Transformational Relationships: How Positive Relationships Can Change Your Life

By Thomas S Klobucher

Transformational Relationships: How Positive Relationships Can Change Your Life

Transformation is the art of renewing your mind by discovering your own best self—and then helping others to renew their minds and discover their best selves. We cannot choose a transformational life. We can only live one! This is not a

• Language: English
• Publisher: Thomas Interior Systems, Inc
• Release date: Aug 1, 2016
• ISBN: 9780996260947

Thomas S Klobucher

About The Author: Thomas KLobucher! Thomas S. Klobucher, aka Tom, is a future based Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker and the CEO of Thomas Interior Systems, Inc., a Chicago area office planning and furnishings firm that he founded in 1977 with the corporate vision to "Improve The Office Work Environment". As a six-time winner of the Top Twenty Best Places To Work In Illinois, the Thomas team has advised and assisted well over 25,000 organizations through-out the Chicago area and the Midwest, in improving their office work environments by helping them to create great places to work for their people. Creating a great place to work is not just about buying office furniture, it is all about TRANSFORMATION. We are in the transformation business! Helping businesses and organizations to transform their workplaces into EPIC GREAT PLACES TO WORK. Engaged workplaces where the employees are number one! We help create a priceless collaborative environment where employees are fully engaged and happy, and always put the customer first! This is transformation! This is what we do! THE GREAT WORKPLACE REVOLUTION Tom's book, The Great Workplace Revolution, takes the reader through the twelve essential strategies for creating a great place to work, and provides the tools to better understand and leverage the unique giftedness of the five distinct workplace generations that will be working together in this most exciting decade. "First of all, I have to say that I LOVE THIS BOOK. I think it should be required reading for everybody who runs a company. It is so humane and sensible. It is engaging, clearly written, and smart. www.TheGreatWorkplaceRevolution.com THE GREAT WORKPLACE TRANSFORMATION The Great Workplace Transformation provides the tools businesses need to create great places to work while helping leaders understand how to accommodate the growing reality of multiple generations working side by side in the workplace. The practical, hands-on sequel to Klobucher's highly regarded 'Great Workplace Transformation' shows leaders, front-line employees, and everyone in the between how to wage "a revolution where everybody wins." The Great Workplace Transformation will help you "fast track your organization into a truly great place to work... help you hire and retain the most, creative, loyal, and growth-driven employees... and transform your workplace into a powerhouse that thrives during the most challenging and exciting multi-generational decade in history. www.TheGreatWorkplaceTransformation.com THE TAILOR'S SON Tom's Third Title is The Tailor's Son. THE TAILOR'S SON is an authentic American story on classic themes: father, son, and the healing power of belief. This book is a moving illustration of a loving look back at the perils of youth, the distance that can arise between father and son, and the potential for reconciliation and complete life direction change for the better. www.TheTailorsSon.com RETIREMENT: THE BEST IS YET TO COME! RETIREMENT: The Best is Yet To Come, provides us with "The Retirement Road-map for the time of your life." What is the secret to a successful retirement? Tom shares twenty-five BOLD STEPS to a happy, positive, fulfilled and engaged retirement. And why is this subject so important today? Staggering data on the consequences of 78 million Baby Boomers (those born between 1946 and 1964) who will be entering the rolls of retirement, over the next three to six years. Research shows that most of this age group has done little or no preparation, for this life changing event! www.Retirement-TheBestIsYetToCome.com TRANSFORMATIONAL RELATIONSHIPS. NEW RELEASE 2016 Discover Your Lifetime ADVANTAGE! This is a learning tool book for all generations that traces our positive Transformational Relationships from early childhood to our Senior years. It prepares us for our VERY BEST LIFE! Visit: www.TransformationalRelationships.in

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CHAPTER 1

The Anatomy of Transformation

Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.

—Francis of Assisi

The best possible life is not a transaction. It’s a transformation.

It’s that kind of life I have in mind for you as a reader of this book. Think for a moment about the exchange my friend had with his granddaughter. The default setting, the business-as-usual script, for their trip to the restaurant would have been for my friend to ignore the little girl’s bad mood or to try to correct it with instructions: Cheer up. Stop being such a sourpuss. What’s wrong with you today? And so on. Those would have been transactions, because his granddaughter would have disengaged quickly from them, and everyone present would have gone forward without any inkling of what was possible in terms of renewal, both of themselves and of others. The server would have come and gone, the bill would have been paid, and no one would have emerged having learned or experienced anything new.

That’s not a transformation—it is merely a transaction!

A transformational relationship is a relationship that leads with possibility and amazement—and uses possibility and amazement to help people to become their best selves, not their worst selves.

This is the anatomy of transformation. Amazement is all about possibility. Instead of lecturing his granddaughter with a stern face about the importance of smiling, my friend focused on the possibility inherent in the situation and did a little smiling himself: What would happen if…?

It’s important to make a conscious effort to build these kinds of questions and interactions into daily life. When life is a series of transactions, we may look at others as a commodity, and we may come to be looked at ourselves as disposable. On the other hand, if we are offering transformational ideas that will lead to great value for everyone involved, we are participating in a valuable relationship. This is the power of amazement and possibility.

Allow me to share with you three transformational tools.

THE FIRST TRANSFORMATIONAL TOOL: ASKING OTHERS QUESTIONS—WITH A GENUINE WILLINGNESS TO DISCOVER THE ANSWER TOGETHER

The door to amazement only opens to those who are willing to ask questions without preconception. (What would happen if…?) The path to becoming your best self starts with committing to become a lifetime learner and having an attitude of wonder and excitement as you interact with the giftedness and creativity inherent in yourself and others.

This, then, is the bedrock of all transformational relationships: A willingness to be surprised, to learn, to see new possibilities.

This openness to amazement gives us a lifelong advantage over those who do not sustain and support transformation!

And unfortunately, that’s the majority of the people we run into on a given day. So many people seem to be focused on what’s not working, what their limitations are, what makes them angry, and what makes life unworkable. By opening ourselves to amazement, we can create a major advantage in a world where most people don’t even see the gifts of possibility and amazement that are always in front of us.

Once we recognize this advantage and start using it to serve ourselves and others, it can become part of who we are for the rest of our lives, in all of our relationships and all of our undertakings. It starts with us being willing to be amazed!

If you are amazed at some new possibility in your life, you are, by definition, not