Thanks for the Memories: My Journey with Alzheimer’s as a Caregiver to My Mother
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With the wisdom of one who has been there, Mrs. Roth relates a wealth of information on the “multiplied effects” of memory loss and the caregiver’s role, as experienced through her own mother’s care. Her no-nonsense explanations offer encouragement and support as she reveals that such care can become positive experience when approached with patience, understanding, and faith in God. By realistically depicting what to expect and offering tips on handling difficult situations, Roth’s dual personal/practical approach makes this a valuable tool for those facing an Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
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Thanks for the Memories - M. Joanne Roth
© 2019 M. Joanne Roth. All rights reserved.
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Scripture quotations marked NKJV are taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Published by AuthorHouse 02/15/2019
ISBN: 978-1-7283-0044-3 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-7283-0043-6 (hc)
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Contents
Dedication
Foreword
Introduction
Chapter 1 Early Warning Signs
Chapter 2 Attitude Adjustments
Chapter 3 The Pilgrimage Begins
Chapter 4 Historical Snapshots
Chapter 5 The Downhill Journey
Chapter 6 Overview Of Coping Skills
Chapter 7 Transition To An Alzheimer’s Care Center
Chapter 8 Involvement With The Care Center
Chapter 9 Retirement And Relocation
Chapter 10 Home On The Colville Indian
Chapter 11 Ministry In Disguise
Chapter 12 Scientific Data
References
Epilog
Dedication
To my husband, Neil, who lovingly supported me through this journey, and to our daughter, Laurie, and son, Edward, who backed me with prayer and encouragement.
Foreword
There are many books outlining Alzheimer’s with a scientific-biological explanation. The real treasure in this work by Joanne Roth is the reflection into the emotional-spiritual journey experienced by the Alzheimer’s patient and the caretaker.
Memories are created as a result of life’s experiences. We make decisions and plan our actions based on memories. Because the Alzheimer’s patient has great difficulty with short-term memory, the individual’s actions are no longer triggered by a recognition of his/her surroundings or relationships but rather by emotions––usually fear and frustration. Can you imagine trying to muddle your way through a new and unknown place or task, not just once a day, but all day––every day? Picture the impact on relationships. Can you journey spiritually through such troublesome days?
With this insightful look into the daily encounter with Alzheimer’s, Joanne Roth’s perspective and discernment probe these questions. This emotional-spiritual viewpoint is refreshing and very relevant in developing a fuller picture of the process we call Alzheimer’s disease.
ANDREW CASTRODALE, M.D.
Family Practice
Grand Coulee, Washington
Introduction
To come home from shopping to find your home engulfed in flames would be a terrifying experience. The horror of that scene would intensify if you knew the fire department was unable to get a loved one out to safety. To go to the beach and watch a storm crash onto the rocks would be exhilarating until one of the waves unexpectedly swept over the top of you. Exhilaration would then turn to terror.
What if you discover you are losing your memory and your loss is accelerating to a point where basic needs are no longer able to be met? Everyday decisions gradually turn into living nightmares. Why can’t I figure out how to pay my bills? Why do I get lost so easily? Why is what used to be familiar so foreign now?
This ever-changing pattern creates the worst panic of all, not only for yourself but also for those looking on.
How many times are we faced with being out of control where some other force seems to take over and render us helpless? For the Christian, it might seem that God is not listening, is not aware of our needs, or just plain doesn’t care. Where is God when adversity strikes? Can we trust His promises in all situations? Can He bring blessing out of chaos? Even senility?
Paul states in Philippians 4:19: And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
How can this verse be reconciled with a disease such as Alzheimer’s, where the brain is destroyed little by little until the individual becomes completely dependent on another person for his/her thoughts and survival? What is left to bring praise to the Lord when you have been reduced to only involuntary responses that might exhibit profanity or hostility? These are some of the difficult questions my heart wrestled with as I began to lose my mother, Hetty Weatherby, memory by memory.
This book is written to address these issues and to show God’s love, grace, and mercy continually at work, regardless of life’s deepest problems. It is also written to share my walk with God as a caregiver to my mother as she deteriorated with Alzheimer’s disease. It is a praise to our wonderful, loving Lord in spite of this tragedy.
May you be inspired to let go of your seemingly impossible circumstances and let God show His power and love to you. He is always faithful and wants to bless those who love Him.
Chapter One
Early Warning Signs
It was early fall in 1987 when we received our first clue that something was wrong with Mom. We did not take it too seriously at the time, thinking it was just a one-time difficulty.
My husband, Neil, was pastoring a church in Langdon, North Dakota, and my time was divided between church work, mental health counseling, and teaching a number of piano students. Our two children were grown and on their own, so there were just the two of us. My father passed away in 1975, having suffered many years from asthma, pulmonary emphysema, and parkinsonism.
Mom remarried in 1979, but a few years later, her second husband, Xena, developed parkinsonism also. The two of them resided in Walla Walla, Washington, where she cared for him. It was during this time that we received a phone call from her that Xena had taken a bath and she did not know how to get him out of the bathtub. It seemed humorous to us at the time that she would call us in North