How to Clean up Your Life When the $#!+ Hits the Fan: Superior Self 2.0
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How to Clean Up Your Life When the $#!+ Hits the Fan identifies how, why, and where we got mentally stuck in the first place, and then shares with the reader that we may utilize past trauma and drama as a springboard to becoming our most authentic, vibrant selves. Humans have always had struggles, yet the species continues not only to exist, but thrive! This book takes us from despair to repair. The reader will learn how to lose the baggage and blame once and for all.
Each chapter chronicles stories from the authors life experiences as a human and as a wellness coach. The reader is exposed to varying degrees of challenges, and the reactions that has either kept the individuals emotionally paralyzed, or not. There are DO THIS exercises in every chapter that are written, role play, or movement oriented. They relate directly to the type of trauma or challenge exposed in the examples.
For those who are already healthy and strong in their whole being, this book feeds their cravings to learn more. There are tips and tricks in this book that the reader can use in order to muster up mental courage when making life choices. Landis second book in the Superior Self series provides resources for the reader to further their journey to their own superior self.
KJ Landis BS Ed
KJ Landis, BS, Ed, lives in San Francisco, where she hosts wellness workshops monthly at bookstores, libraries, senior centers, and upscale food boutiques. Landis is a highly sought after life and wellness coach. She loves hot yoga, hiking, and creating meals worth writing about with her husband and two children. www.superiorselfwithkjlandis.com
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How to Clean up Your Life When the $#!+ Hits the Fan - KJ Landis BS Ed
Copyright © 2016 KJ Landis, BS, Ed.
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The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.
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ISBN: 978-1-5043-5359-5 (sc)
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Balboa Press rev. date: 04/04/2016
Endorsements
For readers seeking to retool their life, KJ Landis offers soulful direction and encouragement. Whether you are under normal stress or suffering from tragedy, there is healing within yourselves. As a hospice and bereavement professional, I see tremendous value in utilizing these stories and techniques for personal thriving after loss.
~Tracie Pyers, MSW, Medical Social Worker, Mission Hospice and Home Care
"KJ Landis’ new book is compelling, with varied exercises in each chapter to help the reader work through their problems and reach positive solutions to life’s challenges (workplace issues, sexual trauma, loss of loved ones, etc.). I found many of the exercises thought-provoking and so varied in style that anyone should be able to find at least one to match his or her comfort level.
She concludes her book by saying it is a testimony to Positive Psychology, and challenges us to use the information she provides to help us get unstuck, and then a natural flow will be available when new challenges arise. Indeed, this book serves as a bridge between real people with real problems, and real hope."
~Pat Madden, MPH, Social Scientist Research Coordinator, Stanford University School of Medicine
"If you ever wanted a wise coach to whisper in your ear, to cheer you up when things went wrong, here’s the book for you! Superior Self 2.0 engages the reader with a personal touch, well researched strategies, and stories that inspire—a true companion book on the road of your life—that you’ll return to again and again."
~Kate Farrell, Librarian, Author, Storyteller, President, Women’s National Book Association, San Francisco Chapter
"Inspirational, entertaining, and heartfelt. Three great ways to describe KJ Landis’ latest book. In the beginning, KJ states, I do not have a perfect life, but I do have a beautiful life. You do too. This really gets the reader thinking about the positive aspects we all can choose to focus on. With each chapter, you feel as if KJ is cheering you on to greater things. She is motivating you to become your Superior Self through realistic situations and real world exercises that can be implemented at your leisure.
KJ truly does want each of us to reach for our superior selves, and it is evident through her inspirational, fun, and heartfelt tone. Do yourself a favor, reach for your Superior Self, and have author and life coach KJ Landis help you along your journey. You will not regret it."
~Suzie Roth, MLS, Research Librarian/Instructional Services Coordinator, Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University
"KJ Landis shows exhilarating enthusiasm for sharing how to drop destructive choices and habits, and then fully prepares the reader with healthier replacements.
Her stories, exercises, and suggestions combine good sense, warmth, wisdom, and up-to-date approaches to optimum living."
~Melissa Riley, Self-Healing Program Coordinator, Reference Librarian, Public Library
Having as many tools as possible in our toolbox is essential for good mental health. KJ’s book is one of those tools. She provides healthy mental exercises anyone can utilize when dealing with stressful issues and challenges that life can throw at us.
~Kendra Coyle, LSW, Former Social Worker at Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, Pittsburgh, PA
Dedicated to the elders in my tribe:
Hilda & Myron
Leota & Gary
Joseph & Mavis
and of course,
I would be nothing without my loves:
Torino, Golden, & Sage
We are as happy as we make up our minds to be.
~Abraham Lincoln
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
~Maya Angelou
Contents
Endorsements
Foreword
Preface
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Chapter One The Root of the Rut
Chapter Two What is Trauma Anyway?
Chapter Three Sexual Trauma
Chapter Four Unlucky in Love…Over and Over
Chapter Five Facing Difficulties Head On
Chapter Six Work Place Challenges
Chapter Seven Humor as a Healer
Chapter Eight Surviving or Thriving After the Loss of a Loved One?
Chapter Nine Silence as a Healer
Chapter Ten Compassion and Imagination to the Rescue
Chapter Eleven Epigenetics; Shifts in Potential
Chapter Twelve Depression vs the Blues
Chapter Thirteen Loving Relationships as a Recovery Tool
Chapter Fourteen Hormones and Wellness
Chapter Fifteen Somatic Therapy
Chapter Sixteen Positive Psychology
Conclusion
Bibliography
About the Author
Notes
Foreword
M y chance meeting with KJ Landis was unrelated to her passion for health and well-being. Yet, without her saying a word about the subject, I immediately sensed a special aura and exuberance around her. I later realized I had simply picked up on her energy conveyed by the very principles for which she advocates.
On the surface one might surmise that KJ and I could not be farther apart on the healthcare spectrum. She espouses a natural approach to prevent imbalances and resolve ailments, both physical and mental. My career has been spent in the prescription pharmaceutical industry. Shouldn’t we be diametrically opposed in support of our own interests and views towards quality of life and longevity? Nothing could be more incorrect, and the answer lies in the fact that I am truly thrilled KJ asked me to write a foreword for her new book!
The prescription drug industry accounts for just 10% of our country’s more than one trillion dollar annual healthcare bill, while also preventing much more expensive hospitalizations every day. I sincerely believe it is also a fact that following KJ’s teachings can dramatically reduce the incidence of hospitalization as well as the excessive use of prescription drugs. This is good news for everyone, and good for our economy in terms of individual productivity and taxpayer burden.
KJ’s expertise extends to two primary areas – in her first book, the foods and beverages we choose to consume, and in this, her newest publication, the mental perspective. Our minds play a critical role in every aspect of our overall health. Oncologists I’ve met acknowledge that 50% or more of the success for any treatment outcome has to do with the cancer patient having a positive mental attitude. I am convinced that a majority of the prescription drugs used for conditions such as anxiety/depression, as well as obesity and diabetes, could be minimized or eliminated by following KJ’s simple and realistic lifestyle recommendations.
Of all the guidance KJ offers in her new book, the part which resonates with me most is both powerful and succinct. Suspend your own negative belief system,
she writes. Most of us might not even recognize we operate within a paradigm of negativity, but correcting that can open up an entirely new way of not just living, but enjoying life. KJ’s books detail pathways to helping create a happier, fitter nation, while eliminating the need to always rely on prescription medicines as a first resort. And finally, as she writes, Be grateful.
Be grateful for everything and to everyone, as we are diminished when we take even a moment of life for granted.
~Robert G. Partridge
Head of Marketing and Public Relations
Cutanea Life Sciences
A New Prescription Dermatology Company
Preface
I do not have a perfect life, but I do have a beautiful life. You do too. We do not realize this all of the time, especially when we are in the whirlwind of our daily duties.
My previous book, Superior Self: Reaching Superior Health For A Superior Self, dealt with mind, body, and spiritual paths to physical health and wellness, what foods and movements assist us in vitality as we age, and preventive healing therapies through foods. It also showed us where to turn to for motivation and inspiration.
After Superior Self was published, I received many letters inquiring about how to gain more willpower to achieve life goals, especially after going through _______________.
The protocols, dos, and don’ts were relatively simple, but the mental fortitude was a struggle for most folks. The psychological barriers were just too much to bear. Once again, people turned to me for help.
This book attempts to answer those letters. It is my hopeful effort to create here a life map that you can travel through to help heal the wounds caused by the things that get us stuck in the first place. There are examples here of human trauma and drama. There are examples here of how we can see the heavy challenges and every day constant pressures in new ways. We can see them as springboards to heal, thrive, and become our most authentic selves, our superior selves. We will learn how these folks reacted to their lifestyle situations, how they finally shifted to a different method of recovery and rebounding, and from that learning, we will figure out a way to maneuver our own struggles and our own outcomes in positive ways.
This is not a one size fits all kind of book. Everybody receives information in different ways. I’m fully aware that some of my readers will skip through the chapters to see which stories and exercises resonate with them. Feel free to meander through this work.
Having options are nice. Having an option that fits in with your ideals is even better. Having too many options is sometimes detrimental and causes us to procrastinate. Think about the options we have every day that prevents us from healing from our deep rooted problems. I’ll get to it after shopping, errands, cleaning, my TV show, cooking, eating, etc.
The business of being busy can be a runaway tactic.
We all are guilty of this tactic in procrastination. A good starting point is recognizing that busyness and consumption do not feed our true motivation, and they do not assist us in reaching our end goals. Then we can choose a plan (the exercises in this book!), face one fear or problem, and settle that ONE. Choose no more than three ways to attack it, but at first, do one exercise only. I always encourage folks to keep a little notebook to work in. Take it everywhere with you. Then, when the a-ha moment arrives, you can acknowledge it and document it. Well done! The notebook will be your success book (your YES book!).
During my years as a friend, confidante, and coach, I have helped people during their journeys to wellness. It has always been a holistic and multifaceted approach. Their stories set examples of a variety of problems and a variety of solutions. Individuals, being as unique as they are, will have different journeys to recovering from _________. It’s all good. And, no, you do not have to be a complete @#$%up to receive benefit from this book!
Please note that I am not a medical professional, nor do I play one on television (LOL). I am not an expert in the field of psychology. The content in this book is for informational use only. It is not intended for diagnosis or treatment of any medical condition. Please seek out your own health practitioner before embarking upon any new lifestyle change. I have, however, done years of research, coaching, soul searching, and self experimentation in order to bring you the most relevant and accurate information. As the science changes, so must we.
We will see how folks process through their troubles, as well as provide other options to consider when healing from serious life events. The stories here are autobiographical fiction, a combination of my own life experiences on earth for more than fifty years, adding in my great imagination, coaching experiences, and research. Except for my name, all of the names have been changed. The purpose of writing these stories is to be clear with the reader in how to get un-stuck, how to move forward in life goals, and how to shed pain once and for all.
FIX ME NOW!
We live in a society now that has a sense of immediacy. We expect instant solutions and gratifications. The truth is, we cannot expect 80% benefits from 20% efforts. We must do 100% of the work in order to receive 100% of the benefits in life.
I’m not saying we should not take efficient measures and shortcuts in mundane, everyday tasks, but in the core values, deep goals, and intense passions of our lives, we must make full effort in order to reach full satisfaction. If we take shortcuts on the little things, we then have more energy and time to devote to the things