The Life of Your Choice: Moving from ''Oh, No!'' to ''Oh, Wow!''

By Daniel Bax

A remarkable story of recovering from a shattering accident—and how the author achieved what others said was impossible.

This is the story of a man who miraculously woke up after a catastrophic accident left him unable to talk or eat, with his left side completely paralyzed, and with no memories of his past or who he was. He spent the next five years piecing together his past and relearning how to speak, eat, and walk—all things the doctors had assured his family he would never do again.

This book gives us his story and the methods he used to achieve what conventional wisdom said was impossible—and serves as an inspiring, helpful guide for readers who want to replicate his success in their own lives.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Open Road Integrated Media
• Release date: Sep 1, 2012
• ISBN: 9781614483144

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A STORY UNLIKE ANY OTHER

Life brings you what you ask of it. Thoughts equal actions, actions equal outcomes, and outcomes equal your destination in life. So…what are your thoughts?

This is my personal account of that wild day in the fall of 2005 when I made decisions that would change my life forever. Here is how it all began.

At the time, I thought life was great. I owned two businesses that were growing fast. I was achieving my goals, and I was involved in mountain bike competitions and other outdoor adventure sports. I decided one day to take one of my clients’ motorcycle for a test ride. Thinking to stay away from traffic, I rode down country roads. I was taking preventive measures to protect myself from injury and to keep from damaging the bike. These precautions were important because I ran two businesses, but truth be told, I felt untouchable. I felt in supreme control of my actions. I just didn’t remember that the universe will play into all that you think on and speak on—it will bring it on.

As I was riding down the back roads, I came up on a line of cars in front of me. Wanting to get away from them and get myself back into a safer environment, I proceeded to pass a row of six cars, through an intersection at the crest of a hill. Everyone knows, you don’t do this. And you especially don’t do this while on a motorcycle. As I was passing these six cars, the front vehicle, a van, made a left turn. It was still a good distance in front of me, but as I attempted to weave around it I was going so fast, the bike started sliding the moment I hit the brakes… so I slammed into the back of the van.

My left shoulder slammed into the rear panel support pillar of the van, pushing it in twelve to fourteen inches. When my head smashed through the back window, the impact shattered my left hand and left knee, split my tibia vertically, crushed my brachial plexus (the nerve network originating in the neck and controlling the hand, wrist, and shoulder), and collapsed my left shoulder. The momentum from hitting the van dragged me through the window. Shards of glass sliced open the left side of my neck, severing the sternocleidomastoid muscles, jugular vein, vagus nerve, and all the other arteries and tendons, all the way to the esophagus. According to onlookers, I was then tossed straight up into the air, over the streetlight. As I came down, I landed on my face, smashing my lower jaw wide open, breaking most of my molars in half, and knocking out a tooth. I fractured my neck at the first four cervical vertebrae, and my mid back was knocked out of alignment at the thoracic vertebrae T6 through T8. As if that weren’t enough for one day, I lost four out of five liters of blood—two liters in my lungs and two liters in the ditch—and my brain endured anoxia for thirty minutes, from the moment of the accident until I got to the hospital.

One of the onlookers called the police. The police said they were rarely in the area, but they just happened to be two or three minutes down the road. The police called for EMS, who just happened to be on the highway already, and their next exit was the one leading to me. They were only five to ten minutes away from the accident scene, when normally it would have taken them about twenty minutes to get there. EMS then called for air transit to take me to the hospital, and although they are usually on a mission somewhere, that day they just happened to be flying above us when they were called. It seems God had it all figured out, and placed the units where they had to be to save my life. Apparently, my life’s purpose had not yet been served.

I was in an induced coma. The record shows that I was a 3 on the Glasgow scale: unconscious with no meaningful response and no voluntary movement. When I opened my eyes a week later, I was blind. The blow to my head was in a spot that affected my vision, which I slowly recovered later on. During this period, I was disconnected from the world, since I couldn’t talk or see and didn’t understand words. I lost all the skills I had learned since birth, so we can say I was a newborn trapped in a man’s body. Definitely not good, right? But actually, this was far from being not good—on the contrary, having a blank slate was the door to my spiritual awakening. Since I had no concerns of any kind, I could listen to my inner voice. This is why meditation and silence are so important in our lives. Through silence, we connect to the Source, God, or whatever other name you may have for it. We just need to learn to listen to our spirit because, since it comes from the Source of Life, it has access to all the answers. This regaining of my connection to the spiritual realm is my most precious blessing. It was by listening to my spirit that I was guided through my healing journey.

The head nurse told my family that I was paralyzed on the left side of my body, which meant because of the paralyzed vocal cord, I wouldn’t talk again or eat solid foods. I was sitting in a wheelchair right beside him when he said this. I looked at him and said in my mind (because I was still mute from the paralyzed vocal cord), I’LL BE FREE. No one and nothing can ever hold me back. God created me, and God will heal me! My grandma, Cora, was the only one who stood up for me, because the rest of the family was still in shock with the news. As if she were listening to my thoughts, she said to the nurse that he didn’t know me and that she knew I would heal and do all those things he just said I wouldn’t do again—just wait and see. And before that, while I was still unconscious, I also had friends coming to visit me and telling me how they believed I would heal. My brain didn’t understand their words, but my spirit did. My family and friends would constantly play positive and motivational CDs from Anthony Robbins. This helped to reprogram my thoughts and beliefs.

At that time, I couldn’t move or feel my left side. As I became more conscious, I began to focus all my energy on wiggling my toes. I would focus on this all the time when I was awake. One day, my mother came in, and as she was washing me I pointed at my foot. She looked. Nothing happened. The fear of failure briefly rushed through my body. So I pointed again, and sure enough, I could wiggle my toe! I had been working on this for days to surprise her, until I finally did. Just because you try something a few times and don’t succeed doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel. You never know how close you are to success. Just as Thomas Edison said when he was working to invent the lightbulb, I have not failed. I’ve just found ten thousand ways that won’t work. So did I—I tried until I found a way to make it work.

Be ever grateful for the very least of things,

and the very most will come to you.

Four months later, I was moved to a new hospital and they asked me my goals. I said, I will walk out of here within one year! They told me those were high hopes and advised me to get realistic. About six months later, I was walking, and I made it my goal, when I left the hospital, to leave them the cane and the wheelchair I was using. Once I started walking again, I went back to the first hospital, where I was treated for all my injuries, to thank the surgeon, nurses, and practitioners who had taken care of me and who thought I would never recover. (And who could blame them, having seen me in such bad shape?) I walked in using the wheelchair as my support.

When the surgeon saw me, he backed up. You could almost hear his jaw drop. He called for the rest of the team who had worked with him on my case. They couldn’t believe their eyes! That moment, seeing the joy and wonder on their faces, made me feel more grateful than I had felt in years. And it’s my hope that I inspired them that day to have more faith in what we, as human beings, are capable of achieving with perseverance and belief. I consider myself successful if their vision of healing and recovery opened up wide enough to encourage other people in their care never to give up. That’s why I went back to thank them and show them I was able to overcome a bad medical prognosis with their help and care. I wanted to change the way they see their profession. I knew that I must fulfill my purpose in this life through encouraging the professionals in the medical industry. And when I succeed, many people under their care will benefit more and will avoid unnecessary suffering because of limited beliefs imposed on them about what they can achieve.

Since my rebirth, I realize that I have a mission and a purpose in this life. I had a calling, and I was procrastinating because my life was too busy and things were working out okay for me. It was because I was ignoring my mission in life that I hit a truck. It was my wake-up call. The years following that rebirth were really tough. They were also immensely fulfilling. That’s because I was finally open to listen to the same inner voice that had been telling me all along what my purpose was: to share and spread inspiration, possibilities, guidance, and hope to as many people as I possibly can.

I endured thirty-four surgeries in thirty-six months, and between six and ten hours of rehabilitation daily for three years. Now, five years later, I am living independently. I re-create my life daily to live up to my purpose and higher values. I get to inspire and coach many to reach for the stars, break down all barriers, set new boundaries, and call into their life what they dream and desire. Now I am talking, walking, eating solid foods, and exercising using my left side daily. Nothing can or will ever hold me back from achieving my dreams and goals. I am opening up brand-new frontiers and setting new and higher standards for my life. Nothing will hold me back.

I must step up, step up, STEP UP!

—Anthony Robbins

I hope this challenge moves and stimulates you to become all you can. Allow your imagination to run wild to create the Life of Your Choice. You are worthy of all you desire!

Live with purpose; give with purpose.

Note from the Author:

This book is meant to help you accomplish your goals. To achieve them, I suggest picking one goal to focus on as you go through this book. Each chapter has four parts: explanation, example, experience, and exercise. It’s vital that you complete each exercise before moving forward into the next chapter. Take as much time as you need to do it. The reason for this is that each chapter builds on the previous one. So take as much care building the foundation of your future as you would with the foundation of your house. Achieving many small goals will build up your skills and self-confidence to tackle bigger goals.

PART I.

AWAKENING YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS

MIND-SET

Let’s begin by defining mind-set. For the purpose of our journey together throughout this book, when we talk about mind-set we are referring to the set of beliefs you have that affect the outcome of all your endeavors. Or, if this helps you clarify it, mind-set is also a fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines how you will interpret and respond to situations. In other words, your mind-set determines your outcomes!

Of all the things in life you have ever attempted without success, if you had the chance to try it again with a changed belief and mind-set, success would be in your own hands, and your outcome would be substantially better. As you become aware of your mind-set and learn how to use it to your advantage, you will find yourself succeeding in everything you undertake! So… interested?

How are you going to start your new life? By changing your mind-set! In this chapter, you’ll take a look at some ways that have helped me do this very thing. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll start coming up with your own methods.

The first thing to remember is that by changing your thoughts, you change your emotional state. Change your emotional state, and you will change the way you act and, therefore, your outcomes in life. Thoughts lead to emotions, emotions lead to actions, and actions lead to outcomes. Outcomes design your life. This is how you get to choose your life!

Ask yourself the questions below, and answer them honestly. There are no correct or incorrect answers. Take all time you need to write down the answers to the following questions:

What is it that you would most like to change in your life?

Something in your personal life?

Something in your professional life?

Something in your relationships with people around you?

How important it is for you to make this change? Why?

What are your current thoughts regarding those things you would like to change?

Within your thoughts, what are the probabilities for the change to happen?

Identify the themes of those thoughts.

Do they have a similar pattern?

Do they represent how you act in front of others?

Do they point you in the same direction as your goals?

What effect do they have on your motivation to act?

How do these thoughts make you feel?

How do they affect your mood?

How do they affect your energy level?

What is your physical response to these thoughts?

Your answers are going to be your starting point, the result of your old way of thinking. They do not define who you are now, and most certainly not who you will become. You are already a changed person. I know this because you are holding this book in your hands, and are now motivated by your desire and intention to change your life. How radical or subtle this change will be depends completely on your determination and how open you are to change at this moment. There is nothing wrong with being who you are, any more than there is anything wrong with a piece of carbon. But under the right conditions, that piece of carbon can be turned into a diamond. And you can turn yourself into the best you can be. This is YOUR life. Own it! None of us can change the things that happen in the wider world around us. We cannot change people or the past. What we CAN do is change ourselves—change our perceptions, responses, and attitudes. And in turn, all those changes will alter everything around us, as well as our own outcomes.

From now on, as you wake up every morning, think of your marvelous self, of your magnificent life and all you will accomplish during that sliver of it that is today. Even though you may think your life is not as great as you’d like right now, begin creating with your thoughts the life you would like to live. Think of the way you plan your day. Mentally, walk through your day even before your feet touch the floor. This will help you gain focus and guidance toward your goals and will help you to avoid living life by default. Start your day off by complimenting yourself. Begin your daily words with I am . . . and then follow by stating what you want to see and feel in yourself, and who you would like to become. For example: I am feeling fantastic, I am extremely happy, I am successful, I am grateful, I am completely healthy, or I am completely healed. In the beginning, you may feel as though you aren’t telling yourself the truth, because you may not feel like the person you are describing. In those moments, just remember that the first step in becoming who you want to be is to think, feel, and act as if you already were that person. Everything begins with a thought. All thoughts are the seeds of something. Declare what you want out of life, and put your renewed mind-set to work. If your life is like a building, your thoughts are the blueprints—the design from which you build your life. Now you have the chance to change that blueprint to anything you want it to be! Now is the moment to become aware of the thoughts that will determine how you feel and how you act. Take those unsupportive thoughts that are not taking you forward towards where you would like to be, and replace them with supportive thoughts that give you options and open a world of opportunities.

Start creating your future in your present, thinking of ways you want events to turn out and what you would like to achieve in your life, rather than dwelling on things you don’t think you can accomplish, become, or change. If you don’t like the outcomes you have received thus far, there is something you can change within you to receive different ones. The question here is, how far are you willing to go to get what you really want? There is nothing you can do about the past. What you CAN do is to work in the present.

All that you think about and speak about, you bring about.

—Napoleon Hill

When you are working toward what you wish for, if, after several attempts, you see no change or progress, change the questions you ask! If you’ve been asking, Why can’t my coworker be nicer to me?" ask instead, How can I be nicer to my coworker? It isn’t why something happens to you that matters; it’s what you are going to do about it. Ask yourself how you can make things better, how you can see the lesson to be learned, and how this experience is going to make a difference