed out, you will hear what Jesus is trying to tell you. I told Him, before ever starting this book, that I would write it, but He had to provide the words. So as you read, skip over me and find Him, and along the way, you will find you.

If you have this book in your hands, that means we are in the same boat. Jesus is calling out to us. He is willing to help us get through this. Are you willing to jump out and swim to Him? I am. Let’s do it together.

Chapter One

Purposely Created

Let’s start by setting the stage. A little girl, five years old, is happy and innocent, sitting on the couch and watching a movie, practically any movie. Up comes the love scenes with the chemistry, the romance, and the kissing. A seed is planted. Repeat this until the sweet little five-year-old is now fourteen and starting high school. The tiny seed that was planted was watered over and over again and has grown into a tree that seems to take up her entire heart. She meets a boy, she falls for the boy, but the boy, being only fourteen and not knowing any better, breaks her heart. So she turns on more movies and continues watering that tree. She gets into more relationships that are not what she expected them to be, and now her heart is shattered into a hundred pieces. Now our little girl is an adult, broken and unsure of who she is.

This is a dramatic example of what many of us go through and why we try so hard to be loved by someone. Maybe it was not a movie; maybe you saw something in real life that planted the seed, or maybe it was a book. Regardless of the avenue that was taken, the seed was still planted and watered. Now we have women whose whole lives revolve around being in a relationship, women who don’t even know who they are. These women have so much to live for and give but instead are hiding in the shadow of another person because they could never see past the tree called romance that grew up in their hearts.

Girl, I am right there with you. I have romanticized romance too. I have been trapped in the scandal that Satan is trying to keep us in. I wasted so much time trying to find a husband that I forgot to find myself. Here I am now, taking time to figure out what God