Eleven Simple Keys to Being the Best Dad You Can Be
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An adventure that I started in my mid-20s, and my experience of being a single dad into my 30s & as I am about to enter my 40s, this book was written over a course of 7 years and is a culmination based on my observations in my younger years, and what I have been doing to be the best dad I can possibly be for my daughter for over a decade. If you are about to become a dad, or you have been wondering about how to be a good dad, and actually want to be one of the few, yet have no clue what to do nor where to begin, read it, follow it - then bask in the pure joy of being a Dad.
Dominic Nueno Reyes
Born in 1977 to a single mother. Father-figure enters my life when I am 2 years old and raises me as if I was his own offspring. I am soon blessed with a half-sister in 1984, but then she is taken away from me by a catastrophic death in 1990. Even at the young age of 14, I knew I wanted to be a father. I seemed to have a natural knack for taking care of kids, usually being left in-charge of babysitting my younger cousins. Blessed in 2003 with a beautiful daughter. Divorced in 2006, and I have been a single dad ever since, and I am not exaggerating when I say that I love every single moment of it. I would have to say that being a single dad gave me even more drive and more focus to be the best dad I can be to my daughter.
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Eleven Simple Keys to Being the Best Dad You Can Be - Dominic Nueno Reyes
© 2016 Dominic Reyes. All rights reserved.
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Published by AuthorHouse 02/18/2016
ISBN: 978-1-5049-7795-1 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-5049-7797-5 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2016901980
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Chapters
Chapter 1
Love is not true love, unless it is unconditional
I.1 Love Them
I.2 Encourage them…
I.3 Separate Nurturing, from Smothering
I.4 They are Their Own Person
I.5 8 Important DON’Ts:
I.6 Prioritize them
Chapter 2
Tell them that you love them. ALL THE TIME!!
II.1 No excuses, No explanations
II.2 Change your lineage
II.3 From Fathers to Sons
II.4 Important DONT’s
Chapter 3
Hug… A Lot
III.1 What is a hug
III.2 When to hug
III.3 One day, YOU will need hugs too…
III.4 More benefits to hugging — the science behind hugs
III.5 Important things to remember about hugging
Chapter 4
Be Proud of Them!! … no matter what
IV.1 What to do
IV.2 Story time
IV.3 Important DONT’s
Chapter 5a
Be Involved!!
Va.1 Be in the know!!
Va.2 Good, Better, BEST practices
Va.3 What to do
Va.4 Support them
Va.5 Story time
Va.6 Designate Wednesday Nights as FAMILY NIGHT
Va.7 Check on them ALWAYS
Va.8 Serious Talks
Va.9 SIDENOTEs:
Chapter 5b
Involve Them!!
Vb.1 What to do
Vb.2 Story time
Vb.3 Important DONT’s
Vb.4 SIDENOTEs:
Chapter 6
Be Mindful of Your Actions ~ Always…
VI.1 Children idolize their parents.
VI.2 When you have a child, your life isn’t our own anymore
VI.3 Watch not just what you say, but how you say it
VI.4 Be patient with them
VI.5 Build their trust in you.
Chapter 7
Make Promises… Only if You Intend to Keep Them!!
VII.1 What are promises
VII.2 Once you make a promise
VII.3 Loss of Trust
VII.4 SIDENOTEs:
Chapter 8
Be Stern, But Fair
VIII.1 YOU ARE THE PARENT
VIII.2 How temper tantrums and spoiled brats develop
VIII.3 Saying NO!!
VIII.4 BE CONSISTENT
VIII.5 BUST OUT YOUR BUD NIPPER and NIP IT
AT THE BUD!!!
VIII.6 <<<< ~ BALANCE ~ >>>>
VIII.7 Giving them a HEADSUP
VIII.8 Important DON’Ts!!
VIII.9
Chapter 9
Do Not Spoil Them!!!
IX.1 It’s natural to want to spoil them
IX.2 Story time
IX.3 Make them EARN IT!!
IX.4 Me-Me-Me
Chapter 10
Be Goofy!!
X.1 Laughing
X.2 Don’t embarrass them
X.3 SIDENOTEs~
Chapter 11
Respect Them
XI.1 Respect them as a person
XI.2 Respect their privacy
XI.3 Respect their decisions
XI.4 Respect their time
XI.5 Respect them as a person and accept that they will grow up
XI.6 SIDENOTEs~
Prologue
Before we get started, just a little background info about me & why I wrote this book.
My childhood and upbringing was not a typical one. I was born out of wedlock in the late70s, which back then was extremely frowned upon, most especially in a conservative Catholic country in Asia the Philippines. For the first two years of my existence, my mom being the strong independent woman that she is, did the best that she could to raise me all on her own. Then when I was two years old, she met my stepdad who raised me as if I was his own child. Growing up, I never referred to him as my stepdad though. Not back then, & not now 30+ years later.
My Dad was an executive of a hotel franchise, and I remember that everybody looked up to him, both figuratively and literally. He stood 6ft tall smack dab in the middle of South East Asia, where the average height of a fully grown male is about 5ft5. He was, and still is, a very hard working man, a great provider, a corny joke teller, but he was & is always there for me when I need him.
I was told that I was a quiet kid, but as far as I can remember, I did a lot of observing. What people said, how people acted, how they say what they say, & why they did what they did. One thing that really piqued my interest though was why parents, not just some, but all parents seemingly undergo a Jekyll-to-Hyde metamorphosis when they are around their friends, as compared to how they are when they are around their kids. When adults are around their friends, they are Dr. Jekyll
happier, always laughing out loud all boisterous, drinking up a storm, talking all loudly. And then immediately shushing each other and whispering and quick side-glancing eyes as soon as a child is within earshot. They would spell out words that I already knew the spelling of, mostly bad words. They would whisper the end part of the jokes which I somewhat knew for sure were good punchlines, but for some reason the adults would always say That’s So Bad!
but were laughing hysterically as they said it.
And then as soon as the kids were within eavesdropping distance, then they transform into a Mr. Hyde
especially the way they talk to them, ordering them to finish their food, constantly telling them to be careful, always grouchy with a very stern, impatient tone. Basically the parents/adults became all dead serious, impatient, & un-fun.
One of my earliest memories was when I was about 5 years old, I overheard some adults chatting, and they were asking my parents how they were able to raise such a disciplined, polite and obedient young boy (HEY! I was 5, I didn’t say this was yesterday). I tried to listen more intently, but they saw my ears perk up and so they huddled up & started mumbling amongst themselves, like a football team seeing a member of the other team close-by.
At such a young age, I suddenly felt as if my world as I knew it was flipped upside down. Up until that point in my young life, I thought ALL PARENTS knew what they were doing. I was under the impression that ALL PARENTS raised their kids the exact same uniform way. That there was a standard pattern. That ALL PARENTS had been bequeathed the proper knowledge of how to raise their kids, that somewhere in Grownup World
which I