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Name, Claim & Reframe: A Pathway to a Well-Lived Life

Name, Claim & Reframe: A Pathway to a Well-Lived Life, by Andrea Mein DeWitt. Photograph of pathway at sunset by Tim Johnson
Photograph by Tim Johnson

Estimated reading time: 11 minutes

Great change is always preceded by chaos and confusion, yet our darkest moments can serve a great purpose

It has happened to all of us — an illness, an event, or an uncomfortable truth engulfs our life like a rogue wave, and we are thrown ass over tea kettle onto the beach. Not only is there sand in our bikini bottoms, but we are rattled and forced to evolve or stay stuck in the limbo that is unfolding. We need a way not to just cope, but to shift our perspective so we can take back our power: To NAME our emotional state, CLAIM resonant actions that align with our core beliefs and then REFRAME our mindset so we can move ahead with strategic and visionary optimism.

For me and many women, this transition happens slowly over time, like an ache or a longing. While for others it feels more like a collision that clears the way for a new beginning that they never saw coming. Whether a single dramatic event or a series of them, it is an awakening that forces us to claim something of our very own and finally ‘gives us permission’ to start a business, begin a big project, earn that degree we never finished, leave a marriage, or even to fall in love all over again.

Like a personal check-in, this is the point when women realize that it is

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