Esoteric Erotica: the Ultimate Practical Guide to a Sizzling Sex Life: Experience: Magic Sex, Profound Oral Sex, Great Sex Positions, Intense Orgasms and Acts That Keep Passion Alive

By Enakeno Victoria Oju

Wish for sizzling sex and you will experience it. All you need to do is just to wish!
Sex is a major factor in relationships. A lot of people shy away from discussing it but it is a very vital element in relationships. Most relationships suffer because of absence of it or issues with it.
In African culture for instance, everything that has to do with sex is painted with some form of taboo. We grew up to see sex as something that must not be talked about. There is so much secrecy about it. Hence, even sex education is hardly taught in schools.
If you are reading this now, it means you are ready to take your sex life to another level.
This book however, takes you away from all the inhibitions and reveals to you secrets of great sex. Explore these secrets and experience Magic Sex, Profound Oral Sex, Intense Orgasms; Great Sex Positions and Acts that keep passion alive.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Feb 12, 2014
• ISBN: 9781491892206

Enakeno Victoria Oju

Enakeno Victoria Oju is a Media Artist by Profession. Her work cuts across online, print and film media were writing is a way of life. She gathers information & news stories from different beats of life. She has worked in different media outfits and has been a sex columnist for over six years. She is passionate about making a difference in the sex lives of men and women and she is committed to having everyone wake up to do all it takes to possess absolute control of their sex life. She holds a B.A Degree in Theatre Arts, Master of Arts Degree in Media Arts, Masters in Business Administration and a Ph.D Media Arts Degree in view 2014.

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Published by AuthorHouse—02/07/2014

ISBN: 978-1-4918-9219-0 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4918-9220-6 (e)

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Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgements

Preface

Chapter One: The Art Of Sex

Chapter Two: In The Garden Of Erotica

Chapter Three: A Leisurely Stroll To The Erogenous Zones

Chapter Four: Before You Get Started

Chapter Five: Understanding The High Rated Erotic Intimate Spots

Chapter Six: Positions For Great Sex

Chapter Seven: Orgasm

Chapter Eight: Tips For More Fireworks In The Bedroom

Chapter Nine: Fanning The Flames Of Passion

Conclusion

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to my dad, Simon Oju and my twin sister, Othuke Vivien Ekamah.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I would like to personally say thank you to:

•  My parents Simon and Theresa Oju for their prayers and care.

•  My siblings Ochuko, Fuafo, Evi, Rex, Zito and Ono’s for always being there for me.

•  Uchenna Awom my former Bureau Chief at NigerDelta Standard who encouraged me to write this book.

•  Sandra Uche Ugboajah my former colleague for being a true friend.

•  Bonaventure Melah for his contributions.

•  Africa Eshogba-Olojoba for his encouragement and support.

•  Ikenna Agu for his contributions.

•  Papee for his continuous inspiration and support.

PREFACE

Sex is a major factor in relationships. A lot of people shy away from discussing it but it is a very vital element in relationships. Most relationships suffer because of absence of it or issues with it.

In African culture for instance, everything that has to do with sex is painted with some form of taboo. We grew up to see sex as something that must not be talked about. There is so much secrecy about it. Hence, even sex education is hardly taught in schools.

Some on the other hand would rather not have sex or commit fully to sex because of some fears. These fears are Universal. For women, the most common fears are fear of unwanted pregnancy, fear of moral, legal or religious punishment. Fear of overt or covert tendencies. Fear of intimacy or getting hooked and fear of social disapproval. These fears start early and are based on watching the behaviour of the prominent women in their lives especially the mother. Was this woman they grew up with someone who could give, as well as receive love freely? Was she self confident and comfortable with her own sexuality?

If she has modelled her herself after a positive woman, she will be prepared, by good example to look forward to sex with positive expectations, rather than with fear and anxiety.

Many women get disappointed in sex and conclude that they are abnormal or subnormal, because they don’t reach the same height of satisfaction their male partners do. Even though they are now trapped they remain trapped in their childhood patterns of thinking. They carry over into the sexual arena an aversion to seeing themselves doing something which was once called, ‘not nice for a girl to do’. When women cling to outmoded barriers, they lose the ability to enjoy lovemaking. Unless you are that rare woman who has never had orgasm issues, you need to do some corrective work on your responses. You will find techniques later in this book that will help you make the necessary changes.

For men the most common fears are fear of Impotence; fear of insatiable sexual demands; fear of losing self-control-not willing to be attached emotionally; fear that partner may become interested in someone else; fear of not being normal; fear of ‘small’ size of penis; fear of premature ejaculation as well as fear of social disapproval.

However, I’ve got news for you. Everyone, regardless of gender, fears something. And fear is completely normal. They do not magically evaporate when two people meet and fall in love with each other. But, the fear of failure is a sure way of making failure happen.

You have to banish those fears and step beyond all inhibitions. Take the necessary steps to address them. You will become a better lover and a fearless, strong person capable of anything your heart desires.

Get beyond all the inhibitions and make conscious effort and not only depending on how someone treats you. You have to validate your body and not wait for someone to put the stamp of approval on you.

The need to demystify sex in our societies and have everyone enjoy sex as it should led to the writing of this book.

This ultimate practical guide takes you away from all the fears and inhibitions. It reveals to you secrets of great sex. Explore these secrets and experience Magic Sex, Profound Oral Sex, Intense Orgasms, Great Sex Positions and Acts that keep passion alive.

CHAPTER ONE

THE ART OF SEX

The more you and your partner can arouse each other all over, not just through the penis or clitoris, the more sensual your lovemaking will become.

The Source of all Lives and all Pleasures

Someone once told me that if love is a god then sex is the way to serve it. Sex is the most powerful force in the universe. It is the source of all lives and all pleasures. It can be as arbitrary and can come in at the wrong time as it likes, but it is still the most mind blowing, intoxicating, illuminating, exhilarating experience in the world; the most respectable and holy thing in all creation, and the most serious act in life.

Sexual fulfilment is a great factor in human happiness. Beyond mere biological satisfaction, spiritual ecstasy is within the grasp of every mature person, who is both sensuous and adventurous.

For decades the emphasis has been on achieving the big O. Straining to reach orgasm has taken away much of the sensate focus on pleasure in the moment. We have become so intent on climaxing that our sensory responses are diminished.

The mind feeds upon the stimulation of all five senses. Upon meeting a new person, as we receive impressions, our mind sorts and determines whether this will be a future relationship. It is a matter of life and death that people take time to know each other.

Sex with love and commitment is the sweetest sensation almighty God ever created. I would trade anything for it. Too many people give up the search and live out their entire lives having sex with strangers. Well in every sexual experience you learn one or two things. But this behaviour I think is not appropriate. We live in a threatening world where we cannot jump into sexual relationships without rational thinking. Sex is a form of communication. It is an expression of what the heart feels. It is an expression of deep emotions; an expression of love. A way of saying I adore you and also a way of showing appreciation.

What separates us humans from animals is our ability to restrain ourselves. So why sleep with a prostitute or sleep around when you are not an animal? Why waste this precious gift on a prostitute or those who do not deserve it?

While sex is best when it is playful and spontaneous, it also needs to be thoughtful. Spontaneity will blossom later after you know more about a person.

There is a consensus of female opinion that men tend to rush sex, often cutting off a budding relationship before it fully blossoms. It is better to start warming each other up on a ‘slow burner’; you will both reach ‘full heat’ without strain or struggle. The longer you simmer, the hotter it gets.

When we slow down we are able to fully savour the pleasure of our senses. This way you will really get to know a lot about the other person. When passion is consummated with intercourse, it produces great pleasurable sensations.

"You have to reach out and learn to make the most of your natural assets… Explore each other’s body… ‘think sex’, ‘wish sex’, ‘talk sex’, ‘walk sex’ and ‘do sex’.

Magic Sex

Helen Gurley Brown in her book Having it all categorized sex into five kinds Namely; Magic sex, Intimate Comfortable sex, Friendly Sex, Casual sex and Scruffy sex. According to her, Magic sex the best of them all happens when you are falling in love. Intimate Comfortable sex happens with someone you know well and adore—your husband or longtime lover. Friendly Sex happens with someone you know and like but not that special in your life. Casual sex is anything from a one night to three weeks without a future but feels okay; then scruffy sex is with a new or old lover and you wish you hadn’t.

One can’t help but agree with Helen that Magic sex exists. "Having sex with someone you love and adore is magic. The crazy loneliness