The Marriage Reset Button

By K.C. Sodladla

What if I were to tell you that there is a way of resetting your marriage back to its original track? No marriage started on the wrong track. I don’t believe that any of the couples whose marriages are on the rocks today started out intending to hurt and break each other’s hearts. They started with the best of intentions but on the way, life happened and mistakes were made. Misunderstandings and at times plain ignorance sabotaged their marriages.

The Marriage Reset Button is set to be a marriage game changer. An opportunity for a second chance to reset and redo your marriage. The difference this time is that you have the advantage of knowledge and wisdom on your side. It’s like being transported on a time machine to your future and being educated on all the mistakes you are going to make and returned to your present with an opportunity to correct those mistakes. It’s an opportunity of a lifetime to all those who are married, a lifeline to those whose marriages are gasping for their last breath and a precious gem to those preparing to get married.

• Language: English
• Publisher: K.C. Sodladla
• Release date: Apr 21, 2020
• ISBN: 9780463127155

K.C. Sodladla

K.C. Sodladla is married to Zimkita Sodladla and together they are blessed with three children, Gift, Lidwala, and Ntando. He is an ordained pastor, a marriage coach, a motivational speaker, and an author of three books namely: A View From The Father’s Shoulders, The Art Of Building A Healthy Marriage, and The Marriage Reset Button.He is the founder and president of the Building Healthy Marriages Institute, an institution dedicated to building and enriching married couples to build healthy and happy marriages. Through the Building Healthy Marriages Institute, Khaya and his wife Zimkita conducts marriage seminars and workshops in different places and get to be invited to speak in churches, weddings, anniversaries, renewal of vows, etc. on the topic of singleness and marriage. He and his family make Port Elizabeth their home.

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THE MARRIAGE RESET BUTTON

Your Comprehensive Marriage Overhaul Manual

By

K C Sodladla

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Khaya Sodladla is married with Zimkita Sodladla and together they are blessed with three children, Gift, Lidwala and Ntando. He is an ordained pastor, a marriage coach, a motivational speaker, and an author of three books namely: A View From The Father’s Shoulders, The Art Of Building A Healthy Marriage, and The Marriage Reset Button.

He is the founder and president of the Building Healthy Marriages Institute, an institution dedicated into building and enriching married couples to build healthy and happy marriages. Through the Building Healthy Marriages Institute, Khaya and his wife Zimkita conducts marriage seminars and workshops in different places and get to be invited to speak in churches, weddings, anniversaries, renewal of vows, etc. on the topic of singleness and marriage. He and his family make Port Elizabeth their home.

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PREFACE

What happens to love after marriage? This is a very popular question among the married. What happened to the never-ending supply of flowers and chocolates he used to get me all the time, the endless phone calls, the magical dinner dates, and those long enchanting late afternoon walks? You might be saying to yourself: Yes we signed for better or worse but there seems to be more worse than better in our marriage these days. You think to yourself Nope, I did not sign up for this.

What if I were to tell you that there is a way of resetting your marriage back to its original track? No marriage started on the wrong track. I don’t believe that any of the couples whose marriages are on the rocks today started out intending to hurt and break each other’s hearts. They started with the best of intentions but on the way, life happened and mistakes were made. Misunderstandings and at times plain ignorance sabotaged their marriages.

The Marriage Reset Button is set to be a marriage game changer. An opportunity for a second chance to reset and redo your marriage. The difference this time is that you have the advantage of knowledge and wisdom on your side. It’s like being transported on a time machine to your future and being educated on all the mistakes you are going to make and returned to your present with an opportunity to correct those mistakes. It’s an opportunity of a lifetime to all those who are married, a lifeline to those whose marriages are gasping for their last breath and a precious gem to those preparing to get married.

INDEX

About The Author

Preface

Introduction

What will you learn?

Module 1

ALIGNING MARRIAGE EXPECTATIONS & BELIEF SYSTEMS

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: Conclusion

Module 2

THE THREE ANCHORS OF MARRIAGE

Sess. 1: Introductions

Sess. 2: God Anchor

Sess. 3: Trust Anchor

Sess. 3.1: Unpacked Bags Trust

Sess. 3.2: Fidelity Trust

Sess. 3.3: Motive trust

Sess. 3.4: Security Trust

Sess. 3.5: Significant Trust

Sess. 4: Love Anchor

Module 3

THE PITS TOPS OF MARRIAGE

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: The Anticipation Pit Stop

Sess. 3: The Comprehension Pit Stop

Sess. 4: The Self Assertive Pit Stop

Sess. 5: The Emergency Pit Stop

Sess. 6: The Collaboration Pit Stop

Sess. 7: The Resumption Pit Stop

Sess. 8: The Destination Pit Stop

Module 4

EMOTIONAL LOVE LAGUAGES

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: Words Of Affirmation

Sess. 3. Quality Time

Sess. 4: Receiving Gifts

Sess. 5: Acts of Service

Sess. 6: Physical Touch

Sess. 7: Conclusion

Module 5

EMOTIONAL DVDs

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: The Apprehensives

Sess. 3: The Loners

Sess. 4. The Eccentrics

Sess. 5: The Impervious

Sess. 6: The Divergents

Sess. 7: The Pretentious

Sess. 8: The Egocentrics

Sess. 9: The Cautious

Sess. 10: The Dependents

Sess. 11: The Unbendings

Sess. 12: Module Conclusion

Module 6

THE COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY TECHNIQUE

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: The Stopp Sign Tool

Module 7

MEN & WOMEN ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: The Motivating Values Difference

Sess. 3: The Primary Needs Difference

Module 8

COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: The Art Of Confrontation

Sess. 3: Body Tone

Sess. 4: The Voice Tone

Sess. 5: The Heart Tone

Sess. 6: Seek Counselling Intervention

Sess. 7: Toxic Confrontation Techniques

Sess. 7.1: Defensiveness

Sess. 7.2: Silent Treatment

Sess. 7.3: Aggressiveness

Sess. 7.4: Sex Deprivation

Sess. 7.5: Criticism

Sess. 7.6: Contempt

Sess. 7.7: Prejudice

Module 9

LEAVING AND CLEAVING

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: Leave Physically & Psychologically

Sess. 3: Leave Financially

Sess. 4: Leave The Family

Sess. 5: Leaving The Exes

Sess. 6: Leaving the Children

Sess. 7: Leaving Friends And Colleagues

Sess. 8: Leaving The Gadgets

Sess. 9: Leaving Work

Module 10

MANAGING MARRIAGE RESOURCES

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: Be A Team Player

Sess. 3: Keeping The Main Thing The Main Thing

Sess. 4: The Two Marriage Finance Fowls

Module 11

SEX IN MARRIGE

Sess. 1: Introduction

Sess. 2: Understanding The Purpose Of Sex

Sess. 3: Physical Aspects Of Sex

Sess. 4: Psychological Aspects Of Sex

Sess. 5: Things That Happens In Your Brain During Sex

Sess. 6: Spiritual Aspects Of Sex

Sess. 7: Sex Imprinting Concepts

Sess. 8: Mastering The Art Of Lovemaking

Conclusion

Questioners

[EB 001] Marriage Overhaul questioner

[ED 001] Emotional DVD Diagnostic Questioner

INTRODUCTION

Marriage is a decision of choosing to become one with the one that you intend to spend the rest of your life with. This though is easier said than done. The prevailing divorce rates and abusive marriages in our communities imply that marriage is not as easy as those still outside sometimes perceive it to be.

Some found out the hard way that when the wedding day is all wrapped up and the last dance has been had, everybody will leave your glamorous wedding venue carrying your gourmet meals with their grateful stomachs; leaving you to do your marriage. The million-dollar question is: Were you ready for this important life journey with your partner?

Tragically many young couples invest a lot of energy and resources in making their wedding day a memorable one and foolishly forget to invest as much if not more effort into making their marriages admirable and pleasant life journeys and they are still paying for that mistake up till now.

You might be currently going through a rough patch in your marriage or even contemplating throwing a towel as you purchased this manual. For some, this might be a lifeline to their gasping marriages. Some especially the younger couples might have observed the challenges facing marriages all over the world, the high rate of failing marriages and the trail of heartaches and broken dreams they leave behind and are desperately searching for a guarantee that theirs will not be part of those statistics.

Guess what? I have great news for you. This might just be the best investment for your marriage. Over the years as a marriage coach, I have observed that many marriages do not fail because of the lack of money, physical looks or even lack of love. Yes, I agree that all the above are good to enhance your marriage, but many marriages end up in divorce because of ignorance. Love, money, and looks are not enough to build a healthy marriage but knowledge does.

You can love your expensive and eye-catching sports car but if you do not know how it works, you will not be able to fully enjoy it or even worse you are