Forgotten: Loving Those We’Ve Left Behind
By Tom Ervin
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Does love permeate your life?
Do you feel as close to family members as you should? Do you feel you are making a real difference in your community with your life? All these issues are explored in depth with hard-hitting real-life examples of people who are excelling in all the relationships of their lives. Specific proven tips are given on how you can build a lasting bond with your significant other, your children, siblings, and parents.
Just as important is the life-changing impact you will make on those suffering from poverty and neglect right in your own community. Tom, through his own experiences, shows you how to leave a better world for your children and grandchildren.
Tom Ervin
Tom Ervin This is his ninth non-fiction book. He and his wife of 53 years have extensive life experiences building a loving family and loving those struggling in the poverty ridden inner city of Detroit. He and Nancy have six children and nineteen grandchildren.
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Forgotten - Tom Ervin
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Contents
Nancy
My Premise
Loving People We Know
Loving Yourself
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
The Evil of Egomania
Romantic Love
How to Keep the Romance Alive
Unconditional Love
Loving Family Members
Loving People We Don’t Know
The Story of Alan Turing
Forgotten Flowers on Detroit Streets
Forgotten Flowers on the Battlefield
Forgotten Flowers in Inner-City Schools
Coping Skills (A Survival Story)
Building Walls
Single Parents
The Elderly
Veterans
Is There a Forgotten Flower You Will Help?
People You Know
People You Don’t Know
How Can You Love the Forgotten Flowers?
Your Decision
To Nancy
Thanks for all your love, patience, and support these fifty-three years!
Nancy
Before we begin, I want to introduce my wife, Nancy. After fifty-three years of marriage, I have learned about the countless ways she has enriched my life and, frankly, the lives of everyone she meets. Because she is mentioned in this book and has contributed to its content, I want you to meet her.
It happened on the day after Thanksgiving in 1962, when I was twenty-two and she was twenty-one. I was a senior at the University of Detroit, majoring in marketing, and she was a junior at Marygrove College, a women’s college, majoring in economics. We had both, unknowingly, been invited by our respective professors to attend a career day being offered by the owner of Hudson’s Department Store for those seeking business careers.
About forty students from various colleges in the Detroit area were gathered in the store’s auditorium for a presentation on the merits of a career at Hudson’s. After the presentation, we were taken on a tour of the store and its many departments. It was then that I saw her walking about twenty feet ahead of me. She was wearing a bright red dress and heels. On the front of her dress was a series of little heart-shaped black buttons. She was tall and had an attractive way of walking. To top it off, she had a beautiful face, with blue eyes and a little chin that dipped downward. At first glance, she was a knockout! I couldn’t take my eyes off her throughout the tour, which lasted about a half hour. Later, she told me that she had spotted me also and wanted to attract me, even though she’d thought I needed a haircut. Well, she didn’t just attract me. She owned me!
After the tour, we had lunch in the cafeteria. When I looked for her, I was happy to see she had a seat available next to her. We talked all through lunch, and I learned where she went school and where she lived. Her name was Nancy, and her dad was the police chief in a neighboring suburb not far from my house. I know you won’t believe this, but after lunch, we both went our separate ways without my getting her last name and phone number. Two days later, I had the bright idea that I would call her dad’s police station and ask for her last name and phone number! When the police dispatcher answered my call, I explained that I had just met Nancy and wanted to take her out on a date but needed her last name and phone number. She replied, Oh, that’s our Nancy!
She then proceeded to give me the missing information. (You and I know that couldn’t happen today.) When I called her and told her I was Tom Ervin, who met her at Hudson’s, she said, Yes, I remember!
We were married twenty months later, after I had enlisted in the Navy reserves and she had graduated. As the years went by, our family grew to six children. Nancy gave birth to four boys, and we adopted two girls. We also brought nine other children into our home, each of whom stayed with us up to a year until being adopted through various adoption agencies. As you will see later on in this book, we also became quite involved with children in Detroit’s inner city. Everything we did, we did together.
We started eight different businesses, including a very successful publishing business that Nancy created and managed for many years. That company paid for