Find Happiness Now: 50 Shortcuts for Bringing More Love, Balance, and Joy Into Your Life
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Life isn’t always a straight path. Sometimes, you go with your instincts, and if you haven’t, this may be the time to start. Look at the table of contents for a life lesson that resonates with you, learn from it, and try to apply it to your life.
Robinson offers teachings that aim to open your heart and mind and fill it with inspiration. Find words of wisdom to help you have better relationships, increased success and enjoyment in your career, a loving connection with yourself, and a lot more fun in life. Develop the edge you need to create a life of success, love, peace, and joy. The transformative tools in Find Happiness Now can:
- Teach you the power of loving yourself
- Improve your relationships
- Connect you with your spirit
- Help you to realize your dreams
Praise for Find Happiness Now
“A resource everyone should own.” —Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul
“This book is filled with heart-felt wisdom and stories that will help anyone spiritually heal their lives. Jonathan Robinson is a master storyteller and a gifted healer.” —Doreen Virtue, PhD, author of Angel Therapy and The Lightworker’s Way
Jonathan Robinson
Fr. Jonathan Robinson is the founder of the Oratory of St. Philip Neri in Canada. He holds a Ph.D. from the University of Edinburgh, and a License in Theology from the Gregorian University in Rome.
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Find Happiness Now - Jonathan Robinson
First published in 1998 by Conari Press, an imprint of
Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC
With offices at:
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Copyright © 2014 by Jonathan Robinson
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from Red Wheel/Weiser, llc. Reviewers may quote brief passages. Originally published as Shortcuts to Bliss: The 50 Best Ways to Improve Relationships, Connect With Spirit, and Make Your Dreams Come True in 1998 by Conari Press, ISBN: 1573241377
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Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Section One
Feeling Really Good
1. How to Quickly Change How You Feel
The Art of Asking the Right Questions
2. How to Easily Become a Happier Person
The Pain and Pleasure List
3. How to Easily Feel Inspired
The Magical Movie List
4. How to Be Filled with Energy
The Magic Pill
5. How to Neutralize Bad News
Asking About What's Good
6. How to Be Much Happier in Two Minutes a Day
Three Good Things
7. How to Stop Worrying About Money
The Not-Enough Antidote
8. How to Instantly Relax
The One-Breath Technique
9. How to Be Filled with Confidence
Power Songs and Power Moves
Section Two
Loving Yourself
1. How to Feel Totally Appreciated
The Birthday/Funeral Gift
2. How to Grow Your Self-Esteem
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
3. How to Encourage Yourself
The Art of Adult Rewards
4. How to Stop Putting Yourself Down
Getting Bertha Off Your Back
5. How to Avoid Freaking Out
The Art of Showering
6. How to Safely Handle Your Anger
The Adult Temper Tantrum
7. How to Overcome Minor Depression
Hooray For Hypericum
8. How to Neutralize Bad Memories
The Erasure Technique
9. How to Heal What You Feel
The Sensation Meditation
Section Three
Improving Your Relationships
1. How to Never Argue Again
The Art of Spooning
2. How to Get People to Instantly Like You
Mastering the One-Minute Relationship
3. How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
The Successful Rejection Experience
4. How to Start a Great Conversation with Anyone
The Instant Intimacy Question
5. How to Easily Make Your Partner Feel Loved
The Love-Strategies Concept
6. How to Solve Problems with Anyone
The Amazing Problem-Solving Question
7. How to Quickly Feel Intimate with Anyone
The Spiritual Intimacy Experience
8. How to Open Your Heart
The Gratitude Visit
9. How to Forgive People, and Not Judge Them
The Compassion Questions
10. How to Easily Enjoy Better Lovemaking
The Naked Truth Exercise
11. How to Make Good Friends at Work
The Intimate Coffee Break
Section Four
Connecting with Spirit
1. How to Quickly Quiet Your Mind
The Magical Playlist
2. How to Listen to Your Intuition
The Feeling Right Distinction
3. How to Align with Your Higher Self
The Cosmic Hot and Cold Game
4. How to Pray Without Ceasing
The Thank You Technique
5. How to Be Moved to Tears of Love
The Pure Love Meditation
6. How to Know Your Mission In Life
The Near-Death Questions
7. How to Make Major Life Decisions
The Vision-Quest Experience
8. How to Really Enjoy the Holiday Season
The Best Christmas Present There Is
9. How to Easily Experience Your Soul
The Jaw-Dropping Meditation
10. How to Feel Totally Peaceful
The Art of Mantra Meditation
Section Five
Living Your Dreams
1. How to Know What's Most Important to You
The Year Left to Live List
2. How to Know Your True Work Passion
The Billion-Dollar List
3. How to Be a Genius in Life
The Joy of Journaling
4. How to Reach Your Goals
The Art of Manifestation
5. How to Know What's Best to Do
The Art of Masterminding
6. How to Quickly Become Just Like Your Hero
The Art of Transformational Acting
7. How to Get Your Life in Balance
The Daily Priority Challenge
8. How to Do Anything Difficult
The Proclamation-of-Will Tool
9. How to Be Motivated to Change Your Behavior
The Pleasure/Pain Description
10. How to Stay Motivated Long Term
The Integrity Contract and Nurturance Method
11. How to Stay on Track in Life
The Buddy System
Epilogue
Acknowledgments
Foreword
If I was considering taking some time to read a book about finding happiness,
one of the first things I would want to know is how happy is the author?' Is this just another of the thousands of self help books churned out each year expounding the latest theory of the Seven Steps to a Perfect You? Or will this actually help you; will you find something refreshingly real and honest, something relevant to your life?
I have known Jonathan Robinson for more than fifteen years. We have been on many road trips and adventures. We were in the same men's group for more than five years. We know each others' wives and families. I have seen Jonathan in his peak moments of triumph, as well as his most humiliating moments of defeat, and I have watched him learn and grow with humility. From these fifteen years, I want to tell you here about the man himself, and then you can judge if his book is worthy of your precious time.
In this book, Jonathan will tell you that happiness is not always to be found in the external acquisition of things and money, as we have often been told it is. So, is he living this theory in his own life? He is one of the few people I know who has actually earned enough money to retire through writing books and teaching seminars. But I also know that he lives with Zen like simplicity. He lives with his wife Kirsten and his golden retriever Sophie in a rented house in the countryside, smaller than 1000 square feet. He gives away a large percentage of his income every year to various charities. They live very modestly, and yet every time I see him he exudes excited gratitude for all that he has.
Jonathan will also tell you that happiness has much more to do with how much you help and give to other people than what you try to get for yourself. I have witnessed his generosity with friends and people in need, for example paying for a friends' expensive medical treatment. Almost every time he comes over to our house, Jonathan brings some small gift, usually with the now familiar words I thought you might get a kick out of this....
Jonathan will invite you to use small techniques, most of which take only a few minutes a day, as a gentle discipline to shift into habits of happiness. He has gently guided me to use some of these tools myself, and they have worked. Each and every one of the things he will ask you to do, he has done himself over many years. Everything you read here has been road-tested in his own life.
He will also remind you of the importance of creating real and connected relationships in your life. Not only does Jonathan put a lot of attention on the quality of his own marriage, but he also places almost as much value on his friendships as well. Luckily for me and the other people who know him, Jonathan takes very good care of people. He seeks out ways to create real connection, to dive deeper together than the usual Howeryadoing, bud?...Err, Fine
that we can all so easily fall into. When you hang with him, he asks a lot of questions with real interest and curiosity.
But most important, in this small book, Jonathan will ask you to give him the benefit of the doubt, and to return to beginners mind. It's not an easy place for some of us, especially when we have read a few books (and even written a few as well.) He will ask you to look at things with fresh eyes. And it is this quality that I like the most about my friend. Actually, it is how we met. I was giving a lecture at the International Conference on Science and Consciousness back in the 1990s, about the importance of tailor-made spiritual practice. He stood up, and asked me to suggest a practice for him. Right there, in front of a few hundred people he laid out his challenges and weak spots for everyone to see, and asked for help, as a beginner. When I found out later that he was a bestselling author, who had been on Oprah a bunch of times, I thought to myself, this is my kind of a guy. He is more interested in being a learner than a knower.
As you will discover in the next few pages, Jonathan's willingness to constantly learn, and grow, and explore, is infectious. He will meet you as a friend, with respect and kindness and a genuine care for your well-being.
So there you have it. If you are interested in finding happiness for real, from someone who cares more about the truth of things than expounding a pet theory, or making some extra cash from you, you are in good hands. You are in excellent hands, in fact, so read on with confidence.
I am going to pass you over to those good hands now, and I wish you happy experimenting in finding happiness now.
Arjuna Ardagh
Founder of Awakening Coaching
and author of several books including
Better than Sex and The Translucent Revolution.
arjunardagh.com
Introduction
Shortcuts to Finding Happiness
No matter who you are, you want to be happy. Of course, you may use a different word to describe what you want. You may say you want riches, or power, or adventure, or love, but why do you want those things? Because you think if you had riches, or love, or whatever you say you want, you'd be really happy. The problem is, you and I are part of a frequently dangerous cult. This cult—known as cult-ure,
tells us we can find happiness
by pursuing external things—like possessions and achievements. Unfortunately, studies show that such things don't really make us any happier. Look around you. Except for young kids (who have yet to be fully programed by our particular cult), most people are not wildly excited about their life.
Fortunately, there is good news. In the last twenty years, the field of Positive Psychology has researched what really makes people deeply happy and fulfilled. What they've learned is that truly happy people share many common values, methods, ideas, and attitudes. Better yet, many of the attributes deeply fulfilled people share can be easily learned by the rest of us. By practicing the ways of people who are elated about their lives, we too can become a lot happier. That's what this book is about. In it you'll find 50 simple ideas and methods that can act as shortcuts
to the experience of deeper satisfaction you desire.
As a seminar leader and psychotherapist, I've learned that some methods work a heck of a lot better than others. In today's overbusy and fast-paced world, I've seen that most people simply don't have time to use any method that takes over five minutes to do. As for me, I'm so lazy that I prefer methods that take under a minute of effort. Luckily, there are many tools that can be used in well under five minutes that can have a major impact on the quality of your life. You'll find a lot of such tools right here in this book. Even if you find just one idea or method in these pages that really works for you, your life will be forever altered and greatly improved.
Many years ago when I was on Oprah to promote an earlier version of this book, I had an interesting conversation with her off camera. I asked her why she chose to have me on her show talking about my book. She said something like, "I liked your practical ideas. Here were things I could really use—and I have used. Not so long ago I was a poor teenage black girl who was emotionally and physically abused. It was only by using ideas and methods found in books like yours that I got to where I am today. Now that I'm in the position I'm in, I want other people to know that—wherever they are—there is hope for a better life. You just have to put your hope in the right place."
I enthusiastically agree with what Oprah said. Many of us put too much hope in things that ultimately disappoint us. We put too much of our hope into things like money, a relationship, or a certain achievement. Unfortunately, when such things fail to make us happy, we can be left feeling hopeless. Yet, when we put our hope (and energy) into things that have been proven to make us happier, we get much better results. So, what do scientific studies tell us will lead to real happiness? From the countless studies done on this subject, five common themes appear over and over again to contribute to people's deeper enjoyment of life. Briefly they can be described as:
Having a lot of friends that you connect with in a satisfying manner.
Having a sense of purpose or meaning—often derived from pursuing a spiritual path.
Enjoying your work or some other activity that you fully engage in.
Taking time to appreciate simple pleasures, and savoring them as fully as possible.
Creating and achieving goals that add to the quality of your life.
Sadly, our culture doesn't teach us how to effectively pursue these avenues for finding happiness. Yet, when we learn simple skills that immediately help us to feel better, or help us to connect more deeply with people, our level of life satisfaction inevitably goes up. We start to have hope that, no matter what happens to us in our life, we can use the skills we know to feel gratitude, peace, meaning, and joy.
This book is divided into five sections. The first section is titled Feeling Really Good,
and it offers nine powerful methods for changing how you feel in a quick and easy manner. The second section, called Loving Yourself,
details nine more techniques for being kind to yourself and handling difficult emotions. The third section, Improving Relationships,
offers amazing tips for connecting with an intimate partner, friends, and even total strangers. In the fourth section, Connecting with Your Soul,
you'll learn tools for quieting your mind, hearing your intuition, and opening your heart. Finally, in the last section, Living Your Dreams,
you'll learn how to know what's most important to you, as well as how to stay consistently motivated to manifest what you desire.
You need not read this book from start to finish. Instead, feel free to look in the Table of Contents for a heading that sounds like something you'd really like to know about. Then, turn to that section and discover what magical method awaits your discovery. The only way to know how effective the ideas and techniques in this book really are is by trying them out. Often, simply reading about a method gives no clue as to what the actual experience is like. For example, if you knew nothing about making love, but you read a scientific description of how to do it,
it would not seem like a very special way to spend your time. In a similar way, some of these techniques may sound strange, but they can create miracles in your life.
One last thing. Although the methods here don't take long to do, they are powerful. When we try to change ourselves in any way, resistance inevitably shows up. Expect it. Anticipate resistance, but don't let it stop you from giving these ideas and methods your very best shot. If you try the suggestions from this book with an open mind and heart, I know you'll be pleased with the results you receive.
section one
Feeling Really Good
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