Find Out Why You Are Unhappy: Start Living and enjoy life
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It seems only natural that happiness should flow from having more money. Even if they don't admit it, people still behave as though it were true. More money means you can have what you want and do what you want. The house you dream of? It's yours. The new car you desire? Here are the keys. So the puzzle is this: why do social scientists consistently find only moderate relationships between having more money and being happy? Some have even suggested that this moderate connection might be exaggerated. In reality money might have very little to do with happiness at all.
So, when people ask themselves whether money brings happiness, they immediately think of the big promotion and the big house. They conclude that because they have these things, they must be happy. In fact, people with more money and status are just more satisfied with their lives, not happier (before you scoff at this think about whether you'd rather be satisfied or happy).
Through nine chapters in this book, the author gives out the causes that generate unhappiness and the means to conquer them.
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Find Out Why You Are Unhappy - G.D. Budhiraja
Introduction
Ask any common man what he wants from life and most probably he will say that all he wants is to be happy. And we believe him, as most people want to be happy. They try their best to make themselves happy. They attend lectures, buy books and change their lifestyles in their efforts to find happiness. But do they succeed?
It appears that the majority of people most of the times do not feel happy. This is not the case of only those who do not get what they want in life. It is the same story with people who get what they want!
People with money and power know something that you and I do not know. Money and power do not satisfy the unknown hunger in them. We keep thinking that if we have what they had, we would be happy. Yet we never seem to reach the point where we are relaxed and feel we have arrived. Why should people with so many reasons to be happy still be unhappy? Why are so many people dissatisfied in so many ways? Everyone reaches desperately for happiness but it does not seem to come any closer. Are we expecting too much in life?
You know that a happy life consists of various elements. To enjoy life we need enough to eat and suitable clothing. We need a home for protection and rest. But these are just the basics. Pleasant companionship and good health are equally important.
But even those who have a measure of these things may still long for true happiness. The type of work a person does, or the conditions under which he works, may rob him of contentment. Or there may be conflict between husband and wife or between parents and children. Nor can we ignore the fact that the possibility of sickness or sudden death looms large over all of us. Do you believe that it is possible to cope with these and other problems in such a way that we can find true satisfaction? There is reason to believe so.
Happiness is possible despite all our problems.
Happiness is not just an elusive fantasy that occurs only in the movies. Researchers are discovering that we can learn to be more joyful and optimistic. While studying the strong points of individuals (as against weak points such as anger, guilt, fear, sadness), it has been found that happiness not only brings a pleasant feeling, it also has health benefits. It actually protects us against stress and helps us to live a more healthy life. Positive, optimistic and happy people live longer, some long enough to celebrate their centenaries.
How do we attain this elusive emotion? What does it take to be happy? Happiness is not something that can be felt or experienced at a given moment. It is, in essence, the quality of a whole life. Aristotle said that the man who had no need left to be fulfilled was happy.
But what happens when greed overtakes the sense of need. The thin borderline between need and greed tends to get blurred as the acquisitive instinct takes over and becomes the prime mover of human conduct and, eventually, a major source of misery. Plato, therefore, defined happiness in terms of harmony within the soul and equated it with the spiritual well-being of man.
According to J Krishnamurti, happiness is a state about which one is unconscious. It is only later when misery strikes that one realises how happy he was! In the ultimate analysis, much depends upon one’s perception and attitude to life. Two persons in similar circumstances are not equally happy or unhappy because their thinking is not on the same wavelength and their expectations are different.
A simple truth about happiness is that if you are waiting for it, you have missed the point. There is little correlation between the circumstances of people’s lives and how happy they are. We all know people who have suffered a great deal but generally remain happy. In fact, happiness is an inside job. If we choose the positive in different situations, we will be blessed and if we choose the negative, we will be cursed. This is largely our own decision.
In this book, I have tried to explain the causes of unhappiness. No deep philosophy will be found in the following pages. The remarks and suggestions made in this book are entirely based on a common-sense approach. Most of these suggestions are based on the result of recent researches made on the subject. Some of the techniques suggested are based on my own experience. I have myself acted on many of them and I can confirm that they have increased my own happiness. I sincerely hope that people who are unhappy today may become happy after reading and acting upon suggestions made in this book.
That will be my real reward, which will boost my own happiness in return.
—GD Budhiraja
Chapter 1
The Nature of Happiness
‘Do not worry, be happy’ a well-wisher advises. ‘I only want your happiness,’ intones a lover. ‘The Prince and Princess lived happily ever after’ goes the line at the end of a story. ‘Every man has the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness’ says the Constitution of the United States of America.
The common message in all the above words is that happiness is a desirable state of life. There are some basic drives in all of us through which we are motivated to act or react. The need for happiness is one of them. A housewife at home makes efforts to maintain a clean and tidy