What Do You Expect? How to Discover Deep Calm: How to Discover Deep Calm
By Chad Prevost
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Having a calm mind means having an ordered mind. It means being able to sleep deeply. It means thinking with clarity. It doesn't mean "Calm down!" as we were admonished as school kids. It doesn't mean losing your joy or enthusiasm. If anything, its goals are the opposite: fine-tun
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What Do You Expect? How to Discover Deep Calm - Chad Prevost
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OTHER BOOKS FROM THE BIG SELF SCHOOL:
- DESIRE: How Do You Want To Feel?
- HOW TO BUILD SELF KNOWLDGE: Discovering Who You Are
- WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? 365 meditations + the books they came from
WHAT DO YOU EXPECT?
Discovering methods for deep calm
FOREWORD
ONE
What do we talk about when we talk about calm?
Calm and anger
Calm and fear
Rising above the personal and normal
response
What is going on in our brains when we feel irritated with others?
TWO
Setting expectations with yourself: Careful what you wish for
Process over perfection
Expectations with others: It’s hard to collaborate
Setting expectations with others at work
Setting expectations with others in your personal life
THREE
Taking charge of the mind and finding focus
The craftsman’s spirit
Patience leads to slow growth, which leads to calm
Finding calm outside yourself
in nature
in travel
in music
in challenges, exercise and relaxation techniques
The stress response from cold water therapy builds calm
Perspective
AFTERWORD
FOREWORD
WE HELP PEOPLE
TO BE THEMSELVES.
Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? On the one hand, it’s true. There is great simplicity and insight into finally realizing that all social reformation and revelation begins with the individual. The harder part is discovering authentic principles and living by them day by day, moment by moment.
One of the most fascinating things about this work is discovering for ourselves that there is no defining characteristic of those who have found themselves. What do we mean found themselves
? We mean that you were born exactly who you needed to be. You possess gifts and a unique constellation of atoms and neurons all firing to make you already whole. You will find by cutting through outward expectations and cultural mania that within you is already a calm and steady self. Finding yourself begins with finding calm.
Our modern lifestyle packs a punch when it comes to stress. We are bombarded with ideas that we can control the uncontrollable, bend reality to meet our expectations, and twist other people’s wills to meet our needs. We have an arsenal of irrational thought patterns that don’t jibe with our lived experience, and that dissonance we feel is anxiety showing up. As comedian William Saroyan once quipped, Everybody has got to die, but I have always believed an exception would be made in my case.
Even in the best of times, our anxiety can dictate the terms of our reality. In times of intensity and heightened stress, our desire to stay calm, patient, and unruffled may seem impossible. Our brains are hard-wired to