The Stranger Inside of Me
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From the stress and horror of our wars (now Iran and Iraq), with the violent impacts in our most aggressive sports, to the mundane trauma of falling off a bike or getting hit in the head by a swing or a bat or a ball, the effects of Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) have become such an accepted way of life, that many do not even know that they have suffered a closed head injury and how dramatically it influences their everyday actions and reactions.
Its often frequent companion, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), is now so recognized that public violence and catastrophic natural disasters demand psychologists to minimize the effects of this recognized condition.
For twenty-seven years, the author has had to fight his horrible battle with TBI and PTSD alone, with little help from even the most informed.
In the last five years, these maladies have become widely recognized. Only recently has the medical profession and the news media discussed TBI and PTSD openly in televised documentaries.
The author, in a deeply personal and poignant way, has put into words the gamut of feelings, which so many others who suffer and deal with TBI and PTSD have been unable to articulate.
Randal H. Flutur
Born in Detroit, Michigan, and residing in a small northern Michigan town for forty years after earning bachelor’s and master’s degrees at Michigan State University, he has been a college professor, a psychologist, a registered tree farmer, and an entrepreneur. He is also a master photographer, concert pianist, and author of three books. He has had seven children and lost three, and he currently enjoys seven grandchildren. He has traveled halfway around the world and back and loves the beauty, peace, and solitude of nature. He has cheated death four times and has known joy beyond words. He believes that the truest and most positive qualities in life are beauty and kindness. He is a self-awareness advocate and believes that it produces great personal power in those who have it and use it. Finally, he believes that the road to God is through a relationship with his Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. Please enjoy and embrace the personal revelations in this book.
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The Stranger Inside of Me - Randal H. Flutur
LIFE WITH A HEAD INJURY
Forgive me - -
when I forget your name,
when I forget what day it is, or what place I am in,
when I sleep too long, fade away, or pass you by unattended,
when I ask you something that you have explained to me
five times before.
I am sorry for angry words
or the rage that makes me strike out
in ways that make me feel ashamed and estranged.
You see - -
I am just trying to find myself
in the memory of me that got lost
a tragic night ago.
My emotions are all confused.
They tell my body of things that cannot be.
So I try in vain
to be someone who is strange to me,
to be someone who I do not like
but now have to take as my own
because of a choice that is no longer mine.
A long sleep would be better - -
a sleep from which I did not wake.
There is no pain in sleep,
as there was no pain in the shock of the accident
that took my self away some fatal three years ago.
I cannot try harder - -
I am trying just as hard as I can
to live today.
I sleep so much to take away the pain.
There is not a minute of an hour in a day
that I am free of pain.
Inside, outside - - it is always there
as a reminder of the frailty of life.
I long for peace - -
the heat and the cold hurt my bones;
too much to see makes me confused so I have to turn away;
noise beats me down and makes me run for quiet;
odors turn my stomach sour and make it hard for me to eat.
I know now that I will never be the same - -
I am constantly fighting for things
that used to come naturally.
To yield means to give up
to me.
There was nothing before that I could not
conquer, master, or control.
I now am fighting for my life - -
firstly, not to take it,
secondly, to accept what I have left of me,
thirdly, to try to grow into a person
whose life will again have some meaning and purpose.
A NEW ME
I am sorry that I turned away
when your eyes caught mine today.
I have been looking at pictures of who I used to be
before my self was crushed into little pieces
a fatal night ago.
My eyes were filled with life and love and hope and joy
of a baby son soon to arrive and make my life complete.
I was in total control.
My life was written like a poem,
only to be acted out in time,
perfectly orchestrated and carefully sequenced,
with all of the players ready and rehearsed.
Life had been hard and lived hard with no restraints or
reservations. I was almost there - -
and then I hit the wall that I had been walking on for so long.
Head injured and unconscious, totally unaware
of who I was, where I was, why I was,
I was thrown into a new me
that I have to take, but do not like or understand.
I no longer feel - - I think my feelings.
I no longer act - - I react.
I no longer smile - - I cry out in my emotional pain
in the still small hours of the morning.
I no longer make love - - I just have sex.
I no longer relate - - I have confrontations.
I no longer control - - I am controlled.
I no longer know me - - I am lost in a new self
that desperately tries to protect itself
without any regard for the other.
That is why I can let you pass by,
not wanting