A Beacon of Hope for The Childless Couples

By Dr. Satish Goel

The book gives more comprehensive description of the human male and female generative organs along with the problems that afflict them to cause impotence and infertility. A few illustrative charts and diagrams have been included to make the lay reader understand the functioning of these organs.  It throws light on the various modern techniques to cure impotence and infertility so that the couples can hope for the best in the near future.
The basic theme of this book is to help the childless couples solve their psychological, physical and medical problems and to keep them away from falling into the grip of the unscrupulus quacks, ‘Babajis’ and the self-proclaimed sexologists.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Diamond Books
• Release date: Apr 15, 2021
• ISBN: 9789385975301

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THE PSYCHE OF AN ISSUELESS COUPLE

‘A woman attains consummation of her being by becoming a mother’, is what the erudition and experience down the ages assert and quite truly so. A woman without child is like an infertile or barren land which appears an eye-sore among most of the green and verdant fields. A married woman pining for the warmth of a baby produced by herself is, indeed, a fit case for compassion and sympathy. But ironically and cruelly, most of them receive neglect, contempt or down right derogation.

Especially for an Indian woman inability or incapacity to produce a child is a curse no matter whether its barrenness may not be the real cause of her misfortune - but she has to bear the entire brunt of the agony, disgrace and to some extent, plain torture. Whereas the medical researches prove that in 40 percent of such cases the accusing finger points towards the man, in 20 percent both men and women, due to their physical defect. So, broadly speaking, in nearly 60 percent cases the childlessness is caused by the man’s inability to produce a child.

Nevertheless, when parents go around to find a suitable groom for their daughter or a suitable bride for their son their relations move heaven and earth - at least in the Indian societies- to provide all the information about the prospective ‘Candidate’: his or her qualifications, built, colour of the skin, height, features and what not. Most of the traditional families insist on having even the horoscopes of the potential groom and the bride matched with lot of traditional knowledge about various attributes thrown in the consideration. It is believed that astrologically ‘36’ attributes are matched out of which half matching (18 attributes) are good, more than 20 as good as decreed by the Divine will.

But have you ever heard any astrologer declaring that this pair is likely to be childless? Or would any mother like to have an infertile woman as her son’s bride no matter dowry worth millions be accompanying her?

In other words no matter how erudite an astrologer be it is difficult for him to foretell as to which pair is likely to be issueless. Normally if after two to three years a bride doesn’t ‘beam’ the ‘happy news’ the senior member of the household become alarmed. Earlier they don’t worry as much in the fond belief that they (the bride and groom) are still childish in temperament or may be, using some contraceptive device they have decided to remain childless for some more time. However, after the expiry of the normal ‘period of expectation’ like a year or two, the married sisters-in-law and young aunties start indirectly questioning the bride? Like they would say : "When we will have laddoos? or When are you giving the good news and the like. For a woman having any generative defect in her or her husband, these questions symbolise the onset of her period of apprehension and agony. In one moment she might dream of listening to the songs sung at child birth called ‘sohar’ in a courtyard filled with beaming female relations cooing and crying in ecstasy - but the very next moment might blight all her hopes Lest it may never happen? Won’t she ever enjoying the bliss of kissing her child emerging to the world from her own womb? Would she ever leave the world with her identity revealing being left behind to continue the lineage she had contributed to maintain?

These types of questions make her cry and croon inadvertently. But what is the reality? What makes one a mother? How one is deprived of being a mother? What is the considered opinion of the experts?

Medical researches claim that number of the childless couple in India is hardly 15 to 20 percent. But this unfortunate lot hardly cares to find the basic cause of their deprivation. Immediately on getting unsuccessful for a given period they start doing rounds to the Tantriks, Black-Mass experts, astrologers, holy-men with so called miraculous powers or even quacks of medical practitioner who promise "Sharteeya ladka hoga " (end result of their attempts will surely be a son for the aspirant). These sham-experts abound every nook and corner of India. They are supposed to enlist the services of even ghosts and holy spirits to have their ‘customer’ blessed with a child (preferably male). Since their publicity is so tempting and attractive-laced invariably with catchy Sher (couplets) or poems and substantiated with an engrossing legend - the gullible pairs can’t help visiting them at least once. But once hooked by them there is no escape unless the victim has shelled a few thousands.

Unfortunately even the educated couples get trapped in their arousal of vain hopes. Instead of their checking up the logic in what these fraudulent persons claim, they start following up their ‘advice’ to their own doom. Getting repeatedly duped by these quacks these unfortunate couples become so disappointed that taking their fate as the divine will they retire to their ‘destiny’. As the old saying goes : ‘once bitten twice shy’ they become so much disheartened that they never even go to a registered practitioner in the fear of getting yet another shock. With the result when they happen to reach a true expert in the line, they become so devoid of enthusiasm and hope that they hardly follow the experts’ advice religiously. It appears that most of such forlorn and dejected pairs reach the experts when goaded by their other relations with so much reluctance that they just consult the authority for the hack of it and eventually for repeating their pet grievance : I told you .... nothing can be done in our case! These so called experts are no better that those Babajis whom you call quacks!"

It is to give the correct guidance to such misled pairs that this book has been devised. This book will clearly tell them as to what they should do, how much money or resources they would have to actually consume and what is the guarantee percentage there for their finally getting an issue.

In this context it would not be out of place to refer about the researches being done in this field. It is a well known fact that most of the researches and investigations are being done in Allopathy School of medicine. The chief reason being that this is the prevalent system in the West which has this problem of childlessness much more pronounced in its societies and hence they are devoting more attention to this problem. While they are (the western experts) making serious efforts in India in the various schools of medicine no serious effort is being made. No doubt some traditional schools of medicine in India might solve a case or two but their attempt is based more on trial and error than on actual logic or reason. Of course our Vaidyas and Hakeems do succeed in treating occasionally a very chronic case convincingly but they hardly have any fresh input in their knowledge and experience. In this context one should believe the old dictum that When a truth ceases to be true it does not become any truer by being stood upon its head!

During last couple of decades the very style of treatment of infertility syndrome has undergone a drastic change. It is not that the Indian doctors have hit upon any original or unknown solution to this problem. What is a fact is that they could grab some standard treatment which was found effective in the West and applied it too Indian conditions with occasional success. Take for example the case of ‘Viagro’ the medicine that is supposed to revive sexual powers in an impotent male in certain cases. Many people started claiming that these kinds of medicines are quite available in India down the ages in the form of various ‘Kushtas’ or Bhasmas’ but nobody seems to have met anyone in person who had his sexual potency revived with these medicines. The same holds true for other ‘guaranteed’ treatments for giving a male issue to the childless couples.

Hence our advice to such pairs is that before allowing them to be treated by any physician they must ensure that he or she has a recognised medical degree. In case the person has some experience about treating infertility or impotence cases it is still better. Apart from it the physician must have some idea about the modern technological developments in this field like ultrasound technique and various contraceptive or conceptive devices prevalent now. And you always must ensure that the physician you have chosen has some reputation of treating such cases successfully.

Of course it is true that such facilities are still confined to only the metropolis cities of the country like Mumbai or Delhi but now they are some dedicated Doctors in small town also who by their talent and dedication have acquired sufficient knowledge to treat such cases. Moreover, since they treat the patients with a missionary zeal, they don’t dupe the couples longing to have their children. No doubt unscrupulous cheats are available in every profession but such pairs must ensure that they approach the right person. Here, the question springs as to how those hopeless couples would judge whether they are approaching the right person or not? It is to enlighten about these quacks and give guidelines for ascertaining the actual cause of their malady that this book is devised.

But before telling them about the various causes that go to cause male impotence and female infertility syndromes, won’t it be better if they know the basic structure of their generative organs.

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HUMAN SEX-ORGANS

A. The Male Organs

The sex organs of a male are quite complicated form of a reproductive system. They produce semen, store it and release it into the woman’s vagina at the time of ejaculation. Procreation, therefore, is the result of the union of the sperm cell and the ovum.

The Testes : The male organs comprises of the two testes or testicles hung side by side in a sac called the scrotum, behind the penis in its relaxed state. The testes oval in shape and about an inch long and a inch wide, have two different functions. These are made up of a series of lobes composed of minute tubules in which the sperm cells-the spermatozoa-are formed and liberated. The internal secretion of sex hormones, which create sex impulse and cause the essential male characteristics in the individual and play its role with the other secretion glands in the body in sustaining the normal functioning of the body, are achieved by it.