Good Grief: Processing Loss in the Midst of Chaos
By Pamela Evans and Bird Collier
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Loss is hard. Loss in the middle of a global pandemic, national unrest, war or otherwise chaotic circumstances can feel impossible to process. In this book, Pamela Evans has taken on that reality and charted a course that allows every individual to navigate towards their own sense of closure and peace amidst unprecedented loss. "Good grief is a
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Good Grief - Pamela Evans
Good Grief
Pamela Evans
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Disclaimer: This book includes a collection of inspiration, encouraging words, and suggestions based on the author’s personal experience. This book is not intended to represent professional psychology, psychiatry, counseling or therapy services. If you or someone you know is experiencing difficulty coping with loss or has had thoughts of self-harm or suicidal ideation please call the suicide prevention lifeline at 800-273-8255.
Bird House Publishing rev date 11/30/21
FOREWARD
The Covid-19 Pandemic was more than anyone could have expected when word of the virus first began trickling out. I had just begun work leading healthcare equity efforts in a major hospital system when the first surge descended on the Country. I have spent many years working in communities ravaged by poverty and lack of adequate grief counseling. Still, nothing prepared me for the sheer volume of almost universal grief that was ushered in as families were forced to separate completely from their sick, dead, and dying under the pandemic safety protocols. The basic human dignities and rites of passage to the next life that are the hallmarks of our civilization were restrained or refused for many families. Working closely with our chaplaincy teams and employee wellness we found ourselves in the trenches of grief from every side, serving as stand-ins for comfort that should have come from familial and community relationships. Personal loss also swiftly touched my own family and left me unmoored and devastated. In the midst of all of this, I was given the opportunity to serve as one of the early reviewers of this work by Pamela Evans. Reading these pages brought a sense of peace and comfort that can only come from the experience of knowing that someone really and truly understands what you are going through. In the words of Good Grief, I found my own experiences reflected and some of the questions I was still grappling with answered. It is truly a work of love, a light house standing in the storm, to guide you back to solid ground.
PROLOUGUE
My name is Pamela Evans. I am both fatherless and motherless. At 52 years old, I became an orphan. I wrote this book in the midst of one of the most painful times in my life. At a time when my heart was overwhelmed with grief, and I was in a dark place, full of pain and amid tragedy, I could not believe that God would give me a directive to write this book. I lost my mother less than one year after my father’s death and about a week before I began writing this book. I know that a countless number of people have lost their mothers and fathers. That’s a fact. But acknowledging that fact does not negate the pain I feel at this very moment.
Even as I wrote this book, many people reached out to me about their losses. Those contacts turned into a grief support group that I began hosting in-person and moderating online. As these exchanges increased, it became evident that the events, processes, and interactions that happen during grief are unique to every individual but walking through grief with others helped me grapple with my sorrow and established the sense of purpose from which this book was born.
It can be difficult to express the profound emotions that wash over you when coping with a loss. It can be even more difficult and complicated to try to express support for others that are grieving. So many times people do not reach out to support others that are grieving because they truly do not know what to say. It is my sincere hope that reading this book will allow you to become better equipped to handle both your grief as well as increase your ability to console those who are grieving. Use this book to help process your grief and return to it when you need inspiration, consoling, or help to find the right words to comfort a loved one.
Dedication
William D. Evans, my father
Clara M. Evans, my mother
Grace A. Robinson, my great aunt
Deborah Gorrell, my Philly mom
Poem: Complicated Grief
Sometimes grief hits you.
Sometimes grief grips you.
Rarely does it escape you.
Sometimes it covers you and saturates your soul.