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Tips I Learned, Caregiving for My Parents - J.L. Crawford
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CONTENTS
MY INTRODUCTION TO CAREGIVING
THOSE RECEIVING CARE COME FIRST
MAKING THINGS FUN AND LIGHT
GOING TO THE DOCTOR’S OFFICE
BRINGING FOOD TO THE HOSPITAL
TREATS TO THE BOARD AND CARE HOME
COMPLAINING ABOUT CARE
GETTING A FLU SHOT
PIZZA DELIVERY RESCUE
MAKING THE HOUSE SAFER
GETTING A PROPER METAL RAMP
USING A WHEELCHAIR
HAVING MORE WHEELCHAIR FUN
MAKING DRIVES FUN
OUR TIMING FOR GOING OUT
HAVING WATER IN THE CAR
USING A DISABLED PERSON PARKING PLACARD
VISION LOSS
EYEGLASSES AND SUNGLASSES
THINKING OVERSIZED
ADAPTING A TV TO WORK WITH A LAPTOP COMPUTER
OUR MEALS TIMETABLE
CUTTING FOOD
CRANBERRY JUICE, TOMATOES, AND BANANAS
TAKING OVER THE PILLS
REMOVING SCISSORS AND SHARP OBJECTS
DRESSING, GROOMING, AND PAMPERING
MAKING HANDRAILS FROM SWIMMING POOL POLES
BUYING A TALL TOILET
FINDING VITAL RECORDS
LEARNING ABOUT THE BILLS
ENTERING BANKRUPTCY
FINDING OUT ABOUT BOARD AND CARE HOMES
MOVING TO THE BOARD AND CARE HOME
MAKING THE MOVE TO A BETTER BOARD AND CARE HOME
GIVING THE ELDERLY A MOMENT OF TIME
THE VETERANS AID & ATTENDANCE BENEFIT
CREATING A LIVING TRUST AND POWER OF ATTORNEY
REVERSE MORTGAGE
BEGINNING PALLIATIVE CARE AND HOSPICE
HOSPICE CARE
NEVER SAYING HOSPICE
OR MORPHINE
MAKING FINAL ARRANGEMENTS
SAYING GOODBYE
THANK YOU, FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE…
In Loving Memory of Fran and Bob
MY INTRODUCTION TO CAREGIVING
My 94-year-old mom just passed away, less than two weeks ago; I took care of her for 15 years, 24/7, the first three while my dad was alive. Later, I would move her to a Board and Care home. In the beginning of caregiving for my parents, my dad was 75 years old and my mom 78. At this stage in their lives, neither of my folks were ill but both were having health issues.
I was in my 40s then, a single man, living near the beach in Southern California, and occasionally working in the film industry. I’d been working out of state and when I returned home, it was evident that my parents were in need of help, for their own personal health issues, their house, and other things. My brother and sisters had their hands full with their own lives and families which made them unavailable. So I stepped in, and literally moved back into my parents’ lives and the home I’d grown up in for 56 years, and I became their live-in caregiver. I had never taken care of anyone. I learned a lot right from the start and all the way to the end of their lives. Caregiving has it ups and downs and, for me, it was an enriching experience.
As I begin sharing with you some of the tips I learned in my years of caregiving, I have to mention that it was not easy; there were many times of frustration, exasperation, mishaps and emergencies, and nasty things to deal with. I write this to take away any notion that everything was all peaches and cream. Caregiving is hard physically, mentally, and emotionally and caregivers get tired and worn out and can lose themselves.
I remember a friend saying, It’s family, this is family.
-- I’d think of those words often when I’d question this situation that I found myself in.
My intention in writing this book is not to tell you what to do in your caregiving, but to share with you a few tips that I learned and used, how I did things. It’s my wish that you may find even just one tip here that will be helpful to you, your family, and your parent(s).
A wise repairman, who came to our house, told me, Caregivers are blessed.
THOSE RECEIVING CARE COME FIRST
Please let me share with you this philosophy I used while caring for my folks -- I put my parents first, ahead of me and anyone else in our lives. This was not always easy but it did ensure that they were never neglected or receiving poor attention, treatment, or care. This rule was really only for me to know and live by; I doubt if my parents ever knew it, it was just the way I chose to do it, a way to keep me honest.
I decided that when it came to preparing and serving meals, that the best