How to Ninja Nicely: 30 Hacks to get what you want without being nasty

By Julie Fawcett

How to Ninja Nicely is a way of achieving personal and professional success without subterfuge. This is victory for nice people. It's a lesson in how to win by being ethical and approachable.

A short jargon-free book that brings effective people skills within reach of everyone, eve

• Language: English
• Publisher: 2QT Limited (Publishing)
• Release date: Apr 30, 2022
• ISBN: 9781914083563

Julie Fawcett

Julie Fawcett, one of the founding directors of the UK's first 24 hour online banking service egg.com and is now an exceptional coach, experienced psychologist and member of the British Psychological Society's clinical psychology and coaching divisions. She has been in thepeople business for over 30 years.

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Title Page

First eEdition published 2022

2QT LImited (Publishing)

North Yorkshire BD24 9BZ

Copyright © Julie Fawcett 2022

The right of Julie Fawcett to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted by her in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988

All rights reserved. This book is sold subject to the condition that no part of this book is to be reproduced, in any shape or form. Or by way of trade, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, be lent, re-sold, hired out or otherwise circulated in any form of binding or cover other than that in which it is published and without a similar condition, including this condition being imposed on the subsequent purchaser, without prior permission of the copyright holder.

Cover design by Charlotte Mouncey

eBook ISBN 978-1-914083-56-3

Paperback ISBN 978-1-914083-54-9

To my lovely Husband David and the Mini - Meads,

and the Moore family with love

‘and so it began’

Loretta Moore (1935–2019)

Acknowledgements

A huge thank you to Jenni Moulson who edited this book; for your patience, guidance, advice and humour – you made a significant difference to the end result .

Thanks to Fiona MacPherson who patiently typed lots and lots of drafts of the book.

Thank you to Robert Stuchbery, Jeanette Rooms, Ron Russell-Hobbs, Jane Routledge and Roger Ward, who were my readers and who provided great feedback that allowed me to pause, think and then rewrite.

A big thank you to the talented team at my publishers at 2QT Limited – in particular Catherine Cousins , Alison Birch and Charlotte Mouncey, who shaped the book into a reality .

Thanks to Rob Kendall and Mike Harris for their advice .

And finally …. a huge thanks to all my clients and coachees who inspired and challenged me in equal measure .

Contents

Preface

Introduction

Discovering Your Inner Ninja

Winning Without a Battle

Inspiring Others to Ninja Nicely

Avoiding Burnout

Section 1 - Discovering Your Inner Ninja

The Preparation Phase

Chapter 1 - Introducing Your Inner Confidence

Hack #1 Who Am I?

Hack #2 Showing Other People Who I Am

Hack #3 Values

Chapter 2 - Coping When Things Go Wrong

Hack #4 Fact Versus Fiction

Hack #5 Speaking to the Little Voice

Hack #6 Setting Yourself Free

Hack #7 Keeping Your Balance

Chapter 3 - Facing Change

Hack #8 Knowing Your Appeal

Hack #9 Emotional Decluttering

Hack #10 Changing Your Viewpoint

Section 2 - Winning Without a Battle

Chapter 4 - Getting Your Message Across

Hack #11 Latent Power Through Speech

Hack #12 Arriving in Style

Hack #13 Improving Your Presence

Chapter 5 - Handling Difficult People and Problems

Hack #14 Getting What You Want

Hack #15 Ninja Networking

Chapter 6 - Nicely Does It

Hack #16 Saying You Are Sorry

Hack #17 The Distancing Technique

Section 3 Inspiring Others to Ninja Nicely

Chapter 7 - Getting Your Message Across

Hack #18 Being Clear

Hack #19 Aligning Body with Message

Chapter 8 - The Nice Ninja Feeds Back

Hack #20 Giving Feedback

Hack #21 Actionable Feedback

Hack #22 Listening

Chapter 9 - It’s a Two-Way Thing

Hack #23 How We Listen and Speak More Effectively

Hack #24 Communicating Trust

Hack #25 Using Silence

Section 4 - Avoiding Burnout

Chapter 10 - When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

Hack #26 Wellness Wheel

Hack #27 Energy Units

Chapter 11 - Maintaining Your Equilibrium

Hack #28 Asking for Help

Hack #29 Checking in with Yourself

Chapter 12 - Building Resilience

Hack #30 Morning Pages

Bonus Hack - Letting Go at the End of the Day

Final Thoughts

Aide Memoir

Preface

This book sets out to create effective professionals by sharing the secrets of top flight development programmes and presenting them in a format that anyone can pick up and use themselves, whenever they need to deal with a tricky situation.

Each powerful bite-sized section targets a specific challenge and the techniques have all been fully tested in the real world and have proved to be enormously powerful.

Whether you use How to Ninja Nicely to fix issues as they crop up, or as a programme for improvement, you will ultimately tackle every aspect of personal development and transform the way you interact with those around you.

Introduction

‘Power is like love, easier to experience than to define or measure, but no less real for that.’ Joseph Nye Jr

It’s time to redefine how we deploy our personal power – to be strong, flexible, resilient, courageous, confident enough to speak out with authenticity and truth, and be a powerful influencer. This book is a counter to falling prey to victimhood. We all have the potential to change our modus operandi to achieve personal and professional goals without damaging those around us, and to create a culture and