Be Strong: A Memoir of Bereavement
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All of these feelings are normal, and dealing with them gets easier with time. In this memoir, Joy Ekwommadu looks back at her experiences in order to help others
memorialize and honour a loved one who has died;
appreciate the most important people in your life while theyre still alive;
deal with the tremendous grief that comes with the loss of a loved one; and
understand the feelings of others who have suffered a loss.
Be Strong: A Memoir of Bereavement is also a tribute to Joy Ekwommadus late husband, Marcellinus Chukwuemeka Ekwommadu. He worked hard to be a success and to provide for his family, and his story is one worth reading and remembering.
Joy Ekwommadu
Joy Ekwommadu earned a bachelor’s degree in sociology and anthropology from Imo State University, Nigeria, and a bachelor of education degree and guidance study diploma from the University of British Columbia. An elementary school teacher, she lives with her three children in Mississauga, Ontario, Canada.
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Be Strong - Joy Ekwommadu
Contents
Preface
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Be Strong!
My Background
My Sweetheart
Hard Worker
Horrific Day
Life after the News
Trip to Nigeria
The Day
Lessons Learned
Life as We Now Know It
In General
Conclusion
This book is dedicated to my late husband, Marcellinus Chukwuemeka Ekwommadu. Emmy, as I fondly called you, you were the love of my life. I will forever cherish the brief but quality-filled life we shared together.
You will increase my greatness and comfort me again.
—Psalm 71:21 (ESV)
001_a_reigun.jpgMr Marcellinus Chukwuemeka Ekwommadu, 22 August 1972—21 October 2012
Preface
According to psychologist Abraham Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs, friendships and relationships are very important motivating factors in the quest to satisfy an individual’s needs.
The sudden death of my husband, Marcellinus Chukwuemeka Ekwommadu, created a terrible void. As I struggled through my loneliness, the need to express my inner feelings grew very strong. Unfortunately, I had just moved to a new province where there were no family or friends around me. In my need to be heard, I started writing as a means of relieving my soul. As my written thoughts and words developed, the idea of putting them together into a book was born.
When I reflected on the last days of my husband, I felt that something was lacking in the way his life ended. Everything about his last days seemed to be rushed, beginning with his last trip to Nigeria. He rushed off to the airport, and we barely had time to spend with him there.
His funeral was planned in a hurry. Within a week of his death, his mother died as a result of heartbreak, so his family thought both funerals should take place on the same day. I feel that because of the double funeral, Emmy did not receive the kind of honour he deserved.
The funeral program that was distributed to guests was incomplete and inadequate. Normally, in Nigeria a funeral program provides the guests with important information about the person whose funeral it is. Contrary to this popular norm, nothing was mentioned in Emmy’s program that could inform guests about the great man who passed so tragically. His biography was written in a rush, and many important details were missing. The most shocking part of the funeral program to me was the lack of a caption for the photo of Adaku, his beloved princess. People were left not knowing about one of his most treasured possessions.
So, I decided to write a book to accurately tell my husband’s story to friends and well-wishers and also to provide a priceless keepsake for my children.
Be Strong: A Memoir of Bereavement is my attempt to capture the life of a rare kind of man whose ultimate goal in life was to satisfy his immediate and extended family. He worked hard to be a success so that his children could look up to him as a role model. This book will also help satisfy my innermost desire to do justice to the memory of my late husband. As friends and well-wishers read this book, I hope that they, too, will share in my experience and learn a lesson or two.
Acknowledgements
Thank God for his special grace in my life and the lives of my children. In every situation we find ourselves, the Bible says we have to give thanks to the Lord, so I thank God for keeping me and my kids safe and healthy through this rough period of our life.
My family is very thankful to Mr Henry Cole and his wonderful wife and son for all their support. The test of a true friendship comes when the going gets really tough. Akin, you are truly Marcel’s best friend. May the good Lord grant you all your heart’s desires.
I remain grateful to my family (both immediate and extended) for all the support I received when I travelled to Nigeria. Without their help it would have been almost impossible for me to move on. I especially thank my mother, Mrs F. N. Okoro, for her gentle loving kindness and for reminding me that all hope is not lost.
In a very special way, I wish to thank all the families in the Greater Toronto Area, Ontario, and the Orlu-Okiegwe Association of Ontario. Thank you all for coming out to support and pray with me and my children. Especially Mr Samuel Okafor; his wife, Ngozi Okafor; Mr Barthlomew Emedoh and his wife Gladis Emedoh; Mrs Elizabeth Siqueira and Mrs Sonita Krishnan, thank you for your love, kindness, and spiritual and emotional support. It means a lot to my family.
I wish to thank the staff and families of St Therese of the Child Jesus, Our Lady of Mt Carmel Secondary School, and the Knights of St Columbus. You showed me and my family what it truly means to belong to a community of faith. I remain eternally grateful to you for all your support.
I also wish to thank Mrs Becky Arogie and family, and Mrs Ihuarueze Agoha and family, for their never-ending support. A special thank-you to the African Catholic Community, Surrey British Columbia; and the families and staff of the Star of the Sea School who rallied around and supported me and my family. Now, I believe out of sight is truly not out of mind.
Finally, I am grateful to the godparents of my children: Mr and Mrs Teddy Ibekwe, Mr and Mrs Uche Dike, and Mr and Mrs Madumere for all your spiritual and emotional support. You have shown me you know