Lemon Pie: Lessons from Unlikely Places to Nourish You in Troubled Times
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We are living in troubled times. Lest we forget, we are bombarded daily with updates and reminders of unemployment, economic worries, threats of terrorism, and war by mass media, political rhetoric, and marketing wizards who are serving their own agendas. As a citizen, mother, and psychologist who has spent hours counseling individuals and couples, I am as concerned as you are.
This is not the way humans were meant to live. Evidence abounds in nature, in positive interactions with others, and even in our own bodies, but the messages are subtle, quiet. They are there; we will receive them only if we are receptive to them. I believe that each of us came into the world full of potential and promisewhat I call a love story. What we do with it is our individual choice.
Lemon Pie was written as a reminder of a more joyous way to live and an antidote to messages expounding individualism, greed, and blame. Presented in brief, two- to four-page vignettes, each shares a lesson about compassion, forgiveness, or being our own best friends. Others focus on how we might communicate to feel really heard and the little miracles that occur when we listen with our hearts as well as our ears. Although there are discrete messages in each story, the themes of responsibility and self-ownership appear over and over again, for each of us was given just one life to nurture. How we share it determines the world in which we live and what we pass on to future generations.
I strive to become more aware of the lessons life presents to me and to recognize the value of trying to incorporate them into my daily living. Life is teaching you in the same manner. My hope is that
Lemon Pie
invites you to reconsider your own life lessons, so when you lay your head down at night, you can say with a sigh, I am content.Amelia Jo Mitchell Psy.D.
Amelia Jo Mitchell, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist who has worked for the California Department of Mental Health and the Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation. She is currently counseling members of the military and their families. She is the mother of two grown sons and grandmother to their five children. She resides in St. Louis, Missouri.
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Lemon Pie - Amelia Jo Mitchell Psy.D.
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What the Living Do
, from WHAT THE LIVING DO by Marie Howe. Copyright © 1997 by Marie Howe. Used by permission of W. W. Norton & Company, Inc.
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WestBow Press rev. date:11/16/2012
Contents
Preface
You Have A Love Story
Live Every Moment
Be Present
Be Accountable For One
The Devil Made Me Do It
Lessons From An Armadillo
Compassion
Our Own Worst Critics
I’m Sorry
Forgiveness
Happiness
Laughter And Tears
Sex
I Am Very Angry
The Inevitable
Don’t Defeat Yourself
Resentment
My World Might Not Look Like Yours
I Just Don’t Want To Fight Anymore
If He Really Loved Me
Lemon Pie
When Is Enough Enough?
The Beauty Of Diversity
Let’s Talk
The Purple Hat
Surprising Things Happen When We Listen
The Written Word
Gifting
Receiving Gifts
The Magic Number
Stress And The Family
Competence, Confidence, And Pride
Final Thoughts
The Desiderata
The Continuation Of Your Love Story
Bibliography
Dedicated to
My children and all children to follow with love and wisdom from past generations.
All religions teach that we should love one another; that we should seek out our own shortcomings before we presume to condemn the faults of others, that we must not consider ourselves superior to our neighbors.
Anonymous.
Statement to the forty-fourth session of the United Nations Commission on Human Rights
February 17, 1988
Geneva
Preface
In a country blessed with incredible wealth, resources, and opportunities, forty million Americans over the age of eighteen seek treatment for anxiety disorders, and one in ten (or 18.8 million) are diagnosed with a depressive disorder according to the 2011 figures from the CDC (Center for Disease Control). That is 18 percent and 9.5 percent of the United States population, respectively, and these figures do not account for those individuals who are not seen by a treatment provider. $48 billion of our national healthcare budget is spent on treating anxiety disorders alone. ¹ What can account for such an unprecedented prevalence of mood disorders?
Our society offers excuses for the bad (sometimes illegal) behavior of our leaders and role models and focuses on the immediate gratification of the self, possessions, and technology over human connection. This book was written in the hope that it may offer an accessible remedy for some of our ills and a reminder that there are better ways to live that may help ameliorate much of our distress. I believe that each of us is accountable for the contribution we make to this world and that by taking responsibility for ourselves, we will provide succor to our own souls for, in my way of thinking, the immeasurable cost is to the human spirit.
The idea of this book was first conceived while searching for a wedding present for my oldest son and his bride that would be a unique gift of love from Mother. Through my own life experience and many hours of counseling others, I knew that the love they felt so strongly at the beginning of their life journey together would be tested by the daily vicissitudes of life. Love and marriage, after all, are dynamic and are influenced by both internal and external forces.
But I am more than a mother. I am also a clinical psychologist and have spent much of my adult life listening to people in acute pain. I have walked briefly with them on their paths from heartache to health and hopefully helped them realize that they have power to change their lives if they accept responsibility and learn to live with generous, kind spirits.
The lessons that I have been taught by family, friends, and even strangers and recorded in this book are pertinent to all of us. They are about integrity, kindness, and taking responsibility for oneself, for that is the best any of us can strive for. Through the years, I have learned to recognize patterns that we humans seem to share in various degrees, despite our uniqueness. I share thoughts about relationships with you, sometimes offering advice as I do when counseling others, and sometimes reflecting back on my own life experience.
I offer what I know to be true, what I believe to be true, and random thoughts about how I learned about love and life. Take from it what you might find useful. My hope is that you will identify with at least one of these little vignettes and mindfully review your own life story. Perhaps this book can be a ready resource for encouragement when the quotidian tasks of life weigh you down and you forget that love, both of oneself and for others, really must remain the focus if life is to be joyous and satisfying.
Some parts of this missive speak more to the individual, some more to couples, and others to interactions in the broader community. I believe that the lessons contained herein are apropos to any relationship and worth consideration. It is through relationships with others that we learn who we are and how we fit into society. How we treat others has more impact than we might imagine; this fact is no more evident than in these stories I relate. I am quite certain that my sixth-grade classmate of whom I write in Compassion
would be surprised that his kindness left a lifelong impression on me, as would my friend who helped heal a very hurt part of my heart as I relate in Our Own Worst Critic.
I believe that we all have love stories. These stories begin when we take our first breaths—when life is full of potential and promise. There is no doubt that each of us will face challenges, insecurities, fear, and heartbreak as the years unfold. But life also presents laughter and joy, overwhelming beauty, and the opportunity to experience great pride as we use the talents and gifts bestowed upon us. What we choose to focus on and nourish will, in many ways, determine not only who we become, but also the tenor of the world we live in and