Finding Who to Marry: Practical and Biblical Wisdom for Spouse Selection

By Samson Ajilore

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover,everyone becomes a poet"-Plato. “By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher"-Socrates. This book offers practical and biblical wisdom for spouse selection. It will show you the traps to avoid and the wisdom to follow. Among other things, you will learn: 13 kinds of men you shouldn't marry. 13 kinds of women you shouldn't marry. How to select a spouse. How to keep any relationship. Truth and tales of true love. The power of forgiveness. How to build a lasting marriage. And So Much More!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Jun 15, 2019
• ISBN: 9780359728596

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Finding Who to Marry: Practical and Biblical Wisdom for Spouse Selection

Finding Who to Marry

Practical and Biblical Wisdom for Spouse Selection

Samson Ajilore

Copyright ©2019 by Samson Ajilore

SAWO Media Publications SMP

All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review or scholarly journal.

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, NKJV-New King James Version. Other versions used include the Contemporary English Version (CEV), God’s Word (GW), The Message Bible (MSG) and the World English Bible (WEB).

ISBN: 978-0-359-72859-6

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DEDICATION

To the late Pastor Abimbola Rosemary Bimbo Odukoya (September 12, 1960 - December 11, 2005). An unusual woman of God whose life and teachings on relationship remains a blessing to the body of Christ.

WHY LOVE DIES BETWEEN TWO

Love is like a flower, it dies if not nurtured!

Whatever love that dies is uneven!

For love between two is a divine chemistry

A blending of two separate people into one!

If their yokes are equal

They shall flawlessly form!

If they agree not

They shall gradually falter!

If their love's measure rhymes not

It shall certainly crumble from imbalances!

But, if love be even and God approves

Then it shall be but an eternal bliss!

A TRAP OF TWO UNEVEN LOVES

Love that's uneven is tormenting!

Love that does not rhyme is not right!

Love that's imbalance is annoying!

If one sow love, love he must reap!

But if one reaps not as he has sown,

Then it shall be but torture and trauma!

Souls buried in agony for day and nights!

Their union shall be but a cage of sorrows!

A web of constant conflicts and complains!

A yoke of incessant regrets and rejection!

Two trapped in a prison of uneven loves!

-Samson Ajilore

INTRODUCTION

It was a breezy day, and the cloud was gathering for rain. She appeared in a beautiful blue gown. Her heels were high, but not her spirit.

What happened? I asked in my curiosity. Somewhere behind her innocent look was a deep-seated sorrow. The Gloria I know is always happy. Although she wore a beautiful smile, it was tainted by an ugly mood. Did she lose her job? Curiosity continues. It was like the story of Elisha and the woman who lost the son his prophecy produced. Something was wrong with her, but the Lord hid it from me (2Kings 4:26-27). Who says that prophets know all things? It is definitely not God. Gloria was confused. That's the first time I've seen her that way. What could have been the problem? I've not set my eyes on her in the past two years or so. She was my student in the school of life.

When she finally got close enough, she broke down in tears. A brother had collaborated with a prophet in her church to sentence her into a life of sorrow. They told her the Lord said to marry a brother that she hardly knew. As if she had no say in the matter. They played the will of God cord on her. Her parents were caught in the same prophecy web. She didn't like him, but they said God has chosen him. Her world was crumbling. How would she go against all these voices? She came to express her sorrows, and seek a possible way out.

Well, the answer is right before you, I said. Pointing with the longest of my fingers to a Bible I've used for more than fifteen years. I motioned for her to open to Amos 3:3. It was underlined. Can two people walk together unless they agreed? No prophet has the authority to force you to marry someone you don't enjoy. That's clear from that Scripture. One-sided conviction is unscriptural. Marriage is a journey of two. One person cannot decide it. Rebekah’s parent asked if she was willing to follow Abraham's servant to go and marry Isaac. Your will is very important. The Lord is not an author of confusion but of peace.

Her tearful eyes became brightened with a smile of satisfaction. Now, she has enough arsenals to contend for her joy.

Several years back, I found myself in a Church where confusion had set. The young people of that assembly believed that they could claim anyone they want for a spouse. They go about with such words as, The Lord said you’re my future partner. That of course made some people uncomfortable. Because it sounds like you don’t have your own free will. As if you must just marry anyone that The Spirit says to marry.

You see, nobody has the right to use prophecy to coerce or force anyone to marry another. Even God will not force anyone on you. He will only guide you in making the choice. Because, while He can live with anybody, you cannot. And you won’t enjoy everybody. The Bible asks in Amos 3:3, that can two people walk together unless they agree? You cannot just claim anyone for a spouse.

This is because the person may not want to marry you. A relationship works by agreement, and not by compulsion or carnal matchmaking. God doesn’t force people together. The conviction must not be one-sided if it is truly from God. This book is a product of experience. It is a compendium from years of studies and teaching seminars that has blessed countless from all around the world.

The teaching in this Bible-based spiritual book addresses the nature of personal prophecies.  It provides Bible wisdom to navigate through relationships without regrets.

I pray that the Lord by His precious Holy Spirit will open your understanding. And, minister to your heart as you study this insightful material.

"When love beckons to you, follow him,

Though his ways are hard and steep.

And when his wings enfold you yield to him,

Though the sword hidden among his pinions

may wound you.

And when he speaks to you believe in him,

Though his voice may shatter your dreams as

the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.

Even as he is for your growth so is he for

your pruning" -Kahlil Gibran.

CHAPTER ONE: NATURE OF PERSONAL PROPHECIES

If you are willing and obedient, You shall eat the good of the land; But if you refuse and rebel, You shall be devoured by the sword; For the mouth of the LORD has