Girlfriend Sitdown and Shut Up!: A Small Self-Help Guide for Women

By Latifah Free

Girlfriend, Sit down and shut up is a short self help manual for women who misunderstand the do's and don'ts of today's society.  It reveals useful tips on relationships, children and self examination. A light-hearted, truthful and informative book for women who have lost their way; looking for a little advice, ready to make a change or just confused about what it means to be a lady.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Jul 24, 2008
• ISBN: 9781468569513

Latifah Free

Latifah free is a short story writer who received her formal education from the University of Milwaukee Wisconsin. She resides in Wisconsin with her husband and children. Latifah enjoys expressing herself through creativity and short stories. She wants to provoke debate through dialog in literature. Her books include, Most Dishes are Better Served Hot Pt. 1, Damn Dishes Pt. 2, Pearls for my Father, What she won’t do, and two controversial stories, Flowers have Voices and No Stones Thrown.

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Girlfriend Sitdown

and Shut Up!

A Small Selp-Help Guide

for Women

Latifah Free

Latifah Free

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© 2008 Latifah Free. All rights reserved.

No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

First published by AuthorHouse

ISBN: 978-1-4343-9103-2 (sc)

ISBN 978-1-4685-6951-3 (ebook)

Bloomington, Indiana

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Chapter 7

Last Note

Self Notes

To my daughters

Ameera, Briyahna and Noble

To my sisters

Jamilah, Crescenta, Jennifer, Brandy and Suzette

And my nieces

Najiyyah, Maiya, Laila, Daaiyah and Savonnah

In hopes, that they will make their transition

from caterpillars to butterflies with grace.

Introduction

As women we have to wear many hats: the mother, the aunt, the grandmother, the wife, the daughter, the breadwinner, the homemaker, the cook, the healer, the counselor, the educator, the electrician, the carpenter, the mediator, the driver, the lover, the best friend and the most important and most precious of all, the child bearer. Women are their children’s first nurturer and teacher. Women have the power to heal with one hand and strike with the other. Yet, somewhere along the way many women have lost their perspectives on what it’s about to be a real woman, to be ladylike and to persevere against all odds.

Many women have gotten lost in becoming the the modern woman. They have gotten lost in the fads, the movie screens and the music videos. They have allowed unrealistic expectations to be put on themselves by the media and fulfilled men’s stereotypes and fantasies about their attitudes, their bodies and their mentality. They have allowed terms of vulgarity to become terms of endearment. Many women have pushed, I can be who I want to be and say what I want to say and do what I want to do, just a little too far. This has cost many women dearly. Some women may get upset by the following suggestions but it is time for something to be said. What’s good for the bee is not always good for the honey.

Chapter 1

You And Your Mate

Relationships are not always easy they take communication and team work. We all have habits and not one of us is perfect. First and foremost put God first in your life and in your relationship. Remember the old cliché, a family that prays together stays together. Treat your mate the way you want to be treated and understand that every package is different. If you don’t accept any other advice regarding relationships do know that OPEN COMMUNICATION is the best thing you can do for your relationship(s). Here are some key notes to remember:

• Look for internal qualities.

• It’s okay to have high standards of your mate, but don’t settle for less and then place high expectations on that man.

• Understand your individuality and understand that your mate is an individual.

• Agree to disagree.

• Be receptive to one another’s views.

• Be realistic and reasonable.

• Be truthful.

• Don’t down play couples therapy. If one of you feels