Hands On Parenting In a Hands Off World

By Deedra Nichole

A book about parenting by a mom who has been there...

Deedra Hanekamp has had a parenting journey that spanned a divorce, single motherhood, and now happily remarried with a new child. This book on parenting is written from her personal experiences and her personal beliefs. Parenting is a personal journey, and we all have our own thoughts and views centered around it. This book was written to give insight into the personal parenting journey of Deedra. It is her hope that you find inspiration from her book and that it encourages you to never give up on your own personal parenting journey.

 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Deedra Nichole Editing
• Release date: Jan 1, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201677466

Deedra Nichole

Deedra Nichole has been writing poetry and fiction for many years. She started her writing career as a single mother of two daughters who loved writing stories and poems for her children. She is now remarried and has another daughter with her husband, Onas Hanekamp. Together they own Hanekamp Manor Bikes & Books which showcases their talents. Her husband does bicycle repair and their shop hosts artwork and books that Deedra has created over the years. Deedra is excited to be back behind the keyboard crafting new books her for her readers.

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Introduction

I started my parenting journey by having two children from a previous marriage. That marriage failed and left me as a single mother for most of my two older daughters' lives. I learned a lot of hard lessons through the years and waited a long time before even considering letting anyone close to me again.

It took one of my dear friends being in a tragic car wreck to change the course of my life. In going to her aid and trying to be part of her support network after her accident and the loss of her child, I found myself changing paths. God can bring good out of even the worst moments of our lives. It was in this time of darkness that I found myself at a new church. My husband was also brought for a season to that same church. Neither of us was looking to remarry and both had been struggling with the direction our lives would take.

I am grateful for God’s timing! I am now in a loving marriage and have another beautiful daughter to raise. My life looks very different then what I had thought it would. I am blessed beyond measure! I feel like I have been given a second chance to experience a healthy marriage and to have the loving support I missed out on before.

I struggled as a single mother to just make it from day to day. I found myself to be very lonely and it was hard to make decisions without anyone to get input from. I did it though. I didn’t date and I focused on my children and their needs. I wasn’t looking to make another mistake in my life.

People were supportive but also at times really cruel. I found that while I had a deep love of God and a willingness to serve him it didn’t protect me from the ridicule of the members of my faith. The gossip and the scrutiny were almost unbearable at times. Being a genuinely loving and kind person is hard when everyone thinks badly of you. You will always be treated awkwardly when you try to be kind to those around you after a failed marriage. Especially any of the opposite sex. You will always be thought to need a new husband even though that’s not what you are looking for. I often felt like a scarlet letter in the church pew. It did not matter that the broken marriage was not my fault or that I had been victimized by my ex-husband.

I waited eleven years in constant scrutiny and dark loneliness for God