How to Prevent from Giving Your Child a Death Sentence Mentally, Spiritually and Physically

By Tobias Garrett

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: May 31, 2011
• ISBN: 9781462899616

Tobias Garrett

Tobias Garrett knows firsthand how ugly situations become for a individual living in poverty with no sense of direction or no formal education background. After Tobias become incarceration he worked diligently to achieve a higher education to obtain empowerment, and extend his hand back to others. Every opportunity presented itself he converse with male and female lecturing to them the significant behind obtaining a education. Furthermore he explain to them without a formal education you will remain impotent. Today that same young man who once was lost, has been reborn again with the help and support from Yah, his brothers of the struggle and last, but not least his mother Irene who he adore. He have lived the street and though not unscathed, he survived, and in an attempt to attone for his wrongs, to give back to his community, and to help parents navigate the parental mistakes that caused him to become susceptible to the streets, he has compiled the solutions within the papers of this book.

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How to prevent from giving your

child a death sentence mentally,

spiritually and physically

Tobias Garrett

Copyright © 2011 by Tobias Garrett.

Library of Congress Control Number:       2011905334

ISBN:         Hardcover                               978-1-4628-9960-9

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Contents

Acknowledgement

My Mother’s First Fatal Mistake

First Fatal Mistake-Opinion

Second Fatal Mistake— Opinion

Second Fatal Mistake

Third Fatal Mistake: People, Places, And Things

Third Fatal Mistake: People, Places, And Things-Opinion

Awareness

Awareness Opinion

Family Structure

Family Structure—Opinion

Thinking Out Loud

IMPORTANT QUOTATIONS

As long as a race or group of people, no matter the color nor creed continue to stand upon the bottomless abyss of ignorance. They’ve placed themselves at the very threshold of slavery.

—Marcus Garvey, 1912

The greatest mistake of the movement has been trying to organize a sleeping people around specific goals. You have to wake the people up first, then you’ll get action.

Wake them up to their exploitation?

No, to their humanity, to their own worth, and to their heritage.

—Malcolm X

Everybody can be great because anybody can serve, you don’t need a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve . . . you don’t need to know about Plato and Aristotle to serve . . . you only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love.

—Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Let your speach be always with grace, seasoned with salt. That ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.

—Colossians, Ch.4.V.6

According to the commonest principles of human action, no man will do as much for you as you will do for yourself.

—Marcus Garvey

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

First, giving all praises to the Holy One of Israel; To our Anointed Lord and Saviour, Adonaynu Hamasheahk; The Holy Princedom, Divine Ministers, Divine Order of Crowned Borthers and Sisters, and to all those striving for righteous sake, I greet you in peace: Shalom, Shalom!

To my Mother Irene Primm Brown, whom I love unconditionally! I completely admire you for being supportive to me throughout my positive journey, inspiring me to keep my head up no matter what happened in life, and for that I am extremely honored to call you my Mother!

To my brother Carl Williams, you have been a spiritual mentor and big brother figure to me when it was so desperatel needed, while I was growing up, spiritually and mentally. I appreciate you taking time out of your day to help me day and night develope a Godly mindset, teaching me step by step to strive for life and avoid death, when I was a empty lost soul chasing after a lost cause. You are my true friend, brother, as well as mentor and for that I am completely honored to call you my brother!

To my brother Dwight Anderson, you have done an excellent job helping get my priorities straight, so I could develope a better character within myself. You have been a positive impact in my life and I am extremely honored to call you my brother!

I have two reasons for writing this book. One, I sit arouond every day watching WGN News, Fox News, CNN, and reading inside the Sun Times New paper articles, where our children have no resepct for authority, whether its inside or out of the home while committing sensless vicious acts inside our communities everyday with no regard for human life. I hear the Ministers, Principals, Chief of Police, as well as Parents speak to the media about our children saying, We need more funding from the government to create more after school programs for our children so that we can keep our children off the streets and give them something more productive to do with their time. That’s true, but is that a real solution. Not at all, that is just a small piece of the bigger picture here, we must dig deeper inside our minds to find a better solution to one of the biggest crisis inside our communities today! Two, To help bring some type of solution to the table that will help better our communities in the future. I very much can relate to what the youth are going through out there. This is the reason why its so compelling that other people need to hear my story to help mothers become better parents and provide other children from receiving a death sentence spiritually and mentally. Please bare with me throughout my story and chapters, so you won’t have a mis-conception about how to be a better parent to your child.

I.  Introduction

II.  My mother’s first mistake which led me down the wrong path in life was leaving me to fend for myself, allowing the streets to raise me.

III.  My mother’s second mistake was her poor choice in men as role models for me.

IV.  My mother’s third mistake were the people, places, and things she subjected me to (all bad influences).

V.  Self awareness plays a role in raising children.

VI.  Family structure is critically important in the development of children’s psyche.

VII.Critical thinking, taking a long, hard look at our situation in order to make the necessary decisions not to make the mistakes my mother made.

My mother lived with her mother Jeraline Collins, and her father James Collins, at 209 N. Boyd Street, until she was about 11 years of age. At that time she ran away from home and went to stay with some friends until she was 12, then she returned home.

The reason why my mother ran away from home at an early age was because when she was around 9 years old, her father tried to rape her. After she returned home she met a young man named Marvin Leonard Young. He lived around the corner on Peace Street in Canton Mississippi with his mother Margie Young, and his two sisters Carolyn Young, and Margorie Young.

Marvin and my mother decided to start dating. My mother knew that her mother was not going to leave her father, so she convinced Marvin to tell her parents that she was pregnant so that she could go live with Marvin. In all actuality though, she wasn’t pregnant, she just didn’t want to live at home with her father.

After they explained the whole situation to my mother’s parents, they asked to get married, but her father immediately said no because he wanted her for himself. Finally her mother said yes, but her father still kept saying no! However, my mother needed both parent’s signatures or else it wouldn’t be legal because my mother was under age, and Marvin was 18 years of age. My mother and Marvin still ended up getting married, because Marvin’s mother signed the papers, but later on down the line they found out that it wasn’t legal, because my mother’s father hadn’t signed for her to get married.

When that ordeal was over Marvin and my mother moved to Gary Indiana to live with his brother Dinkie Young, and his wife Pee-wee. Marvin got a job with his brother at the steel mill while my mother stayed at home with Pee-wee because she was too young to work. They lived with Dinkie and Pee-wee for about two and a half years, when my mother found out that she was pregnant, so she called her mother to inform her about the baby. Her mother wanted her to come home, but she didn’t want to go because of her father, and the things that he was trying to do to her.

My mother didn’t have a good child hood because her father was real abusive to her and her mother. It took her mother a while to leave him. but she did. Eventually, my mother’s father was taken to jail for trying to rape her. My mother would watch her father cut her mother with a knife and watch him get in bed with her mother, climb on top of her, and beat her. My mother would stand in the door-way, and he would tell her to leave, when she wouldn’t, he would begin slapping her around. After those 2½ years of staying with Dinkie and Pee-Wee, Marvin and my mother went looking for apartments or to find someone who was renting rooms at their house. They finally found a lady that was renting out rooms, so they rented one out and immediately moved in. The woman whom they rented the room from worked at a restaurant on Indiana Toll Road, called the Glass House. She had been a waitress there for many years, so she was really cool with the boss.

Since my mother looked and acted really mature for her age, the lady got her a job, even though she wasn’t old enough to work. My mother worked there up until it was almost time for her to have the