True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper, and More Passionate (Becoming a True Power Couple)
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Wherever you are on the relationship spectrum—married, dating, or single—you can learn about love! Expert on love and relationship oracle Daphne Rose Kingma is here to help readers love more passionately.
Your go-to guide to healthy love. Love can come in many ways, and can be just as complex as it is beautiful. Relationship books for women and love gifts for men tend to focus on the end goal being something physical, but the best love stories end with something better than that—healthy love and tips to being a power couple. True Love is a spiritual love book that focuses on building the foundations of love and how to experience a healthy love within all of your relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself.
A warm and welcoming voice from an expert on love. Daphne Rose Kingma knows what it takes to experience deep love and how to become a real-life power couple. Her witty, poetic voice, recognizable from her frequent appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show, helps couples and individuals to embrace passionate marriages and deep relationships. Read her keys to creating sweet, healthy marriages and relationships right here!
Inside True Love, you’ll find:
- Over sixty insights for expanding your view on healthy love
- Instructions on how to be a true power couple from an expert on love
- A source for understanding love, relationship help, and how to give and receive love and respect, devotion, and more
If you enjoy love books—best sellers like The Naked Marriage, Married Roommates, or Modern Love, you’ll love True Love.
Daphne Rose Kingma
Dubbed the “The Love Doctor” by the San Francisco Chronicle, Daphne Rose Kingma is an emotional healer, spiritual guide, former psychotherapist, relationship expert, keynote speaker, and author. Her books have been translated into sixteen languages, selling over a million and a half copies. A frequent guest on Oprah and Charlie Rose, Kingma has appeared on various television and radio programs. A longtime resident of Santa Barbara, California, she is also a frequent workshop leader at Big Sur's prestigious Esalen Institute. www.daphnekingma.com
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True Love - Daphne Rose Kingma
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True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper, and More Passionate
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication number: 2021949476
ISBN: (print) 978-1-64250-903-8, (ebook) 978-1-64250-904-5
BISAC category code FAM029000, FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Love & Romance
Printed in the United States of America
For Dominique, whose true vocation is to love
None of these words would ever have been delivered
to the page without the loving encouragement and indefatigable effort of my editor-of-genius, Mary Jane Ryan, to whom I offer a garland of boundless thanks.
Contents
Foreword
Preface
Introduction
The Conditions of Love
Love Is a Process, Not a Destination
Everybody Needs More Love
Everybody’s Wounded: The Torn Ear Theory of Love
Everybody Has Circumstances
Your Sweetheart Isn’t You
Your Sweetheart Isn’t Psychic
Assumptions Are Dangerous to Your Love Life
Communication Is the Interpersonal Miracle
Communication Is a Revelation, Not a Contest
Relationships Have Seasons
The Practices of Love
Nourishing Your Loving Self
Love Yourself
Say What You Feel
Ask for What You Need
Be Emotionally Brave
Reveal What Makes You Feel Loved
Expose Your Secret Love Scenario
Go Easy on Yourself
Cherishing Your Beloved
Celebrate the Exceptional
Praise the Ordinary
Do the Extraordinary Ordinary Thing
Be a Person of Your Word
Criticize Only in Private
Do the Unexpected
Behave Yourself in Public
Shower Each Other with Kisses
Speak the Love Words
Say Please
Give More Gifts
Ask If You Can Help
Ask the Ridiculous Question
Listen for the Meaning Underneath the Words
Walk a Mile in Your Sweetheart’s Shoes
Say Thank You
Treasuring Your Relationship
Put Your Love on a Billboard
Commiserate with One Another
Negotiate the Mundane
Acknowledge the Hardships Your Circumstances Create
Keep in Touch
Take Intimate Time
Rekindle the Romance
Watch Your Tongue
Depart and Reunite with Loving Gestures
Fight the Good Fight
Leave the Kitchen Sink in the Kitchen
Remember the Early Days of Your Love
Be Willing to Make the Generous Gesture
Accentuate the Positive
Fluff Up the Ego of Your Love
Tie Up Your Emotional Loose Ends
Apologize, Apologize, Apologize
Play
Celebrate with Ceremonies
Reveal Your Fears
Share Your Dreams
Be Generous with Your Body
Trust One Another
Do It Again and Again and Again
The Transformations of Love
Console One Another
Forgive One Another
Acknowledge the Power of Language to Create Reality
Sanctify Your Relationship
Consecrate Your Relationship
Hold Each Other in the Light
Bow to the Mystery of Love
About the Author
Foreword
At twenty-five, I thought I knew a lot about love. After all, I’d been coupled up since I was eighteen. But then I met Daphne Rose Kingma and had the privilege of working with her on many books about love, and my relational abilities expanded exponentially. She is, I believe, the most loving person I have ever met, and her books are the wisest teachings on relationships I’ve ever read.
This one is my favorite. It distills in its sixty-five, two-page chapters all you need to improve your relationship, no matter its stage or state. Its seemingly simple format offers the profoundest insights into what we can do to have relationships that are, in the words of the subtitle, sweeter, deeper and more passionate.
At the time it was written, the most important lesson for me was Your Sweetheart isn’t Psychic.
Somehow I believed that if someone loved me, they would magically know what I wanted and how I felt without my having to say it. Boy was that a hard one for me to get over.
Looking through it now, after twenty-nine years of being with the same person, other lessons jump out. Like Depart and Reunite with Loving Gestures.
In such a long-term relationship, it’s so easy to take the other person’s coming and going for granted. But that’s exactly what we need to not do—take the other person for granted! Reading it again has inspired my husband and me to choose some practices that we’ll incorporate to keep our love fresh.
Overall, reading it after twenty years, I am deeply grateful for everything I learned in these pages. So much of it has become incorporated both into my being and into how my husband and I live our relationship.
As Daphne writes in this book, A relationship is always far more than we imagine or expect it to be. It is more than a living arrangement, more than being together in a social circumstance, more than the bright-colored kite tail of romance; it is the coming together of two persons whose spirits participate with one another, beautifully and painfully, in the inexorable process of their individual becoming. In this respect, relationships are like relentless grinding stones, polishing and refining us to the highest level of our radiance. It is this radiance that is the highest expression of love—this is why a relationship is a spiritual enterprise.
This teaching has been the cornerstone of my relationship and has gotten us through many conflicts and challenges with one another. I can truly say I doubt I would still be married if not for what I have learned from this book. May it similarly help you, however love manifests in your life.
—MJ Ryan
Preface
This little book is a prescription for true love: love that lasts, love that heals, love that transforms, love that brings inestimable joy. While there are many books that discuss the hidden psychological agendas in relationships and offer a variety of coping mechanisms, this is not my purpose here. Rather, I offer this book as a gift of nurturance and mending for your love, a course for encouraging the skills of loving. No matter who you are, you can enhance your relationship by incorporating these attitudes and behaviors.
You can read it from cover to cover or open it at random and read an entry a day. One particularly valuable way to use it is to pick an item and ask your mate to try to do that thing—for the day, for a week, for a month—while he or she does the same for you. Chances are you’ll both pick things you really need and getting what you want will greatly enhance the love between you.
Love flourishes only when we have psychologically prepared ourselves for it. Part I, The Conditions of Love, talks about this preparation, offering some of the knowings we must have in order to create a felicitous climate for love. These include insights that will change the way you view your relationship, what is possible in it, and the expectations you have for it. Part II, The Practices of Love, offers suggestions for gestures and actions which, if consciously performed, will ensure that the love you have planted will flourish and grow. It is divided into three sections: Nourishing Your Loving Self,
Cherishing Your Beloved,
and Treasuring Your Relationship,
because true love consists of taking care of yourself, the other person, and the relationship itself.
Finally, true love has a very high purpose. It is to deliver us—through the mirroring presence of the person who loves us—to the deepest reaches of ourselves, to a sense of the meaning of our lives and to a fulfillment of that purpose. Part III, The Transformations of Love, provides some ways to call upon the power of love to recast us into who we truly can be. This is the highest grace of love, its truest calling and its greatest work. It is in this capacity to love that we truly have the power to move mountains and to change the world.
Introduction
In each of us there is a tremendous longing for love. The love we desire is not only the euphoric butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling of new romance, but also the ineffable consolation of being deeply known, received,