A Trans Popstar's Story: Being Trans and Chasing Dreams During Quarterlife
By TaraElla
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It all began with the dream. Ever since I was young, I had wanted to be somebody who participated in the cultural conversation, rather than just observe it. I was determine to be one of those who made the culture. I didn't know what I wanted to make, I didn't know what I wanted to say, but I knew I wanted to 'join the conversation', and help shape the culture.
However, there were a few problems. Firstly, I didn't know how to get into those exclusive places where they make the culture, i.e. TV studios, Hollywood, established record labels, or at least your local radio station. I knew nobody who had any connection to that world, and it seemed like most people in that world were connected with each other. In other words, it seemed that you had to 'know the right people' to 'get the entry ticket'. Secondly, well, I'm trans. And back in the 1990s and 2000s, there certainly weren't any trans people I knew of, in those exclusive places where they made the culture.
TaraElla
TaraElla is a singer-songwriter and an author.She is known for the promotion of the 'Princess's Spirit', independent culture creation, a form of 'back-to-basics' liberalism that combines elements of both Rawls-style liberalism and libertarianism, and ideas based on this particular form of liberalism.She is also a keen supporter of marriage equality, a version of family values that is LGBT-inclusive (she calls this 'adaptive family values'), and marriage privatization.
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A Trans Popstar's Story: Being Trans and Chasing Dreams During Quarterlife
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Chapter 1. Breaking The Barrier
It all began with the dream. Ever since I was young, I had wanted to be somebody who participated in the cultural conversation, rather than just observe it. Back in the 1990s, I had observed that this world was clearly divided into two kinds of people: those who made the culture that we lived in, and those who just watched other people make the culture. I was determine to be one of those who made the culture. I didn't know what I wanted to make, I didn't know what I wanted to say, but I knew I wanted to 'join the conversation', and help shape the culture.
However, there were a few problems. Firstly, I didn't know how to get into those exclusive places where they make the culture, i.e. TV studios, Hollywood, established record labels, or at least your local radio station. I knew nobody who had any connection to that world, and it seemed like most people in that world were connected with each other. In other words, it seemed that you had to 'know the right people' to 'get the entry ticket'. Secondly, well, I'm trans. And back in the 1990s and 2000s, there certainly weren't any trans people I knew of, in those exclusive places where they made the culture. In fact, back then, there was never anything about trans people anywhere in the mainstream media. It was something that people just didn't talk about at all. Nowadays, post 'trans tipping point', it's hard to imagine, right?
Anyway, I got the message. I didn't know the right people to get my 'entry ticket', and in any case I wasn't the kind of person they wanted. Although I wanted to help make the culture, I was born in the wrong place, and perhaps at the wrong time, for that exclusive club. (The very existence of that exclusive club feels so wrong to me, by the way, because everyone should be able to help make culture if they want to, but it was simply the way things were back at the turn of the century.) The world was determined to keep me from achieving my dreams, in other words.
And then, the reality TV era came. Back in the early to mid 2000s, reality shows about everything, from music to cooking, from dancing to renovation, and even 'hard to classify' shows like Big Brother, took over prime time TV all over the West. Suddenly, it seemed like you don't need to know the right people to get your entry ticket anymore. I mean, I know that the reality (no pun intended) isn't that simple, but back when I was a teenager, and social media wasn't even a thing yet, it sounded like a real breakthrough. And a lot of the time, you don't need to be the 'right kind of person' either: reality TV provided a 'platform' for all kinds of people who wouldn't otherwise have been represented on national prime time TV. There were even LGBT people sometimes, in an era where LGBT representation was otherwise dismal. I remember learning that Australian Idol had a drag queen as one of its contestants, and thinking, maybe, just maybe, I could make it too. You know, it may not sound like a big deal now, but back in 2003, it was certainly groundbreaking! Of course, not everyone liked that the barriers were being broken down: many commentators, mainly older ones, used to say that reality TV people were 'famous for being famous', that is, they were famous for nothing. As if many of the old-school media icons weren't also like this.
There's another thing that made reality TV great: the people were relatable. They weren't distant. They weren't part of some exclusive club that you had to know people to enter. They weren't millionaires and billionaires. The fact that many reality shows also spend some time telling the background story of the contestants made them even more relatable. And then, week after week, you joined them as they battled their way through the competition, surviving again and again against the odds. Their battles to survive and win were real life inspiration for teenage me, and when I faced challenging times in my life, (which there were many even back then, some of them related to being trans of course,) I would sometimes imagine I was a reality TV character, trying their best to make the best of a bad situation, and hopefully emerge stronger on the other side. Now, this may not sound like the proudest thing to say from the perspective of a 35-year-old adult, but it's true that teenagers struggling with their life issues do better if they have people and stories to relate to, and I'm certainly glad that I had those back then.
So, forget what the reality TV snobs say. Reality TV is great! It even helps change lives for the better, including those watching at home.
Chapter 2. In Context: The World Was Like This, Once Upon A Time
Part of why the world had long been the way it was, was because of the limitations of the way people 'communicated' back then. For newspapers, radio stations and television channels to be profitable, there can only be a very limited number of each. In fact, regarding radio and TV, governments only issue a very limited number of licences to begin with, meaning that most people only had access to a dozen or so radio stations and a handful of TV stations. This situation only changed slightly in recent years, with the rise firstly of cable television in the 1980s and 90s, and then the replacement of analog TV with digital TV, which allowed more stations to be broadcasted. But still, the opportunity to 'broadcast' was very limited, and it was rationed out only to people whom the elite deemed worthy.
For example, in the old media, for a musician to gain audience, they had to have access to radio air time. This access is generally 'locked up' completely by big record labels, so no matter how good your stuff was, you could only play it at pubs, if the big labels gave you no time. It was also quite difficult to build a loyal following or show your 'uniqueness' adequately. Whilst 'celebrities' promoted by big media had the required avenues to impress upon others their carefully crafted 'images', most independent artists simply had no such chance to even be