Pouring Into The Lives of Women

By Debbie Miller Curtis

The Purpose of "Pouring into the Lives of Women."- This book is designed to celebrate the best of women. In our world, in all the hustle and bustle I see where it is easy to lose focus on what matters most. Often times, we as women forget to take a moment, stop for a while, be on go-slow and smell the roses. Women are caught up with being what o

• Language: English
• Publisher: Prayer Works Evangelism Outreach Ministries
• Release date: Aug 31, 2020
• ISBN: 9781732171046

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Author’s Inspiration

The Purpose of Pouring into the Lives of Women.- This book is designed to celebrate the best of women. In our world, in all the hustle and bustle I see where it is easy to lose focus on what matters most. Often times, we as women forget to take a moment, stop for a while, be on go-slow and smell the roses. Women are caught up with being what others say we are. We are caught up with fitting in, we are caught up with the status quo, we are caught up with taking care of others, we are caught up in proving that we are equal to our male counterparts, we are caught up with having the perfect body, we are caught up with the right look, we are caught up with managing through hardship, we are caught up with keeping up appearances and at times, we are caught up with everything else except being in the moment, taking the time to exhale and enjoying the things we worked so hard to have and become.

This book is intended to get the woman to PAUSE for a moment and celebrate and be celebrated. We pour into the lives of women by carefully noting how they have been impactful to the world of women and others, not excluding men and children. We speak, prophesy, confirm, declare, pray, and provide physical and spiritual support in helping women to achieve excellence in their current situations and to level up in their thinking as they prepare for the next level, realm or dimension. I strongly see a huge opportunity where we as women can come together and support each other, as we thrive to become all we were created to be. There is so much to be achieved when we collaborate our ideas, thoughts, gifts, and resources. The movement is to create the world that we envision by empowering others to see the greater good in humanity and in oneself. We are capable of withstanding hardships through our FAITH.

Women are natural incubators and life grows to full maturity within a woman. That is the start. A world where we crown women and glorify their contributions, is a world where the continuity of life expands. Women have been integral to our society from the beginning of time. They have worked their way to be mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the Messiah in times where they were not valued and found noteworthy. Ruth, Rahab, Tamar, Bathsheba, Esther, Deborah, and Mary, are women who have left an indelible impression in the hearts of history. Today, our women are in a better position as we rise triumphantly over obstacles to create a roadmap leading the women behind us into greater destinies.

We are certainly, tapping into ‘the greater things we will do", words spoken by Jesus Christ in the book of John 14:12. In a perfect society, we would all be on the same page to pour into the lives of women. Unfortunately, we live in an imperfect world where we get distracted by our own inadequacies and internalized insecurities which does not foster a culture of extolling women. Therefore, those of us who are created to make a change will champion this movement and begin to speak into the lives of women, as they are the incubators, the womb, the soil, to create, nurture and foster life, growth and change. When we pour into women, all sectors of life are affected because of who the women are within the world around them.

When I see my sister struggling, I see me, when I see my sister win, I see me. The very essence of this book is to capture that the best and worst of us is not defined by our failures, setbacks, worst moments or shortcomings. Rather, we are celebrated for the many ways we prevail, the many ways we overcome, and the many ways we defeat that which was set out to defeat us. It is my hope to teach my community the steps to make others encounter the caring heart of God through us. It is often said that people will forever remember how you make them feel, (Maya Angelou). It is important to reinforce within our women, that they are doing a great job, that they matter completely, and they are being seen and heard. It is even more important to help women discover all the goodness packaged within them. When a woman is empowered there is absolutely nothing that she cannot accomplish. When we believe in ourselves, we are undefeated, unbeatable, fixed, and steady in all that comes our way. A woman with a strong belief system and a healthy support system is a powerhouse and a dynamite combined which make her invincible spiritually, emotionally and physically.

During my process of choosing these individual dynamic women for celebration, crowning or re-crowning, my purpose was to lift up these women in a beautiful bond of sisterhood. Understanding that we are further empowered when we take the time to sanction, acknowledge and celebrate each other. It takes a subtle introspective approach for us to see that through our diversities we are all the same. We bleed, we cry, we all share in joyous situations, tumultuous experiences, circumstances or challenges. It is my hope that all women will recognize that there should be no shame in what we go through, but instead rid ourselves of shame’s captivity, and allowing freedom to reign within completely. Therefore, I challenge us to use our experiences to build our communities. Our experiences should be used as testimonies, that we are built to last and that we are all more than conquerors. We must be reminded that everything is attainable through the Spirit! As we go forth in excellence, honor and pride in the lives we are living so purposefully, let us all come together and share in this hope.

Our words are extremely powerful and they will create and transform our world. Be intentional about your thoughts, actions and words! As children we were taught to use our words, however, I question if we truly understood the clarity behind the why, in this command. When we speak, we create beliefs and beliefs create actions and actions create habits and habits complete the individual. This is a tested theory and it works like how the rain falls. You do not have to be a believer or justified for this theory to work within your circle. I have led several successful teams and these individuals attained their goals because I discerned that they were hungry for more. Along with my direct leaders we were able to create an environment for birthing to take place. We would speak the results we wanted to SEE. We setup the day with a daily mission for success and we followed through with that mission regardless of obstacles faced. At the end of each day, the team debriefed by looking at the overall results. Subsequently, we created an action plan to continue what was done well, tweak what partially worked and discontinued what did not work. This was our process. It is my aim to have this mindset be replicated in this bond of sisterhood.

I created an environment that fostered and encouraged greatness by consistently pouring words that mirrored the outcome of vastness into these lives. I ensured that the teams were diverse in how they thought, looked and behaved. Most importantly, I confirmed and made certain no member on the team felt excluded. An environment where trust is paramount, feedback, accountability and encouragement were the foundations of excellence, that we built on. Distractions were eliminated from our process. We spoke truth by having open and honest conversations and established a platform where only the truth prevailed. The individuals on the teams that embraced this concept and winning formula wholeheartedly were the ones who were top producers and other individuals with lower results, were not highly successful as they did not max out their capabilities due to their mindset. I say this because in the process of building our community of speaking and pouring into the lives of women we must embrace this winning formula delineated to be fully successful.

As I transitioned from banking, I took the transferrable professional skills leant and implemented them in my current life. I began pouring into my prayer team, as the thought was this method does work, even if the environment is not competitive. Within our small group we would build up each other by speaking truth into our lives. We held each other accountable to the goals established both spiritually and secularly. As a team, we believed in our success as we watched our growth from strength to strength. In many cases, together we accomplished the impossible through persistent prayer, community sharing, divine spiritual disciplines and this phenomenal bond of sisterhood. In addition, I decided to increase my audience by including my circles on social media, church, former co-workers and started selecting the women, through carefully thinking, and praying. I started writing prophetically in their lives and the responses were outstanding. So powerful that several ladies called and said, Please write a book! Hence, the birth of my first book, Pouring Into The Lives of Women.

The Spoken Word

The life cycle of the words we speak, begins when a word is conceived first as a thought. And then it gives birth when we speak the very thought, and then it falls on the ears. It then penetrates the body which is like the soil where a seed is planted in the ground. The major stages of the life cycle of the words we speak is likened to the life cycle of a plant seed. It starts with germination, growth, reproduction, pollination, and then onto the seed spreading stages. The plant life cycle starts as a seed; each seed holds a miniature plant called the embryo, and the said is true for the words we speak. Therefore, every word holds life, and there we find the ‘embryo’ as well, and so when it is harvested, it results in the manifestation of the life stage we are currently in. Today’s harvest is a manifestation of words we poured out of our mouths yesterday. In my book, Pouring into The Lives of Women, it helps us to be intentional about what we want to cause when we speak, think or act. In the book there is a focus on how our words hold life and how there is a huge harvest tied to every spoken word, good or bad. Therefore, we must start by seeing our words as seeds that carry seeds of life.

On the other hand, receiving the spoken word is like watering a seed. Too much water will drown it, and too little water will cause drought, stunted growth, deficiency, or death to the development of the seed. One can speak life-giving words, but if the word is received on doubtful, distrusting or hardened soil, then the manifestation or harvest could be faulty, and the opposite holds true as well; if the spoken word is received on good soil and is nurtured, the harvest could be bountiful, pressed down, shaken together, and pouring over. The onus is then on the receiver, that when a life-giving word is spoken, to strive to be in an open-minded and well-receiving posture in order to get the maximum benefits from that which is spoken into the individual’s spiritual being. Most of, if not all situations that we are faced with, are directly correlated to our thought process, belief system, mindset and behavioral patterns. We are simply shaped by what we receive or what we take in and how we think.

Dedication

It is often said that no great work is done by one individual, but by the collective efforts of a team or a community of individuals working assiduously to achieve greatness or collaboration of sharing in one common goal. With that said, I want to say a warm heartfelt thank you, first to my family, Gardner Ray Curtis, who continues to listen to my many ideas for books, plays, magazines, branded merchandise, potential business ventures of all sorts and functions or celebrations for he, she and the old lady. My children, Jaiden Rae Curtis, and Jordan Gardner Ray Curtis, who share me with everyone and continue to give of their time so I can write, research and study. My dad, Glasford Miller, who instilled in me from an early age that nothing is impossible for me to achieve.

My mom, Joyice Faith White, who is the backbone and canvas on which everything is laid. Mom, I truly appreciate you listening unendingly to all my concerns, queries and comments. Thanks for always believing in me and for subtly pushing me beyond my own limits, normal barriers, and my own boundaries. My beautiful sisters, Kim-Marie Miller, who continues to pour into me. It was Kim who gave me the first tribute and that day when she poured into me, I loved the way it made me feel. I was empowered and motivated to get back up and get back in and fix my crown I so wear and bear. Diana Miller, who inspires me daily through the way she continues to rise and the respect she continues to show regardless of situations. Nadine Miller Campbell, who is the expert in the family on writing books. I cannot say thank you enough sister for humbly walking me through the steps and for consistently encouraging me to publish my books.

Debbie Ann Miller, for being a wonderful big sister and Samantha Miller, for being my beautiful and kind baby sister and to my one and only brother Junior Miller, who I cherish in my heart. I am so grateful to have these ladies and this gentleman as my sisters and brother. Thanks as well, to my brother-in-law Conrad Campbell for his kindness shown always, as he lends his wife unconditionally. Many thanks to my nieces Alexia Ford, Sammoya Tomlinson, Harmoni Robinson, and Dehstinie Campbell for the many ways you each poured into my life and inspired me through your thoughts and kindness that you so naturally show and many thanks to my nephews Christopher McKenzie, Andre Hull, Dehstin Campbell and Daniel Campbell for your hugs and encouragement in my best and worst moments. Many thanks Kay-Ann Mighty, Editor, for your tremendous insight and input as you edit and proofread this book. Thanks for the many roles you played in helping this book come to life. Thanks for the encouragement and many uplifting and empowering words you deposited in me. Latoya Reid-Turner, Editor, thanks for helping to edit and proofread this book. Sammoya Tomlinson and Nneka Williams, thanks for your help in proofreading and Charm White, Editor thanks for your help in proofreading and editing this book. Tremendous work from the editing and proofreading team. Excellent work!

It would be remiss of me not to mention a big thank you to my childhood friends, Kay-Ann Mighty Brown. You support in more ways than you will ever imagine, and you are a part of the reason for this book. Sharonda Henry-Jackson, you have been constant in and out of season and our connection is beyond what words could ever describe. Stacy Brown, a spiritual and foundational relationship shared through Prayer works Evangelism Outreach Ministries. She has dedicated her time to spend in prayer for the ministry, mom and myself, for this I am grateful. Dahlia Smith Dhong, my spirit sister, we have been through similar situations where only God and God alone helped us through, Janet Morris, my ride or die kind of friend who helped me to be street-smart and be prepared for life ahead.

Fiona James, a friend who is always there, and most loyal. Novelette Lovelace, my friend who always encourages me to pray and give it to the Lord, Tracy and Nikola Vujic, who are always a call away and always so encouraging of my ideas, aspirations and dreams. I give God thanks for amazing friends. Friends are blessings and friendship is not just saying nice words but is being able to overcome challenges and difficult situations. I am truly blessed to have you ladies and gentleman in my life. Renee Phillips, I appreciate you for being obedient and placing that call which propelled me into final action, to compile this book. She confirmed the spoken words I shared with my sister, Nadine Miller Campbell, with the title of the book, little did she know we had a party theme planned for my daughter, Jaiden Rae Curtis, with a similar name.

A tremendous thank you to Kerry-Ann Ellington-Robinson, who is a confidant and a positive influencer and an encourager in this mission. Naudia Bennett Fairclough, is the friend that is always there praying and giving of herself without question. Debra Minor- Stephenson, one of my spiritual moms, who continues to hold me up in prayer. Jerushia McDonald-Hylton, many thanks for pouring into my life and helping me give birth to this project. Thanks for your feedback and support