Higher Vibrations for a Healthy, Happy and Harmonious Relationship: How to Connect with and Sustain a Fulfilling Relationship

By Brian Withers

Have you been searching for Mr. or Ms. Right, or have you been in a recurring pattern of unsuccessful relationships or relationships ending in hurt and pain? Are you enduring a seemingly loveless, unsatisfying relationship or an up-and-down relationship? Are you experiencing a relationship that is mediocre or more of a habit than a joyful and fun experience? Are you staying in it because of the kids, the finances, fear of being left out or on your own, or some reason other than fun and enjoyment? Or are you tentative about starting a relationship for the first time? If so, Higher Vibrations for a Happy, Healthy and Harmonious Relationship will show you what must happen for you to connect with the fulfilling relationship you are after. You have actually already asked for it, and it is absolutely waiting for you. To bring it into your experience is simply a matter of understanding what you are doing to hold yourself away from it and what you must change to allow it in.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Sep 1, 2017
• ISBN: 9781504381604

Brian Withers

Brian Withers ha dedicado más de 25 años a investigar, estudiar y escribir material de empoderamiento personal y autodescubrimiento. También es entrenador certificado de Salud y Bienestar con especialidad en Empoderamiento Personal y practicante certificado de Sanación Energética. Brian reside en la comunidad de Lakeville en la provincia de Nueva Escocia, Canadá.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Module 1 – Preparing the foundation for a happy, healthy and harmonious relationship

1.   Understanding Why We Don’t Get The Happily Ever After Relationship

2.   The Foundation Of A Healthy, Happy And Harmonious Relationship

Module 2 – Attracting and connecting with the relationship you desire

1.   Knowing The Qualities Of Your Ideal Mate

2.   Allowing Your Ideal Mate To Show Up

3.   How Do I Know This Is My Ideal Mate

•   Meeting Your Potential Dream Partner

•   The Discovery Process

•   Four Elements To Pay Special Attention To

•   Beliefs And Communication

•   Helping The Other Be The Best They Can Be

•   The Discovery Trail

•   Getting The Gold And Living The Gold.

•   The Relationship Bank Account

Module 3 – Maintaining a healthy, happy and harmonious relationship

1.   The Factors That Keep The Relationship Fresh And New

2.   The Factors That Cause Relationship Erosion

3.   The Antidote To The Factors Of Relationship Erosion

4.   Summary

Appendix A – Reaching For And Maintaining A High Vibration

Appendix B – Testing For Faulty Beliefs

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to

1) Anyone who dreams of a completely satisfying and fulfilling relationship but has yet to find a way to experience it. There is a way.

2) Anyone that wonders if it is possible to have a completely satisfying and fulfilling relationship. There is.

Whether you are currently in a relationship, have never had a relationship, have had one or more relationships that have not worked out and are considering another relationship, or given up hope on relationships, this book will restore your belief that it is possible to have the relationship of your dreams and it will show you how you can experience it.

EPIGRAPH

I have a dream where people will not allow circumstances or unfounded, limiting, inaccurate or faulty beliefs to dictate their life; they will intentionally create the circumstances they desire for their life.

Brian Withers

ABOUT THE WRITING OF THIS BOOK

My reason for writing this book is best explained by referring to my first book. My first book was highly influenced by what I had come to realize after over 25 years of searching for the cause of what happens in our life and how much influence we have over that cause. What I came to realize is that our education is simply missing critical pieces of knowledge about who we truly are as human beings and that severely disables us from living the life we came here to live – a life of joy, abundance, health, happiness, and harmony.

Once I came to this realization, I also realized that there was not a book that I came across that really gave people a solid means by which to take on this knowledge and learn how to apply it in every day life, so I wrote the book Higher Vibration for Health, Happiness and Harmony which includes a 20 week program to show a person how to take charge of their life from an energy perspective. Taking charge of your life from an energy perspective is of course much easier and more effective than attempting to do that otherwise.

After the writing of that book, which shows us who we really are and how to connect with our power to be the intentional creator of our reality that we came here to be, it occurred to me, there was another missing piece. How do we maintain our effectiveness as the creator of our reality and at the same time attract and sustain a relationship with another who is also unique, creative, intelligent and dynamic just like us. Again I had not seen a book that really helped people understand the knowledge and know how that is really needed to attract and sustain that dream relationship so this book came to be. It is written in a similar fashion in that there are questions to really hit home the understanding of the material and exercises to help achieve the desired relationship.

In both cases, both books are more than simply a nice read that leaves you feeling good. Both books are written with the intention to be life time users guides and references to keep you in touch with your true self and therefore your power and therefore your partner.

By the time you finish reading this book you will have a very clear understanding of how to attract and sustain your ideal relationship. As I said about my first book, I can guarantee that if you read it and do what is in it you will become the intentional creator of your reality, what I cannot guarantee is if you will do the work. The same applies to this book. Both of these books include applying what you learn to get the results you want.

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Although I have put the words of this book to paper, I want to acknowledge that it was the larger part of me that manifested these words within my conscious mind. We all have a larger part of our self that we co create with, and we do it in every moment. So in terms of co creating; this book was not given to me independently or independently thought up by the larger part of me, the birth of the desire for this book came from my personal life experiences along with the experiences I observed in the lives of others. Those experiences caused me to ask for a better way to connect with a person, a way that would enable us both to enjoy a rich, rewarding and fulfilling relationship. A life that flowed easily, peacefully and joyfully; equally for both of us.

From this asking, the larger part of me put the ideas and words together and inspired me to write them. This is the way life is, not only with manifesting a relationship, but with anything we want to be, do or have. Life causes us to ask and the larger part of us orchestrates the details. The law of attraction then brings us together with those details provided we match the vibration, that is what enables us to realize our dreams and desires. Further, I want to add that we were given the ability to dream because we have the ability to make dreams come true. Dreams and imaginations are not just happenings in a child’s mind or playful things to be dismissed as wouldn’t it be nice, they are faculties of the human mind that allow us to be the co creator of our reality. The dreams and desires we have, we have them because there is a call for them, there is a demand for them. What you have a passion to give and / or express, others want to receive, but again, to receive, one must be in the receiving mode which simply means maintaining a high vibration. Not only is this an acknowledgement for the creative intelligence that is this universe and within each of us, but it is also an expression of gratitude for this creative intelligence that we are all apart of, a creative intelligence that holds steady on and guides us to our desires for a fulfilling life in all ways.

A large part of this book had been written when I met Lisa. We actually used this process in bringing our lives together and what was interesting is that in our relationship coming together, it brought some additional details and realizations to light that are necessary for connecting with and sustaining a desired relationship. I want to acknowledge Lisa for her input, her support and really being part of building this process. Our life together has made this a more effective book. As you will see, connecting with another for your ideal relationship experience is one thing, sustaining it is another. You will need to understand the components of each to really achieve that ideal relationship experience that you desire.

Lastly I want to acknowledge all of the people, circumstances and resources that have been and continue to be part of the realization of my dream to help people understand and apply their personal power to be the deliberate creator of their reality; not only to manifest their dream relationship but all of their dreams.

INTRODUCTION

We have all heard of the happily ever after stories, but why do those stories seem to be so illusive? Why do our relationship dreams so often get shattered or simply turn mediocre, tolerable or even just bearable? This is what you will come to understand from reading this book. More important, you will gain an understanding of what it takes to cause that relationship of your dreams to come into your experience and how to sustain it in a healthy, happy and harmonious way; just like it was when it was fresh and new.

How do we cause the relationship of our dreams to come into our life, and sustain it? There are 5 steps to the process. The first is self alignment, and to really understand this and therefore get the benefit of this book, I highly recommend that you first read my book called Higher Vibrations for Health, Happiness and Harmony or at least have read and understood material concerning your energy nature along with the law of vibration and attraction. Briefly, the law is this; everything in the physical world is a unique frequency of energy, including people. As humans, not only is our body a frequency of energy, but our feelings are also unique frequencies of energy called vibrations. We have the power to choose our feelings and therefore we have the power to choose the frequency of vibration we offer. The frequency that we offer will cause an equal frequency to be attracted to us. When we offer a high vibration we attract those things that we want because they are a high vibration. How do we know this? We know this because in the thought of having what we want, we feel good; we feel joy, fun, excitement etc., which are all high vibrations. So, to allow the attraction of what we want, such as a relationship, we must choose present moment thoughts (regardless of what is going on around us) to induce a high vibration, this makes us a vibrational match to what we want. When our dominant, present moment, vibration matches the vibration of what we want, the law of attraction brings us together with it. It figures out all of the details to connect us with our desired relationship (or anything we want for that matter).

Embracing the truth about who you are as a vibrational being and therefore, the power you possess to attract the relationship you desire, is essential to bringing that relationship into your physical life experience. Again, it is the first step that enables and empowers you to connect with that dream relationship; taking charge of your vibration. Once you do this then you are ready for step 2.

Step 2 is to identify what constitutes a great life for you, that is, how do you like to spend your days. What kind of home feels good, job, activities, fitness, food, friends, car, social events, self time, family etc. The thing is, to know this, you have to know that you can be, do and have what you desire, otherwise you will settle for things that you think you can have instead of allowing yourself to have what you want. When you resolve yourself to living with things that really don’t fulfill you, you either, from time to time, try to figure out how to get those things or find surrogates to fill the void. In either case that leaves you on a wobbly path of action and focus, and that makes it a challenge to maintain a solid connection with another as the connection points are constantly changing. They may have a pleasing connection with you in your current direction but not so much once you go off in another direction. This is why self alignment is the first step. It is what is needed to effectively enable this 2nd step and the following steps. When you are at peace with your self and your journey, because you know what you want is unfolding throughout your life, you are very stable and therefore easy to connect with and sustain that connection.

Step 3, once you identify what constitutes a great life for you, you are ready to identify the qualities of your ideal mate in a way that matches the life style that brings you joy and meshes with your dreams and desires. You don’t want to make someone into what you want them to be, you want to like them for who they are and have them like you for who you are. When this happens it remains fun and easy as both people maintain their individuality without giving up anything that is important to them and at the same time share life with this partner in a way that is what both consider a fun and enjoyable life. You could think of it as two people taking their road through life as they desire and it just happens to be parallel to the road of this other person. How easy, fun and enjoyable would that be!

Step 4, after identifying the relationship vision, it turns to allowing this ideal partner to come into your life easily and effortlessly through attraction of vibrations and inspired action rather than through figuring it out and forced action. This figuring out and making things happen of course does not work very well as you will see throughout this book and simply by the general results you can see happening in relationships. When we allow the law of attraction to bring us together with our ideal mate, it turns out just as we have asked, and on a fun journey to that meeting.

Step 5, once you come face to face with a person who has really moved you, appealed to you and you to they then the discovery process comes into play to determine if they really are the one. Our conscious mind can tend to jump to conclusions and skip some of the real important details to get at those short term points of feel good, but you need those details to really know if the suitability is there. In your high vibration you will meet lots of other high vibration people that are very nice to interact with, but only one will be the real match for you. So you want to eliminate the trial and error and what comes with that by using your prework to really see if it fits.

This discovery process is really a win win situation. If you look at the process as working together to determine if you have the suitability, you either do or you just have gotten clearer about what you do want and both people can carry on to attract that ideal mate. The thing is there can’t be a loser because you are the creator of your reality. You can have what you want, no one holds your future in their hands except you. You can’t be rejected, no one can take your joy away except you and you simply can’t be left out unless you choose to be. This is why understanding who you are as a vibrational being is so important, it is your solid foundation of certainty to have what you want, and that allows you to be at ease with the process. It is this feeling of ease, along with anticipation and enthusiasm, these are the high vibrations that allow your ideal relationship to manifest.

Two other very important items that play into the discovery process are beliefs and communication. Even when all other things line up, these two items, if not understood, can derail a blossoming or full blown relationship. They will be covered thoroughly in the discovery process.

After you go through the discovery process and each person decides that yes indeed, this is the mate for me then there is the matter of keeping it fresh, fun and exciting. If both people were authentic in the discovery process this will be easy, if not, there could be bumps and breakups. In fact the work done in the discovery process can also be used as a check-in tool throughout the relationship to make sure both people are feeling the level of fun, enjoyment and suitability that was realized at that time. Without the check-in, people can, little by little, get lazy, sloppy or careless with their attentiveness to the other and start to unknowingly drift apart. So in addition to the check-in, in the final Module of the book is a list of erosionary factors to watch out for and antidotes for them. Keeping the relationship fresh and new also requires that faulty beliefs continue to be worked on together and effective communication continues to be practised and polished throughout the relationship or those two things alone could cause the relationship to come crumbling down.

If the process to connect with your ideal mate is completed as laid out in this book and the points to keep it fresh and new are tended to then you will simply experience an ongoing healthy, happy and harmonious relationship.

You can start to get an idea from what you just read why relationships break down. In fact you start to wonder why they last at all given our lack of education on the dynamics of attracting and sustaining an ideal relationship. Here is a summary of the reasons for breakdown.

1) We don’t clearly know ourselves:

who we are as a vibrational being

what constitutes a good life for us

This means we are a moving target in terms of achieving alignment within ourselves. As we move to more closely connect with who we are; find our joy, our vibration changes as well