You Can't Un-Ring the Bell: It Is What It Is
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This is a book about honesty, acceptance, change and hope. Dr. Gilbert discloses her journey as a psychologist, wife, mother and Christian who provides hard-won solutions for healing and moving forward. With an approach rooted in Christianity, she shares her own personal struggles and her message of faith in staying focused on a positive life. This is a no-nonsense approach for bringing your best to the life you are living. In this book, you are invited to reflect on the power of your choices, how they define you, where you're going and whether or not you need to think about the possibility of change in your life. The bell of death is discussed as a means of focusing on the reality of where we are going, what we hope to accomplish and how we will likely be remembered.
Shirley J. Gilbert, PhD
I am a Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist with decades of experience in many aspects of human behavior. I reside in Monterey, CA with my dog, "Max."
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You Can't Un-Ring the Bell - Shirley J. Gilbert, PhD
Copyright © 2016 Shirley J. Gilbert, Ph.D..
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WestBow Press rev. date: 03/14/2016
Contents
Dedication
Introduction
Chapter One Ringing of the Bells
Chapter Two Choosing the Power to Reframe
Chapter Three Changing Our Filter
Chapter Four Accepting the Challenges
Chapter Five Getting Serious About the Bells
Chapter Six Being Up Close and Personal
Chapter Seven Thinking: Yes I Can
Chapter Eight Making Choices & Reviewing Tools
Dedication
Bells, in this book, are a metaphor for the challenges we experience in our lives. As I dedicate this book to my little grandson, James, it is my prayer that he will grow up taking the bells seriously, that they enrich his life and encourage him to make endless healthy choices.
Introduction
I have spent a lifetime trying to be helpful to others, trying to listen without judgment, making interventions and guiding a process that leads to empowerment and strength. The learning curve has been steep. I could have chosen an easier profession, and some days wish I had! These pages hold information for which people paid $200 an hour. They have been summarized in this book and are reviewed in the final chapter.
All of the first words of each chapter title begin with an action word. That is the key to this book: taking action. Short of acting on what we know, what is the point in knowing? That is the tricky part.
Information is power, but knowing isn’t doing. People should write about what they know. This is what I know, after decades of treating people with serious trauma.
Since I have retired, I’ve had a lot of time to think about and process the bells in my own life. I decided to write this book to share concepts I believe can make a meaningful difference in life, if we take them seriously. It has taken me outside my comfort zone to write it. Reflecting on painful bells is serious business. Nonetheless, I invite you to do exactly that so that you can manage them and move on without carrying unnecessary baggage.
This is a book about reality, about getting real about your life. It has challenged me to be real, open and honest about my own. In fact, I have come to realize it doesn’t matter how many degrees you have, how much money you have, how much knowledge you have. It’s all about the choices we make, no matter what! The whole point is applying what we know, using it to make a positive difference in someone’s life, hopefully our own. I am a firm believer in making changes due to knowledge and wisdom. I have seen it. I have lived it. Often, when people know better, they do better. However, knowing isn’t always doing!
Education and experience can be powerful teachers. We simply can’t apply what we don’t know. It’s hard enough to apply what we do know.
A large part of my motivation to write this book has to do with the state of the world, as I see it, filled with depression, anger, hopelessness, mental illness, addictions, hatred, people giving up, domestic violence, suicide, mass shootings, animal and child abuse. We have got to turn this around, and we can.
I believe more people need to be thinking, talking about and creating change. We need to take serious pause at the condition of our world. People are giving up. We seem way overdue in addressing solutions and making positive changes. It all has to start with each one of us.
I am a mental health expert. I hold four college degrees (including two Ph.D.’s 20 years apart) and have had several licenses to practice psychology in more than one State. I have been an invited guest speaker at the FBI Headquarters in Quantico and was part of the Columbine massacre mental health team. I have worked with insane children and violent offenders. I have spent years in private practice and have seen the human condition at its worst.
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