Journey's End: Part 1 Heartfelt Stories of Death and Dying
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In Journey's End, we write about death, dying, and end-of-life issues. We attempt to define and describe these real-life circumstances, and we discuss ways to proactively deal with them. Multiple personal and professional perspectives provide valuable insights.
What is dying like for the dying person, for loved ones, a
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Journey's End - Victoria Brewster
The Dying Individual’s Perspective
Death of a Spouse or Life Partner
When the Whole Is Split in Half
Elaine Mansfield
Finding a Way Through
Evelyne Banks
I’ll Be Yours if You’ll Be Mine
Cheryl Jones
Through Our Endings We Find New Beginnings
Jean Bota
Grief and Gratitude, Hand in Hand
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
Death of a Parent
Memories of My Father
Jordan Grumet, MD
Being-with My Dying Dad
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
My Father Loved Words!
Linda Darrah Reynolds
Multiple Losses
Jan Larsen-Fendt
A Teen’s Perspective on the Death of a Parent
Carol Brannan Marimpietri
Mom’s Story
Sue Rumack
Death of a Grandparent or Great-Grandparent
My Grandmother
Victoria Brewster
Did Your Dada Melt Like the Snowman?
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
Death of a Sibling
The Deaths of My Three Siblings: Loss without Answers and No Time to Heal
Anonymous Contributor
Death of a Child
We Would Have Died for You: The Journey of Bereaved Parents
Maria Kubitz
An Unspeakable Loss
John Brooks
Perspectives on Death and Dying
Elizabeth Gillman
Davey’s Story
Victoria Hargis
Death of a Grandchild
Silently Born
Pamela Christie
Death of an Infant or Unborn Child
Miscarriages, Infertility, Stillbirth
Victoria Brewster
Forever Parents: Reducing a Lifetime of Regrets, Sadness, and Emptiness after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Other Infant Deaths
Sherokee Ilse
When Part of Us Dies through Death by Choice
Keith Branson
A Child’s Perspective on Death
Death of a Friend
A Death Can Change a Life
Patty Burgess
A Broken Kaleidoscope
Mark Darrah
Death of a Friend in Childhood
Victoria Brewster
Death and the Blended Family
Josh and Ginger: Precious Days from Diagnosis till Death
Virginia Seno
A Tapestry of Dying Woven into the Fiber of Life
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
Violent Death and Lack of Knowledge or Resolution
Violent, Unresolved Death and Its Effects on Those Who Wonder
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
Jerry Died Two Years Ago and I Just Found Out Today
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
Physician Suicide
Professional Support and Caregiving Perspectives
Primary Care Physician-Internist
Intimacy
Jordan Grumet, MD
Hospice and Palliative Physicians
The Perspective of a Hospice Physician
John Shuster, MD
Finding Maria: Spiritual Care and Alzheimer’s Disease
Karen Wyatt, MD
Delivering the Bad News
Andrew Thurston, MD
A Nurse’s Perspective
Caring for Paul
Cynthia Cooper, RN
Hospital and Hospice Support Providers
Ministering Out of Empathy and Experience: I Am a Chaplain
Sheryl J. Nicholson
A Hospice Worker’s Perspective
Marcy Rosen Bernstein, LMSW
Peace Officer
You Can’t Cop Out: Death in the Line of Duty
Major Lynn Jones, Retired
Military Veteran
My Experiences of Dying and Living, War and Peace
Yosef Ben Avraham Yaacov
Discussion Questions: Food for Further Thought
Preface
Victoria Brewster
My educational background and training provided me with a good foundation for my professional path. I have a master’s of social work degree with a bachelor’s in sociology. I have worked as a case manager for twenty-one years and as a therapist for one and a half years. I also volunteered for six months before I found employment in Canada in the social services field. Helping others is my calling and has been for as long as I can remember.
As a professional who spent the past twenty years working with older adults, death, dying, and end-of-life issues come up. We will all die one day. We just do not know when. Many of us assume it is when we will be older,
but when you look around and see youth who are dying or diagnosed with cancer or other degenerative diseases and illnesses, you realize it can be anytime.
Soon more of the population worldwide will be in the sixty-five-plus demographic than the youth demographic. Is society prepared? Sadly, no. Services, health care, organizations, agencies, and businesses need to shift their focus to the older adults of our society, and we need to return to seeing seniors
as our mentors, advisors, and elders.
I have found this is not an area that all professionals want to delve into. If you are hesitating or find yourself uncomfortable with death and dying, perhaps the question to ask is why. Your religious affiliation, values, and morals may play a part in how you approach this topic, along with your own thoughts on the issue of death and dying. What has been your personal experience? Have you been exposed to a family member, friend, client, or patient that is dying, has died, or has been diagnosed as palliative? If yes, what was the experience like? How involved were you? Did you provide support to the client, friend, and/or family? Did you attend the funeral or other typical death rituals? What do you remember? How did you feel during and afterward? What did you learn or gain from the experience and/or involvement?
In listening to clients, I hear on a regular basis about the persistent pain they experience. They tell me it is difficult to be motivated, to be in a good mood, to do chores, or to leave the house or bed, for that matter. Sometimes individuals are taking strong pain prescriptions, in addition to a lengthy list of other medications causing serious side effects. Mobility is limited, and what is their quality of life? Some individuals verbally state they have had enough and they do not want to live anymore. These are issues of relevance to social workers, other mental health professionals, physicians, pharmacists, home care workers, companions, nurses, and other health care and mental health professionals, as we are often the frontline staff, to have regular interactions with the client/patient.
If a family member (should there be any) or a friend cannot provide this support to an individual that is dying or diagnosed as palliative, often it is expected that clergy will fulfill this need. If the person is not religious, they may need or want someone else to fill this role. This is a topic that will be further explored with comments and quotes from professionals and leaders in the most common religions.
My own exposure to death has been that of many extended family members, a friend’s child, colleagues, and many clients—too many to count. More will occur as I work with older adults regularly. While it is a part of life, at times it can be difficult. I want to see this issue become a part of life again that does not take place behind closed doors or in an institution. More discussions need to take place, more awareness, more advocacy, and more training for professionals, both made available and encouraged by employers.
I have come across many warm, dedicated professionals through social media and book reviews who feel the same way as I, and this is how I met Julie Saeger Nierenberg, when reviewing the book she wrote about the death of her father, along with the many individuals who have included their professional and personal perspectives within this book.
Preface
Julie Saeger Nierenberg
For some, the end is really a beginning.
In 2013, I published a short book about my father’s end of life. Writing was a natural and therapeutic outgrowth of coping with the great sadness, emptiness, and grief I felt in the weeks and months following his death.
To introduce my inspirational story to appropriate readers, I continuously reach out to those who have experienced the end of life of a loved one and to professionals who work with the dying, bereaved, or grieving individuals. In response, I receive many comments and stories from those who appreciate reading and being in dialogue about death and dying. I make connections with others whose hearts are grieving, with those who are growing forward
and integrating dying into their own life story.
Through that outreach, I met Victoria Brewster and immediately realized we were on a common path with a galvanizing vision to bring the topic of death and dying into a more accepted and acceptable perspective. As we discussed our intersecting intentions, this book was imagined and given life.
Why is writing a book on this topic important to me? Inspired equally by my professional backgrounds as a biomedical researcher and longtime educator, I value open and lively discussions based on interview and research findings, trends in health and wellness, and exciting new modalities of treatment and professional education. I believe it will be through such discussions that we will create new and more satisfying cultural paradigms within which we may live all the days of our lives with dignity and quality of care.
I imagine a time when people are comfortable to speak and write about death with confidence and ease, despite the inherent qualities of the unknown that surround it. I envision a time when everyone who needs help and support with grief will seek and find it, knowing they reach from a place of strength when they do so, not from weakness. Working closely with Victoria Brewster and many others in the field, I aim to contribute to such paradigms of possibility.
Our acknowledgments reflect many who advised and encouraged us along the way. To them, we are deeply grateful. There is no way we could possibly list the many openhearted individuals who share their own journeys with us and inspire us to bring this work to fruition. I wish to say to them, to each of you who participate in the dialogue about end-of-life issues, we are humbled and grateful for all you have done to inspire and support us as we ourselves grow forward and bring you valuable perspectives and insights.
I hope that our chapter and quotation selections serve as an invitation to you to be in conversation with us, and a growing number of others, on the topic of death, dying, and the end of life.
Acknowledgments
A special thank-you to all who inspired us, motivated us, challenged us, and nudged us in the direction of writing this book. If not for all the great discussions we came upon and participated in, and the willingness of professionals and laypeople to talk about death, dying, and the end of life, this book would not have come to fruition.
Introduction
In Journey’s End, we write about death, dying, and end-of-life issues. These are real-life circumstances. We attempt to define and describe them. We discuss ways to proactively deal with them. We view them from multiple perspectives: personal, professional, and societal.
We believe these perspectives provide valuable insights to assist any who may be in the process of grief or bereavement or who have a family member, friend, or colleague who has recently died or is currently palliative.
And to anyone training for, or working in, the many professions that support dying and bereaved individuals, we hope the varied perspectives we have gathered will be a valuable resource to you and your colleagues.
Quotes That Resonate
Ultimately each of us must come to terms with our mortality according to our own timing, whether that occurs early on in the journey of life or with our final breath. When we embrace our own physical impermanence we discover the truth that dying, in many different forms, is actually one of the change agents for life and makes transformation and growth possible. Thus our greatest fear in life is revealed to be our greatest impulse for creativity and transcendence.
—Karen Wyatt, MD
Apparently contemplating mortality—even when it is staring us in the face—is not the politically correct thing to do.
—Richard Wagner, MDiv, PhD, ACS,
The Amateur’s Guide to Death and Dying
Death is not an enemy. It is a creative disrupter. It is one of our most profound and valuable teachers. It is life-affirming. It is our gateway to meaningful and vigorous life.
—Rea Ginsberg, "The Bereavement
Counselor: Public Misconception"¹
Defining and Describing Death, Dying, and the End of Life
What might we expect? What is dying like for the dying person and for others who are companions to the process? The answer is, of course, that each experience will have unique qualities. Some compare the process of dying to that of birthing: everyone dies in his or her own way and on his or her own schedule, just as each baby is born in his or her own way. While it is useful to explore how the dying process may occur, it is not wise to make assumptions about how any particular death will unfold.
In 1986, Barbara Karnes, an award-winning hospice nurse, published a booklet that is known widely as The Hospice Blue Book. Revised in 2009, Gone from My Sight, the Dying Experience gently and simply explains what one may expect while watching someone die. Karnes’s explanations of dying from disease dispel the myths and fears that surround the process. She also stresses that each individual uniquely experiences death, and its signs cannot be universally predicted. Death may take minutes. It also may take months or years. Given these truths, Karnes does an excellent job of describing the dynamics of dying in terms that are easy for laypersons, caregivers, clinicians, loved ones, and even the dying themselves to understand. Karnes has also written other booklets that inform end-of-life caregivers, staffs, and volunteers. Her vast experience, spanning more than thirty years in the field of end-of-life care and education, makes her uniquely qualified to provide such materials.
Some dying persons are not able to comprehend what is happening while others are consciously processing each stage of their dying. When the self-knowledge of dying gains ground within a diseased and failing body, some begin to withdraw from the people and activities around them while others may become purposely intent on expressing their last thoughts, feelings, and wishes to loved ones. Their usual routines, activities, and past receptiveness to visiting company may all be withdrawn as the dying begin a process of separation from the world and all who live in it. Sleep time increases as the separation process continues behind closed eyelids, and the desire for human touch may replace other communication styles.
In Do People Know When They’re Dying?
Yumiko Sato writes from her experience as a music therapist working with terminally ill patients.² Sato notes that even those with impaired cognitive abilities seem to sense their approaching death.
Often tired of living, they declare their wish to die and later assert they are dying, as though sensing their approaching demise. Sato’s experiences with many dying patients lead her to conclude that dying people possess an inner knowledge of their own timetable for death. She calls this self-awareness the mystery of dying.
This inner wisdom often surprises those surrounding dying persons, especially as it is shared quite often with such a degree of clarity and certainty, even by persons with advanced dementia or young children. Some dying persons accept what they sense while others are not ready to embrace it. There are many stories of persons who died quite suddenly and accidentally and yet who seemed to leave a trail of goodbyes and acts of completion before their deaths. Other times, there are no signs of any premonitions or previous acts that would indicate foreknowledge. Sometimes the survivors are more in denial
than the ones who die.
Dying persons often describe their deceased relatives coming to greet them, or variations on that theme, and they may converse with the deceased. Even when they may not seem to have outward signs of imminent demise, many people sense their time and embrace the welcome
they are receiving as they leave their earthly bodies. They may become restless and reach upwards, talking to or about those who’ve previously passed.
Many who have been in various stages of lethargy or seemingly unreachable dementia have rallied to speak clearly or take some action relating to their imminent passing. There may be an energetic surge, with uncharacteristic lucidity, in the last hours or days of life, as the dying gather momentum to transition and to express themselves to loved ones before they pass on.
The phenomenon of near-death awareness (NDA) is one that many professionals who work in support of the dying describe again and again. Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, two hospice nurses with more than twenty years’ experience tending terminally ill patients, is a book that describes many examples of the NDA of patients of all ages. They communicate their needs, reveal their feelings and even choreograph their own final moments,
as shared by the authors. The book also contains practical advice to assist the dying to live fully until the end of life.³
When a person prepares to die, it is common and quite natural for the desire for food to stop. And this is often hard for others to accept. Dying people often express that nothing tastes good.
Though they may continue to want liquids, solid and hard-to-digest foods are no longer appetizing to them. Some want the option of refusal of sustenance as a means of hastening the inevitable end of life. Most caretakers are in agreement that this is a decision each dying person may make for himself or herself. Food is the fuel of life, and life is now coming to its end, so cessation of eating is quite natural.⁴
The closer a person draws to their time of death, the more physical signs are observable, though sometimes these may cyclically come and go. Cardiovascular changes, such as lower blood pressure and erratic pulse rate, may be some of the first indicators of impending death. Breathing also may veer wildly from its usual rate of approximately eighteen breaths per minute to as few as six or as many as fifty, especially during sleep, and it may become raspy
or sound congested. The skin may become sweaty and clammy, feverish and flushed, or cold and pale.⁵
As circulation becomes less efficient, pale or bluish extremities and pale yellow skin may be noticeable. Lack of oxygen in the circulating blood may produce restlessness, and as the time of death approaches, breathing may become more and more halted with pauses of several seconds and even a minute in length. The hands and feet often swell and begin to turn purple as blood pools there; the heart is not pumping sufficiently. The dying person’s eyes droop glassily, but may remain semi-open as they become unresponsive to environmental stimuli. Eventually, final breaths are taken, with long pauses in between. When breathing completely stops, this is death.⁶
Since different systems of the body will fail at different rates in each person depending on their disease diagnosis and unique progression, the general trends described above may vary widely from what is experienced by a particular individual. Rather than expecting any particular outcome, one may have an informed awareness and know what is quite natural and common to many death experiences.⁷
Considering the vast range of physical, emotional, and familial experiences that characterize death and dying, it may be prudent to assume and expect nothing in particular while familiarizing oneself with many possibilities. Even when someone has a lot of experience with death and dying, as many clinicians, caregivers, and support workers do, there is always a good chance that the unexpected will happen the next time. Following are some examples of divergent end-of-life contexts and circumstances:
A dying person may be lucid and conscious—even talkative, awake, and alert—until the moment of death. It is also very common for him or her to be unconscious or barely communicative.
A dying person may prefer to be alone rather than with others at his or her side while the opposite may also be true. In the former case, the individual may wait till others leave to pass while in the latter instance, he or she may wait till others arrive to die. Asking in advance is a good way to determine if there is a preference around others’ presence.
Family members often want to be present at the time of death, but sometimes this is not the case. When a loved one is asked and given a nonjudgmental opportunity to state their particular wishes, they appreciate that kind of support. Providing notification of impending death is not the same as pressuring someone to be present at that moment. Everyone has a different level of receptivity to being-with the dying as he or she transitions.
Some families will be supportive of one another at the time of a loved one’s death, and some won’t. It’s quite unrealistic to expect longstanding issues to be quickly resolved or set aside when someone is preparing to die, and making this assumption does not assist the dying or the family members who might not be in alignment about other life matters. Being sensitive and aware of these potential issues can contribute to the best dying experience for the individual facing the end of life.
Many in end-of-life caregiving professions affirm that the more they experience and observe the death and dying process, the more they become aware they do not know it all.
The conditions discussed above have the greatest relevance in cases of illness and worsening health that leads to death. Accidental and traumatically induced sudden deaths follow their own unique progression and are as individualized as the persons and circumstances involved.
Further Resources on Defining and Describing Death, Dying, and End of Life
New Guide Prepares People For Death Of Loved One.
Dying Matters. Mar. 26, 2015.⁸
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. Death: The Final Stage of Growth. Scribner, 1997.
Palliative and Hospice Care
I really like…making hospice a part of the continuum. I have worked in hospice since 1997. In some ways we have taken many steps forward in using hospice. Where we lack is in the initial conversation between patients and their physician. When I meet with a patient and their family, it’s apparent the discussion was awkward with their [primary care doctor] and they are not on board with the hospice program. Also, with the deterioration of health care, where patients are followed in the hospital by a hospitalist and not their physician, also causes further breakdown. These issues need to be addressed. It will be a better outcome for the patients, their families, and the health care community as a whole.
—Joyce Cymerint White, Community Liaison,
Care Dimensions Home Health and Reliance Hospice
I always say in my lectures that people need a Medical Friend
to tell them where they are in the map of life and to give them all of the options including hospice as the best care available in the last months of life. I continue to find it odd that I, as a stranger, as an emergency physician, might be the first person to have this conversation with patients and families of the very aged, frail or with an advanced terminal illness.
—Monica Williams-Murphy, MD
I often say in presentations about hospice or in training new volunteers to our hospice that helping the patient and his/her family find their own peace at the time of death is the goal and focus of everything we do in hospice.
—Steve Butler, DMin, ACC, bereavement coordinator, Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care
As a hospice social worker, it is important for people to know that hospice is about living. We can’t control the disease but we can allow our patients to remain in control to the very end. We can make whatever time is left the best that it can be.
—Robyn Callaway, MSW,
Oxford Home Care and Hospice
Palliative care focuses on the prevention of suffering, pain, and stress, especially in patients with a chronic illness. Persons living with neurological diseases, AIDS, dementia,⁹ kidney failure, heart and lung disease, or cancer are among those who benefit from palliative care at any stage of illness, not limiting such care to the most advanced stages of disease. Palliative medications and treatments relieve symptoms without curing an underlying cause or disease. Palliative care may also be called palliative medicine or comfort care, and it is just as appropriate for those under treatment for curable diseases as it is for those nearing the end of life.¹⁰
The World Health Organization defines palliative care as an approach that improves the quality of life of patients and their families facing the problems associated with life-threatening illness, through the prevention and relief of suffering by means of early identification and impeccable assessment and treatment of pain and other problems: physical, psychosocial and spiritual.
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Another definition is as follows: Palliative care is a specialty which focuses on caring for people with a life-limiting illness and their families. It not only aims to relieve physical symptoms such as pain, but it also ensures a person’s cultural, emotional, psychological, social, and spiritual needs are met. The aim of palliative care is to improve the person’s quality of life and that of their family. Palliative care provides access to bereavement support for the family after the death of the patient.
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Hospice care is palliative care delivered when the patient’s illness has progressed beyond the point of a curative treatment being successful, beneficial, or desirable. Hospice care supports patients and their families, relieves patients’ symptoms, and offers comfort. Medical treatments while on hospice support are limited and nonaggressive since a physician has certified that a hospice patient’s condition is terminal, generally with life expectancy of less than six months.
Common misconceptions about hospice may contribute to it being underused. These myths generally regard hospice