Finding the Silver Lining in Divorce: What to Do When "I Do" Turns into "I Don't"

By Kendra Crowell-Hurd MA

When my husband and I were divorcing, the only thing we agreed on was that he did not like me and I did not like myself. Twenty-four years after saying I Do, I said I Dont. That decision propelled my on a spiritual, healing, mystical journey that continues to enrich my life. Healing during and after divorce or any trauma can be very challenging, even when you know it is in the best interest of everyone concerned. I wanted to figure out why I chose this particular person to marry, and how to make a more educated choice in the future. Those thought systems led me on a healing, self-discovery journey. After my ex-husband spoke through a medium and said, Sign up on the internet for your book, I decided to follow his advice! My wish is that this workbook will be a road map on your journey to empowerment.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Apr 24, 2013
• ISBN: 9781452571874

Kendra Crowell-Hurd MA

Kendra Hurd is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in private practice in Springfield, IL. Ms. Hurd is certified by Harvard Medical School’s Clinical Training in Mind/Body Medicine—a recognized field of medical research and practice that studies the effects of stress on the human body. Finding the Silver Lining in Divorce has been and continues to be a personal journey for Kendra, which she utilizes in her 22 year counseling practice to help others heal.

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ISBN: 978-1-4525-7186-7 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4525-7188-1 (hc)

ISBN: 978-1-4525-7187-4 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2013906034

Balboa Press rev. date: 04/23/2013

Table of Contents

Foreword

Preface

Introduction

Chapter 1   Physical Tools:

Chapter 2   Spiritual Tools:

Chapter 3   Mental and Emotional Tools:

Chapter 4   Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Tools:

Chapter 5   Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Tools:

Acknowledgments

Bibliography and Suggested Reading

Other References/Suggested Sources

About the Author

Also by Kendra Crowell Hurd, MA

Nurture the Garden Within, audiotape, 1996

For my deceased ex-husband, who spoke from heaven, saying Sign up for your business on the Internet at the exact time I received a mass e-mail from Balboa Press about self-publishing.

To all the gifted and talented authors who have shared their wisdom with God’s people on earth. Thank you for helping me rearrange my molecules.

For my deceased ex-husband, wIn the midst of difficulty lies opportunity.

—Albert Einstein

Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.

—Helen Keller

"Life is not what it’s supposed to be.

It is what it is.

The way you cope with it is what makes the difference."

—Virginia Satir

"I am lovable.

If, earlier in your life, others could not express their love to you, it was because they were blocked. Not because of some defect in you."

—Dr. Brian Weiss

Foreword

The only sadnesses that are dangerous and unhealthy are the ones that we carry around in public in order to drown them out with the noise; like diseases that are treated superficially and foolishly, they just withdraw and after a short interval break out again all the more terribly; and gather inside us and are life, are life that is unlived, rejected, lost, life that we can die of. —Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

When I first met Kendra Hurd, I was gripped by a fear that I would die with my life unlived, with all my passion and possibility unmet and unexpressed. Working with Kendra and the lessons of this book taught me to live in the question of a moment, and for that I am forever grateful. She said, Know your passion, pursue your passion, and let go of the end, meaning, once you know the seed of your desire, you simply need to water and care for it, and the dream grows itself. I did, and it did—and I never looked back. That day