Five Simple Rules: Christian Guide to Dating

By Ellen T. Reed

If you’re a man looking to attract a nice, Christian woman for a lifelong relationship—or if you’re a woman struggling to find an authentic partner—you need Five Simple Rules.

Ellen T. Reed, a certified transformational life coach, reflects on personal experiences and shares observations to help men and women attract the right partner.

Her lessons reveal how to make your relationship endure through even the most difficult conversations. Get answers to questions such as:

• How do you really romance a woman?

• When is the right time to introduce intimacy into a relationship?

• How can you focus on someone’s depth of personality instead of looks?

• How should you view online dating sites?

The author also focuses on bolstering communication skills, how to determine if you’re compatible, and how to decide if you’re ready to date in the first place.

At the end of the book, you’ll know how to find the right partner and keep your relationship blooming from the first date through years of marriage.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: May 19, 2021
• ISBN: 9781664231672

Ellen T. Reed

Ellen T. Reed is a certified transformational life coach whose mission is to help young families improve communication significantly. She seeks to help people enrich their lives on a personal level and works with families to help each family support their member’s passions and dreams through positive language.

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FIVE SIMPLE RULES

Ellen T. Reed

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owe tremendous gratitude to my two girlfriends who read and inspired me to follow through with this endeavor. They read the book with consumer’s eyes to see if it would serve the public in the manner intended. To my life coach client: I could not have accurately inserted the appropriate passages that correlate with my lessons without your research and religious guidance. Though I am highly spiritual, you have provided me with your in-depth knowledge of scripture according to the New International and English Standard Bible Versions.

I dedicate this book to my friend, who once posted a picture of a book’s extra-large volume to understand women. No, there are just Five Simple Rules to utilize to find your best spiritual mate.

CONTENTS

Introduction

ONE

The Purpose for a Christian Dating Guide

TWO

Rule 1—Understand: True Beauty Lies Deep Below the Skin

THREE

Rule 2—Learn: The Fine Art of Communication

FOUR

Rule 3—Follow: Smart Money Management

FIVE

Rule 4—Become: Physically, Emotionally, and Legally Ready to Date

Six

Rule 5—Be Active!!

Epilogue

Afterword

Endnotes

My Dating Journal

INTRODUCTION

Dear Readers,

I have chosen a spiritual author name for my pen name for two reasons. First, I believe the name Ellen Reed best defines my nature. Ellen means bright shining light according to the English meaning, and it is my shortened version of Simply Elegant. Reed is a notable name in my English heritage that I would like remembered.

The second reason is to protect the anonymity of the men I have chosen to use in my anecdotes. My stories serve as pointed lessons, not grievances against these men. I have a great friendship with two of them to this day, which I choose not to jeopardize. It is not my intent to harm them publicly but to help men and women analyze this type of person and decide whether they wish to spend their lives together before they exchange their I dos. I want to help them and others learn how to behave in a more Christian way. If I were to be requested to speak for the book publicly, I will go by my pen name and continue to leave out their names.

Specific anecdotes were chosen because of their high relevance. Scriptures add a deeper study into the spiritual lessons behind each rule. All accounts are actual experiences.

This book is easily adaptable to both men and women as spiritual believers. While writing this book, I realized how valuable this book would be for an Adulting 101 resource guide for college graduates. This book will impact their behavior as they search for a suitable individual they will marry. I wish I had a guidebook like this before saying yes to my college boyfriend’s proposal. However, if I had, we would never have had our wonderful daughters.

I’m grateful that we can learn from the best and worst of our relationships. I have forgiven each of these men, and I am thankful for the lessons I learned from my experiences with them. They have made me realize my personal needs when searching for a Christian soul mate.

Respectfully Yours,

Ellen Reed

One

THE PURPOSE FOR A

CHRISTIAN DATING GUIDE

I am a modern woman. I appreciate technology, especially video chatting with my daughters living over two thousand miles away. I enjoy using numerous apps to find the best-priced airline tickets to see them several times a year. I am simply old-fashioned when it comes to dating through technology.

To make my point of comparison, I need to go back in time—about fifty years before technology ruled our lives and we carried our phones in