Beauty for Ashes: Memoir of a Traumatic Brain Injury Survivor
By Alexis Lee
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A short memoir packed with first-hand experience about a topic rarely discussed from the survivor's perspective, Beauty for Ashes: Memoir of a Traumatic Brain Injury Survivor shares my horrors and triumphs after sustaining a Traumatic Brain Injury from a motor vehicle accident during the most promising part of my life. While not entirely in
Alexis Lee
Alexis Lee is Traumatic Brain Injury Survivor dedicated to bringing awareness and compassion for other survivors and those supporting them. She is a College and University Graduate who established her career in the Criminal Justice system for 11 years. She also dedicated 12 years to supporting survivors of domestic abuse at her local women's shelter.Following her dreams and passion for the fashion industry, she become a businesswoman as a Personal Stylist eight months prior to the motor vehicle accident that changed her world. Loss of life as she knew it built faith, fortitude and positive approaches that transformed years of trauma into triumph.
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Beauty for Ashes - Alexis Lee
Acknowledgement
First and foremost, I want to thank God for blessing me with this opportunity to share my life-changing experience with you. With my whole heart I dedicate this memoir to all the brave ones who live moment to moment with the reality of a scar that no one else can see or comprehend, regardless of how much they love you. The ones who have to find unique ways to put life’s puzzle back together again—even if it means some of the pieces will never be replaced, or even fit at all. The caregivers, friends and loved ones who lace up your bootstraps to support and empower the person they once knew, the person who has changed… the person you’re re-learning and re-loving. Thank-you, and I love you.
The Center for Disease Control and Prevention defines a traumatic brain injury (TBI) as a disruption in the normal function of the brain that can be caused by a bump, blow, or jolt to the head, or penetrating head injury.
None of what I am about to share is a figment of my imagination; however, names have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals mentioned.
Dedication
A Tribute to My Irreplaceable Grandma
It is so hard to find the right words to use to talk about the person who saved my life, raised me, taught me about Jesus and initiated a lifelong relationship with my Abba. She spoiled me, always shared words of wisdom with me, always wanted the best for me and instilled a great yearning in me to be the best that I can be.
I never wanted to imagine that this day would come and now it is here. As the old saying goes, you taught me a lot, Grandma, but you never taught me how to live without you. I will try to go on, and I must, because it is what you would have wanted for me. I will forever keep your grace hidden in my heart. It is your tenacity that I have inherited and now I know why you had to be such an integral part of my journey.
My Ms. Ine was my friend, my first friend. I will forever miss her infectious laughter and breathtaking jokes.
I will love you always Ms. Ine.
The End and the Beginning
It is important to note from the very beginning that as part of the course of my diagnosis I cannot recall all the events in their entirety. Nonetheless, I am sharing what I can so you might grasp my experience in its raw state, by categorizing major areas of impact in my life as opposed to detailing it in chronological order. In addition, being mindful of readers with cognitive impairments from a traumatic brain injury, I have tried not to make this a lengthy read. If as an adult you have never had the experience of having to relearn how to write your name, have had your baby sister help you with grade three addition and subtraction, or have even struggled with the simple skill of remembering how to get home—be thankful.
Maybe you had immediate and exciting plans with your loved ones, or your life may have been luxurious and comfortable, before all of this happened. Are you a caregiver, or an ally of someone who now depends on you for support and other services? Our lived experiences are unique; however, the beauty is in a shared sense of knowing how it feels. We may be diverse in culture, socioeconomic status, gender, or even political views but nevertheless, we all need compassion, love and understanding—especially during trauma and tragedy. Whatever the position you find yourself in while reading this book, ask yourself: what does compassion look like? If you have been diagnosed with a Traumatic Brain Injury, or are supporting someone who has, how can you be present and positive? I know, I know—I’m on the other side of recovery and probably sound as perky as a pigtailed camp counsellor, but I’ve learned that these are essential to pushing ahead with recovery, friend. Why, you may ask? Because, quite simply, as meaningless and innocent as a sigh may seem when you’ve been asked to help someone for the thirtieth time in a day, or are telling yourself that there is nothing to look forward to now in life, the truth is that this would be as productive as trying to push a door open that says pull.
Friend, I am praying that what I have to share will give you a sense of belonging and hope, to push back against the loneliness and isolation that comes with this condition. I want to spark positivity in you, which will make you feel like you can do this and feel a sense of relief that someone knows what it is like to have your whole world pulled right out from under your feet. I want you to know that you are not alone in your feelings of frustration and, at times, confusion. In essence, I want to speak life to you, I want to speak life into your situation, which you might feel is either dead or dying.
I am not going to say that I totally understand your lived experience, because our experiences are as unique as the fingerprints on our pinkies; therefore, what may not be an inconvenience to me might be the complete opposite for you. Maybe not being able to cook your own meals looks like a good excuse to get away from the kitchen for you, but for me it may mean I can’t control how much gravy is going on my potatoes. What I will say is this: you have an ally. You have someone who may not know your name, face or number, but I do know pain and I do know loss and despair. I have experienced the invisible injury that no one is able to see, but that is judged based on its manifestations or lack thereof.
I am about to share with you my lived experience with a Traumatic Brain Injury (truthfully, I don’t even want to capitalize the darn thing, but oh well). The trauma of losing my life as I knew it, losing relationships, experiencing isolation, and being treated like an invalid by so-called medical professionals sent me into an abyss of depression that no one should ever endure. But, most importantly, you will see my relationship with Christ (my Abba) blossom, from knowing Him as a dreadful and terrible God… to my Deliverer and Friend.
My Journey
I am an honors graduate; I went to college and university and thoroughly enjoyed all of my studies. For twelve years I worked in the court system, and for thirteen at a women’s shelter assisting survivors of abuse. I grew up with my paternal