The ABC of Compassionate Communication: 26 Steps to Improve your Compassion and Communication
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We communicate every day. Sometimes in subtle ways, sometimes in frighteningly revealing ways, mostly in different ways between. Often, we are misunderstood, or we interpret the messages incorrectly. Becoming aware of how, through understanding, we can send and receive those messages with compassion will make not only the lives of those we love
Susan Margaret Silcox
When you are born in Wales, the poem tells us, you are born privileged. Not with a silver spoon in your mouth, but with music in your blood, and with poetry in your soul. In Sue's case, a sense of fun also shines through the serious side of life. Sue's maternal grandmother had epilepsy and would be institutionalised for long periods at a time, frustrated that people would not listen to what she wanted to say. This is probably the origin of Sue's compassion and support. After discovering movement and dance in her senior years, Sue became an educator and trainer for the cutting-edge seated movement program, Ageless Grace®, bringing it to Australia in 2012 and New Zealand in 2015. Her energy, spontaneity and sense of fun are enjoyed not just by her grandchildren but the older population she engages with, many of them with cognitive challenges. Later, Sue brought the AGE-u-cate Training Institute programs to Australia, including the research-based Dementia Live® and Compassionate Touch® programs. These days, Sue revels in finding ways to empower those caring for our ageing population, including the challenges that dementia brings, through the aged care system, caregivers, and communities. Empty nesters, Sue and her husband are slaves to two ginger cats in Brisbane.
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The ABC of Compassionate Communication - Susan Margaret Silcox
How aware are you, firstly of your own self?
Self-awareness helps us find our strengths and it also allows us to work out where we need to improve. Self-reflecting on situations can show us where we match up to our own expectations and values.
Working on your self-awareness brings benefits not only to you but to those around you. Thinking about how you reacted with others brings awareness to your connections with others and ultimately makes you happier.
At quiet moments during the day, or just before sleep, spend time reflecting on what you did, or what others did.
But don’t just think about yourself. Become aware of what others feel by putting yourself in their situation. Rather than getting cross and irritated by someone’s slowness or inability to follow an instruction, think about reasons that could be happening to them. Take a moment to become aware that they might be lost or confused. Perhaps they can’t find the words to describe what they want. This is when your awareness of feelings can help someone have a better day.
When lying in bed or sitting in a chair, close your eyes and take yourself into your body. In this case you are going to imagine your hands, but you can (and should) try this with other parts of your body. Starting with the thumb, trace the outline of your open hand in your mind’s eye as though you had a long pencil from your brain that can draw around your hand. Imagine how it feels: does it tickle as the pencil gets in between the fingers? Is your hand hot or cold? If it’s hot, can you imagine it cold, or vice versa. What shape or size is it? Feel the veins and imagine the blood rushing through your hands. Imagine the connective tissue, like a net, stretching and relaxing as it encloses the tissues. Now imagine your hand touching someone else’s hand. What is it conveying? How would you use it to calm someone down? To tell someone you were there? To get someone to stop a repetitive action? To tell someone you loved them?
Next time you go into a shop, go to the information desk. When someone comes to help you, just look at them blankly. Hold that for, say, 15 seconds (it will feel a long time) and then say oh
and turn away. If possible have a friend watch the reaction from a distance.
The focused meditation will help increase your own awareness and the second will bring your awareness to how it feels not to be able to communicate.
As the control centre, our brain looks out for itself first and foremost, it seems compassion comes after our own needs. The safety instructions just before a plane takes off inform us that in the event of an emergency, you put on your own oxygen mask before looking after someone else. That’s a bit like our brain on empathy! You can only help someone else if you have looked after yourself first.
Nevertheless, our brains empathise when we see or read of suffering. An article in a book written in 1952 by psychotherapist Joseph Weiss, MD, shows that we cope through the stress and distress then, once it is over, we cry. Just think of those happy endings in the movies that have us sitting in our seats while we get ourselves back under control!
Dr Weiss suggests that