101 Mantras for Living with Really Happier Experiences in Life

By Ratan Budhani

These are some of the excerpts from the book.
• Why are we born? This question poses a great challenge for many of us. The best answer to this would be.....
• The poor long for riches, the rich long for heaven, but the wise long for a peaceful mind.
• In order to perform optimally you need to nurture your body. You wouldn’t fill your car with sludge, leave it in the garage for five years, and then expect it to win a race.
• Every day you are impacting the world, and every day you are creating your life through your thoughts. Think whatever you like, big or small, rich or poor, fair or unfair, and those thoughts will strive to become the things and events of your life. It’s an immutable law.
• Every human action is either driven by fear or by greed. Beyond the shadow of a doubt both are negative vibrations. One of the best ways you can MAKE yourself happier, in all your attempts, is begin to come from a positive vibration and that’s love.
• Your expectations can literally influence your real life experiences. So be aware and consciously choose to create positive expectation with everything you do...
• Do what you love and enjoyment will follow. Do what you love and you will feel more fulfilled. Do what you love and the money will seem less relevant. Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life. Alongside, love what you do and you come out a shining star.
• Enjoy the process and be willing to accept what comes your way. No matter how successful you are, if you have not stopped to enjoy yourself along the way, your success is half-full. Secret of happiness is not found in receiving more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy more.
• Mistakes come from: acting in ignorance or in innocence or through carelessness or acting hastily or acting in fear or acting in worry or acting in doubt or acting under anxiety.

• Language: English
• Publisher: One Point Six Technologies Pvt Ltd
• Release date: Oct 9, 2018

Ratan Budhani

Mr. Ratan Budhani is a seeker, a quick learner, a high thinker, a reader of self-help writings, a friend, an author, a coach and a guide. He is a keen student that keeps learning about one of the most wonderful subjects that's called 'LIFE'. This has always motivated him to look for various teachings, techniques and tools that can be helpful to everyone in taking control of their lives.He is an engineer turned management consulting professional, a passionate life success coach and an author with experience in different fields. Over the past 45 years, he has been a manager, entrepreneur, trainer and consultant. For the past 10 years now, he has been helping individuals to improve the quality of their lives, from complete transformation to significant awakening and awareness. With a rich variety of learning and training experiences behind him and a thoughtful mind he decided to share some of his best ideas and experiences in life with one and all and as a result he authored a book 'From Survival to Success'.Over the years he has been helping clients break through barriers in their personal, business and professional lives. He can help individuals with career development, money management, time management and organizational skills, improving relationships, coping with change, improving self esteem and creating a positive life-image. He is very passionate about helping people feel better about them so that they can lead richer and fuller lives.As a direct outcome of his real-life experiences he has realized that despite one’s circumstances or perceived limitations, one can develop the life and culture s/he wants. This may not always be easy as one will have to pass through many trials and hurdles, but with new perspectives, success tools and training and by re-framing our circumstances, one can overcome all hurdles and emerge as victorious.Seeking out the wisdom, knowledge & experience of others who have already been where people are at now is a valuable resource. And that's exactly what he offers people.A Question: Who lives a truly successful life?His answer: The person who lives life fully, all the time glowing with life’s positive energy.

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1. Check your responses

"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90%

how you react to it."

| Charles R. Swindoll

In contrast to the quote above the reality is that 90% of what happens to us in life is preordained or predestined and we can only control just a little in this life. We only have the power to control just about 10% of what is to happen in our life and most of the wiser people have said, about this 10%, the only thing we have control over is our responses to life, yet on some deeper karmic level we may not even have control over this too.

There is a hidden power and presence running through us that is so penetrating, it reaches into the very fabric of our thinking process. The Universe is always much more intelligent than we can comprehend. It is this divine intelligence that is truly running the show, and the more you can surrender your life to it and trust it, the more you will know exactly what you need to know, where to go and what you need to do to make your dreams come true in this lifetime.

Have you ever reacted to a situation or a person-and just a moment later, or may be several hours later wondered why on earth you acted that way or behaved like that? We do that more often than not when faced with stressful situations. As we see, not everything happens according to what we wish for and almost all of us face the similar kind of problems in life. Situations in a workplace like dealing with a difficult boss or colleague or spouse, promotions, transfers, department change, facing staff layoffs, or you suffer a financial loss for reasons beyond your capacity to understand. It’s called life. It may be a hard task to manage your emotions under these circumstances, but you have to deal with the situation suitably by clearly understanding that how people treat you are their karma and how you react is yours. Further, as it stands, you can control just about 10% of what’s to happen with you and in that little10% under your control your responses to all that happens in your life really matter much. So, your task cut-out is: Have measured responses and keep them under strict check.

All the mantras that you are suggested herein to learn, absorb and bring changes in your life are directed to strengthen your ability to respond well every day and live well. The smallest changes brought into your life may empower you to eventually make giant evolutionary leaps. You never know what next idea could cause a shift in your perception or trigger a fresh course of action, taking your life in a new wonderful direction.

2. Accept your responsibilities

The price of greatness is responsibility.

| Winston Churchill

The more aware we are of our responsibility, the more joy in life we will experience. A major part of our lives is consumed in fulfilling our responsibilities and doing what we need or have to do.

Responsibility, the word, is made up of two words: response and ability. This clearly means: ability to respond. Besides taking care of myself and the near ones, my highest responsibility is to become a better person today than what I was yesterday. How can I do that?

By responding well to each and every situation and accepting the full responsibility for:

MY THOUGHTS: All that we are is the result of what we have thought thus far. My destiny is ordained by me through my thoughts. Every single moment of my now existence is the result of my previous thought. Feel responsible for your thoughts and choose them very carefully.

MY WORDS: My words are the physical manifestation of my thoughts. So, I must pay close attention to the words in my speech that I use throughout the day. My words are my thoughts in motion, and they shape the reality around me. I shall see better results if I make an effort to be more mindful of the words that I use when speaking to myself and others. Feel responsible for your words. Your mouth is free to open but not without your permission.

MY ACTIONS: My thoughts become my words, my words become my beliefs, my beliefs have their influence on my actions, my actions become my habits, my habits become my character, and finally my character shapes my DESTINY. Feel responsible for your actions.

Resolve to be cheerful and pleasant in every situation. The strength and wisdom that come with such an attitude will lead to GREATER joy and happiness. It is a proven fact that a man is far happier when he has a good disposition than otherwise. Resist every temptation to respond to a situation negatively. What you resist persists. Approach every situation, favourable or not, from a win-win perspective. You have a choice about how you respond to things. Make sure that it’s always positive and constructive.

Responding constructively is not too easy. Sometimes it may require a large amount of discipline and moral courage. This is especially true in difficult situations (such as when you are tired) or when you are responding to events through habit. In the end you want to be victorious instead of being a loser and to be that you must be able to have complete control over the situation and yourself too. And there is no better way than keeping calm first and handling the situation in a more effective way.

We see and hear every now and then about instances of road rage. Where there is a road there is rage. After driving about 40 km, it’s just not possible to come back home without witnessing a scene of road rage. So, it’s not easily unavoidable and we have to learn to live with it.

What will come to your help when you become a victim of road rage? It’s your ability to respond well and come out of it with a win-win result. Instead of picking up a fight and ending up with lose-win or win-lose result try to be polite and settle the issue with a win-win result. In this way you will be much happier and leave others happier as well.

No one can take your attitude away from you. You alone are responsible for your thoughts and emotions. Business leaders these days have preference for those who can handle their emotions well, and work well under pressure.

How you orient your mind, the kind of attitude you take, greatly influences both you and your environment. Setbacks don’t define your life; it’s how you react to them that will determine your success.

Developing a mindset of cherishing the space between stimulus and response can make you more effective at delivering positive response. No matter what your situation is, whether you are experiencing financial problems, health issues, a relationship break-up, loneliness or simply feeling bored or stuck, YOU CAN turn things around and bounce back higher than ever and live in a happier state of life!

It is important to develop your ability and then put that ability to use in the best possible manner. Always respond positively and spread positive energy around you. Remember, in your response lies your growth, happiness, joy and freedom too.

3. Express gratitude whenever

you can

"Acknowledging the good that you already have in

your life is the foundation for all abundance."

| Eckhart Tolle

Having an attitude of Gratitude is one of the shortest paths to Happiness. As you enjoy yourself, take some time out each day to affirm who you are and what you are; then be grateful for all the things you have in your life.

People find it easy to thank God when they see many blessings in their lives, but how can one feel thankful when their lives go through rough patches or when they are hit by tragedy or when a situation seems awful? Your life may or may not be ideal in your eyes and there might be things you would still like to achieve and have, but regardless of that take a moment to reflect within and you will see that there are more than 100 reasons to feel good in your life... Of those, write at least 3 things down that you feel really grateful for in your life. For example, I am grateful for my daily achievements, I am thankful for some free time to write and I am grateful for my child and for my loved ones. Simply being alive and well is an amazing gift; anything more is just the bonus or icing on the cake.

It seems simple, but just by writing these things down will remind you of how lucky and how blessed you are. As you feel grateful for what you have, you shall start receiving more things about which to feel that gratitude. A grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best in life. Therefore, it tends to become the best. It takes the form or character of the best, and will receive the best.

Practice the simple act of gratitude today and surely some life’s magic will keep coming your way in some form or another. No matter what your personal situation, feeling gratitude will always lead to beneficial outcomes and will not only uplift you and others, but will open you up to greater abundance in all areas of your life!

So begin today by deciding to find 3/5 things a day to be grateful for? Count your blessings and express gratitude each day for them. Give thanks in all circumstances as a matter of habit.

If you practice gratitude every day it won’t take long before gratitude becomes your natural state of being, and when that happens you would have unlocked one of the greatest secrets to living a blissful life. The more gratitude you have in your life, the better and more graceful your life becomes. Develop the habit of being thankful and be really happy.

4. Try to be better than you

"You are the person who has to decide. Whether

you’ll do it or toss it aside; whether you’ll lead or will

linger behind; whether you’ll try for the goal that’s

afar; or just be contented to stay where you are."

| Edgar A. Guest

If you find that you’re comparing yourself to others and coming up short, it’s time to stop that destructive habit. Comparisons get you nowhere. Rather than leading to positive improvements, they only cause you pain and discontent, you become judgmental, self-critical, and your own worst enemy. Don’t hold yourself to the standards of others, wishing you could be better than the next guy. A better choice is trying to be better than you are. Moderate competition with others may be a good idea; severe competition may not be. Push yourself each day to learn more, be more, and give more. Compare your past self to your present self to really measure how you’re coming up with your skill sets. It’s up to you– and only you–to work for your goals on betterment.

You can always change and to bring about that change you don’t have to be better than others. You have to be a better version of yourself. You alone know when it’s time to do more, or to stretch more, to achieve more. You alone know what your inner vision of success is. You alone know when to exercise patience and when to strive forward. You know that we are not here to serve the desires of others but ourselves, so you only compete with you. Jesse Owens, who won four gold medals at the 1936 Berlin Olympics, later remarked that one’s inner life is the true Olympics. Life itself is an Olympics where we strive each day to better our own personal records.

This understanding helps you boost your self-image too because you’re focused on improving yourself and not trying to beat someone else in a race. Set your own standards and keep raising your bar at regular intervals. Remember, you have no control over what the other guy does but you have full control over what you do. So, do what is easier to do.

Each day you are on the concert stage of life so put up your best act and make it rock! There is no one else like you and whether you realize it or not, there is everything in you that makes you unique! Don’t try to conform to the others, be yourself. Take a second today to remember how valuable you are. Take care of yourself, love yourself much and accept yourself as the most important person in your life because you are completely unique.

For those who envy others:

Being envious of others simply refers to being envious of another person’s possessions or talents which include natural talents, abilities, looks, material possessions, etc. One becomes envious of others as they start focusing too much on personal lack: I don’t have this and I don’t have that and so on. You tend to look at other people’s success and compare yours with them.

So how do you come out of that envy? State what you do have, and know one important principle first: We are all unique and that there can only be one you and being you makes YOU unique and wonderful in your own way. As you are unique, it makes a little sense to compare yourself to others. You must know that you have some qualities that many other people don’t have. Thus, every day, each one of us has the power to positively impact others. Try to identify the best things about you... start to look within and start writing about. You will find there is something in you that others would envy about. Once you know it, you stop becoming envious of others. What you need to do is to just add on the things that are needed to develop yourself more, molding them into your personality.

Next, we each have our own journey. Define it clearly what YOU want out of your life. Find your own and don’t try to look at others to define it. You are a very unique individual, and therefore, what one person may want, you may not necessarily want. Get clearer on what you want so you don’t waste time and energy on being envious of other people. What happens when you clarify what you want and start to focus on your own journey? Your envy turns to admiration and inspiration. In other words, it starts working FOR YOU.

Don’t envy anyone. Envy does the same to our heart as rust does to iron. Never ever envy others better off than you. Your life is just wonderful as it is. Focus on good things in your life and not on what’s good in other’s lives. You will always find a life around that is better than yours or worse than yours but that is not your doing. Therefore, clearly understand that happiness is a state of mind and comes from the simplest feelings of gratitude and appreciation and not from envying others.

5. Build on ‘The Slight Edge

advantage’

"Success has a simple formula: do your best and

people may like it."

| Sam Ewing

What’s success? Success carries different meaning to different people. To some it could be good wealth and health and to some others it could be lasting and harmonious relationship. Some will find it in security, happiness and recognitions. Some others will find it in inner harmony that brings peace of mind or something that they love and enjoy doing the most. Freedom to do what one likes and living life on their own terms... all day long is like gold to many. In short, one attains success when s/he achieves the thing that s/he aspired for.

What can lead you to success? Each one of us craves for success and wants to win at whatever s/he is doing. Winning is important in life but more important is to know how to win? Too few people attain great success today