The Winning Father

By Dr. T.I.M. Jooste

“The Winning Father” wants to focus on the great need for fathers to be real men in a time where the absent parent syndrome is so crucial and domestic violence is on the increase, world-wide . Genuine fathers in every sense of the word are urgently needed in our day. Men who are real, leaders, providers, men who are concerned and involved in the upbringing process of their children, but especially leaders and examples to their children. Several important research statistics are being brought forward in “The Winning Father” and at the end several proposals are made to fathers in general but also to the Government of South Africa to support them in their search for answers for the alarming escalation of violence against women and children. Fathers all over the world can benefit from the information shared in this book. Fathers need to be educated to be fathers in a “father hunger” world.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Sep 13, 2020
• ISBN: 9781665580175

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CONTENTS

Preface

Introduction

1 Winning as a Father

2 Types of Fathers per Definition

3 Things To Remember About Dads.

4 The Real Winning Father

5 Biblical Perspectives On A Father

6 The Different Roles Of A Father And A Mother In

7 Father Hunger.

8 Fathers in South Africa

9 A Father Is A Child’s Greatest Admirer And Audience.

10 The Crucial Role Of The Father

11 Roles The Father Play

12 Theories

13 The Good News For Fathers Who Failed Along The Way

14 Statistics In General

15 More Stats

16 Southern Africa Statistics

17 The Million Dollar, No Rather A Billion Dollar Question

18 Suggestions

Sources

Books

PREFACE

The 16 days of activism to focus on the abuse of women and children in South Africa come and go every year. These days are marked by national, provincial and local marches and speeches against these horrible phenomena. Nevertheless, the abuse of women and children increases every year.

The foundation of the argument of this booklet is that the focus of these days should be changed. The focus on crimes against women and children should be on men – specifically on fathers. This should be the case because it is a well known fact that most crimes against women and children occurs in the confines of the home, where the father should be in charge.

Therefore the aim of this booklet is to start the debate on changing the way we father our children in South Africa. The premises of this booklet is that many of the men officiating in our homes as fathers (where they are absent or even present), are B-R-O-K-E-N men that needs R-E-P-A-I-Ring. (More about the R-E-P-A-I-R the B-R-O-K-EN counseling program where every letter serves as an acronym follows later on).

There are B-arriers, they experience R-ejection, they are O-ffended, K-nocked-out, E-motional drained and Negatively focused. For this reason they need repairing in their R-elationships, E-nthusiasm, Personalities, and taught to A-ccept personal responsibility with Integrity followed by the necessity to R-epent and turn to reconsider a normal, balanced God honoring lifestyle.

To attain this, the author started R-E-P-A-I-R the B-R-O-K-E-N as a counselling service to repair and retrain fathers, mothers and children in the practice of Biblical living. The dream is to train qualified R-E-PA-I-R the B-R-O-K-E-N counselors to thus start a movement to uproot the problem of crimes against women and children – by putting the focus on the fathers. Even the legal system can benefit from this initiative.

Family life in South Africa but also all around the world is in big trouble. The emergency signals are being activated on a 24-hour basis from the troubled ships in the stormy seas of family life. The home, the school, the church, the courts, the crime statistics, the everincreasing suicidal attempts, drug laundering, teenage pregnancies, school dropouts and many other factors confirm this truth: The family is in trouble and if there is going to be done something about it, it must be done very soon before it is too late. These facts addressed a longfelt need I had, to write a few notes on the crucial role of fathers in our society. In a relevant meeting earlier this year by interested parties,