Summary of Tracy Schorn's Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 The chump is the dullard whose inadequacies drove the cheater into another’s arms. The chump is the co-conspirator who Must Have Known and had some tacit arrangement with the cheater. The chump is the failure who wasn’t meeting the cheater’s needs.

#2 You don’t deserve to be cheated on. It’s not your fault that your partner is unhappy. The choices your cheater makes are 100 percent their own.

#3 Chump blame is the act of trivializing the pain and suffering that comes from being cheated on. It faults trusting and believing in the commitments made to you, and it makes you feel foolish for having loved someone so unrequitedly.

#4 The majority of infidelity resources promote the idea that you can save your marriage alone. They ignore the fact that many therapists still don’t understand how personality disorders affect relationships.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 17, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669364146

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Insights on Tracy Schorn's Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 13

Insights from Chapter 14

Insights from Chapter 15

Insights from Chapter 16

Insights from Chapter 17

Insights from Chapter 18

Insights from Chapter 19

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

I’m here to tell you that the pain is finite, and you will get to the other side. Many chumps have walked this path before you, and I’m one of them. I struggled to understand my cheater, how to parse the self-serving nonsense that came out of his mouth.

#2

There was no place that was saying, Leave the jerk. You’ll feel a lot better for it. And no one was pointing out an obvious, sad truth: You cannot save your marriage by yourself. You can’t control other people. You can only control yourself.

Insights from Chapter 2

#1

The chump is the dullard whose inadequacies drove the cheater into another’s arms. The chump is the co-conspirator who Must Have Known and had some tacit arrangement with the cheater. The chump is the failure who wasn’t meeting the cheater’s needs.

#2

You don’t deserve to be cheated on. It’s not your fault that your partner is unhappy. The choices your cheater makes are 100 percent their own.

#3

Chump blame is the act of trivializing the pain and suffering that comes from being cheated on. It faults trusting and believing in the commitments made to you, and it makes you feel foolish for having loved someone so unrequitedly.

#4

The majority of infidelity resources promote the idea that you can save your marriage alone. They ignore the fact that many therapists still