ABC of Marriage

By Lauretta Ogbum and Johnson Ogbum

C Johnson Ogbum: engineer, certified security professional with passion for exemplary leadership and quality relationship that starts from home.

Lauretta Ogbum: a certified life coach and therapist: serves as the lead coach for the Activator coaching academy. Johnson and Lauretta are strong advocates for marital bliss and they have strong desire to see
individuals and couples thrive in their marriage & RELATIONSHIP.

They have been married for two decades and are blessed with three teenage boys. Their marriage counseling experience started over fifteen years ago and they operate from Port Harcourt. Nigeria..

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lauretta and Johnson Ogbum
• Release date: Dec 10, 2020
• ISBN: 9781005765606

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The ABC of Marriage

An alphabetical guide to activating bliss in your marriage.

Copyright © 2021 Lauretta and Johnson Ogbum

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without prior written permission of the publisher, except in the cases of brief quotations cited in reviews and specific other non-commercial uses permitted by copyright law.

Table of Content

Title Page

Copyright page

Introduction

A

B

C

D

E

F

G

H

I

J

K

L

M

N

O

P

Q

R

S

T

U

V

W

X

Y

Z

Introduction

As with anything worthwhile in life, success requires hard work. Whether you are about starting a business, raising a teenager or making your first million, there is an indispensable place for hard work, if you must succeed. This is also true about healthy marriage relationships. Just as this truth applies to all human endeavours, all of life is governed by laws and principles. Marriage also has laws and principles that if adhered to, will guarantee success and bliss.

The world and the media are awash with admonitions regarding what not to do. Subtly, these admonitions keep our minds preoccupied with only what we aren’t doing right. We probably feel like failures already for doing almost everything incorrectly. Because of this, our minds, being incapable of processing negatives optimally, are reminded incessantly of what to avoid. However, what we need are more of truths, success stories, and guidance in the right direction (towards what to do). With such, our minds have positive stuff to dwell on and our marital efforts become fruitful.

The complexity of the marriage equation can only be solved by two individuals who are deliberate in working together as a unit—even the best of men or women working alone will utterly fail. Unfortunately, yesterday’s success does not guarantee today’s. This book serves as a guide and provides time-tested principles for a successful married life, all applicable in the now. In this simple alphabetical guide, we share timeless nuggets that have shaped our twenty-year marital journey together. We highlight things that have worked for us and landmines to watch out for. Written in an easy-to-read and enjoyable format, ABC of Marriage provides foundation principles on which you and other couples can build enviable marital structures that will stand the test of time.

As you internalize these things, they will become engraved in your subconscious. You will start doing them gradually, and your marriage will become the better for it.

Let’s do this!

A

Accept Each Other

The 80/20 relationship theory states that you can only get about 80% of your wants and needs from a healthy relationship. Contrary to the fantasies and expectations that you may have, it is a way of saying that your partner will not be 100% what you want. (They are most likely already all you need. There’s a difference.)

To accept each other in this sense means to react favourably to each other. When we are married, we need to accept our partner for who they are, not who we want them to be. We must not focus on what we wish they had. We should rather be thankful for the things that make them who they are, accepting them as they are and not wanting them