Taking Back Your Life

By Olga Mabika Legoale Kamndebele

Between these two covers you'll find powerful stories on love, grief, and healing. Olga's narratives in Taking Back Your Life will inspire not only those who are seeking to reconnect with lost love but also those embarking on a journey of healing and renewal of the human spirit through affirmation and reflection.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris UK
• Release date: Feb 27, 2016
• ISBN: 9781514464465

Olga Mabika Legoale Kamndebele

Olga Legoale has been a dedicated caregiver all her life, and here she has endeavored to capture her experiences in this deeply moving, inspiring, and motivational book. “Taking Back Your Life” is the author’s second book. Her first book was the acclaimed “Global Citizen.” The author is a born South African but presently working as a Nursing Administrator in Saudi Arabia. Olga is a globetrotter and, during her spare time, if not traveling, appreciates spending time on abstract art painting. Her paintings have been displayed among other places in Pretoria, South Africa; Dhahran International Exhibition in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia; and the Global Art League in Montreal, Canada.

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Copyright © 2016 by Olga Mabika Legoale KaMndebele.

Library of Congress Control Number:   2015918525

ISBN:      Hardcover      978-1-5144-6448-9

                  Softcover        978-1-5144-6447-2

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CONTENTS

PROLOGUE

1 THE PERFECT FAMILY

2 TRUE SURVIVORS

3 HUMANITY AND LOVE

4 RISING ABOVE TEMPTATION; GARDEN OF EDEN

5 WHY HIJACK YOUR HAPPINESS

6 RARELY TALKED ABOUT REALITIES

7 COPING TALENTS

8 STRONG WILL-POWER

9 BE A FACILITATOR LIVE BY EXAMPLE

10 LET FEAR NOT BRING YOU DOWN

11 MIRACLES NEVER CEASE

12 SELF REALIZATION OF WHO YOU ARE

13 DREAM BIG

14 AFFIRMATIVE LOVE

15 INDIGNITY AND UNFAIRNESS

16 GRIEF-STRICKEN

17 MY FINAL STORY

18 CONCLUSION

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

SPECIAL DEDICATION

PROLOGUE

How often do we look back at all the mishaps, mistakes or dilemmas we encounter in our day in and day out life fabricating our own unhappiness?

How many times do we put the blame on ourselves?

Are we doing justice unto our emotions?

Is it worth going through those stressful feelings?

I don't think so. It is normal for everybody to err. Nobody is perfect; mistakes are done by man and not rocks. Even the most intelligent professors of this earth do find themselves doing mistakes at times.

As humanity we are tempted by various negative forces to go astray but that in itself does not mean we are a bad society.

We frequently focus all our strengths and attention on useless things. At times overlooking the brighter side of life. It is of prodigious importance to learn fighting all forces of negativity with an iron fist.

Let fright not provide us with encouragement to seek easier solutions to life's challenges. Let us all walk extra miles towards a better life.

Whenever in a situation of despondency, fight towards righteousness. It might be tough at times but with a positive attitude we can all concur even in the darkest moments.

It is of crucial significance to allow ourselves to explore the world in a positive way. At no given time should we allow pickiness of human nature to bring us down.

1

THE PERFECT FAMILY

Mahatma Gandhi was right when he said:- "Each one has to find his peace from within. And for peace to be real, it must be unaffected by outside circumstances."

Man ought to consider himself privileged to have landed on this mesmerizing planet called earth. A planet rated as one of God's best wonders in the entire Universe, supporting life. A masterpiece God created with pronounced intense affection beyond imagination compared to other barren non-life supporting planets.

As a leading prominent species on earth, humanity over centuries have been known for a common propensity element shared worldwide. The component is of lengthily complaining in a destructive manner over pitiable issues not worth complaining of. An attitude that has led to countless drawbacks seen in today's world. In reality the pessimism seen amongst some of us literally portrays a lack of sense of obligation and total commitment towards life in general.

At times the ups and downs affecting our future young upcoming leaders causes butterflies to meander all over my brain, revolving in various circles driving me back to one of its kind stories.

The narration below is a heart-rending event I witnessed throughout my earlier days in life. I made a pledge to myself at that point that I was going to follow that case meticulously.

Over a long period of years I watched how the incident drew to a closure. It is a true reflection of how dedication can shove us to the highest peaks in life as human beings.

This is a true story though characters and places have been changed for privacy purposes. The narration is emotionally touching yet likewise tremendously motivating to every youth out there.

A decent couple in their early springtime of life married for a few years moved to our small neighborhood from Johannesburg. I will call them the Smith family. What I can still reminisce about the Smith family is the self-confidence they displayed all over they went. Every single young robust upcoming youth wanted to be like them once reaching adulthood.

The Smith family was one of those high class type families of my times I religiously thought the world of, and up to this day still do. This family was fiscally well off and highly educated. To crown everything on about this family is the warmth and welcoming spirit they exhibited to mankind. They were an ideal couple more than suitable to bring up any bright-eyed progeny.

Mr. and Mrs. Smith were employed as teachers in our modest secondary school. They were bona fide icons of those yesteryears, loved and respected by all and sundry in the small neighborhood. Due to their approachable and accommodating natures they made uncountable friends from all walks of life.

This loving couple was blessed with a set of endearing identical twin boys. When they moved to our neighborhood, the boys were only three. The identical twins were immediately enrolled in one of the first rated kindergartens we had in our area located a few blocks away from our school. Life was more than propitious for the Smith family; their future looked optimistic and promising.

One afternoon shortly after school as usual Mr. and Mrs. Smith drove in their Jeep of those years to fetch the twins from the kindergartens like any other parents did on daily basis. After the regular little chitchat with other parents and teachers at the entrance of the kindergartens, the Smith family drove home serenely with the boys comfortably well positioned and seated at the back seat.

The little chitchat was a norm every parent embraced as they picked their children up in the afternoons.

Driving home that afternoon the Smiths' used the very same road they've been using daily for almost a year by then. The cool summer wind coming from the half opened car window on Mr. Smith's side was softly blowing his thin brown hair to all directions, with the afternoon sunbeams clearly illuminating his tranquil facial features. Mrs. Smith on the other hand was aimlessly perusing through the daily newspaper, with the boys at the back seat of the car ecstatically playing with new toys their parents presented them with as their Christmas gifts.

Luck I for one would say was not on the Smith family side on that evocative Monday afternoon. The family had just driven a few blocks down the road; on their first left turn off from the kindergartens they found themselves face to face with a tragic inevitable serious catastrophe. The Smiths' brand new car was involved in an extensive head on collision accident. The accident was so severe there was no way the Smiths' could have survived in a zillion years. The devastating part about the entire event was that the celestial couple happened to be at the wrong place on the wrong time. Their time on earth was up before they even knew it.

A fast-moving car appearing out of the blue flying like a fighting jet, facing the oncoming traffic stunned them to their last guts. The approaching car driving on their traffic lane was coming towards their direction mercilessly. Needless to mention that the approaching fast-moving oncoming car did not even honor the road's blood red signal stop sign ahead. Behind the strange onrushing car two police vehicles followed in the same speed using warning threatening sirens and loudspeakers cautioning the rushing car to stop.

The minute Mr. Smith saw the drama unfolding ahead of him, he tried hard to swivel his car to one side of the road with the intention of giving way to the strange approaching cars. The intelligent move Mr. Smith took didn't help much since the car ahead facing their car was driving with an abnormally high speed towards their direction. The worst part was that the oncoming car was driving on the wrong traffic lane.

According to eyewitnesses on the scene of the accident at that time, everything looked blood-curling and unexplainable. Bystanders later explained that the entire accident happened in a split of a second and before anyone could even scream everything was already happening. The huge bang from the approaching car and the Smiths' car suddenly shook the tranquil atmosphere of the entire neighborhood. The all-inclusive occurrence brought an impetuous horror scene in our quiet secluded suburb. The scene at that time looked like one of those scenes usually seen only in movies. The thunderous astonishing bang of the collision could be heard from a distance.

Within minutes after the accident the entire neighborhood was roaring with incalculable deafening sounds from ambulances