Single, Free & Loving It

By Elaine M. Lewis

This books is for all the single or divorce ladies that want a man, or can't find a man and maybe you are just tired of looking. You've been on blind dates joined the singles clubs but thought to yourself that I am approaching 30, perhaps you are way passed 30. You might even be middle age and never been married, you've always been the bride's maid but never the bride.

Well, what I have to say to you is to take a chill pill and get out of the searching business and into the preparation stage. Let yourself be found by your knight and shining armour. This book show you how to enjoy your singleness while you patienty wait on your soul mate. Don't worry be happy there is a man for you! please know that most people want to be loved but first you must love yourself.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Feb 22, 2012
• ISBN: 9781468524383

Elaine M. Lewis

I qualified to write this book because it is my personal life story, I lived through each physical sickness and emotion that an individual can possibly endure, a death sentence on my life being diagnosis with a life threaten disease of Lupus and my father’s death of colon cancer plus also the death of a brother in a car accident and the passing of my mother. Yes this qualified me to write the struggles that I had just trying to surivive. Also my dear mother suffering from complications of diabetes and blinding glaucoma with living 3000 miles away from home it was always on my mind if she was in the hospital or perhaps dying and me not being able to get to her to help.

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© 2012 Elaine M. Lewis

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Published by AuthorHouse 2/16/2012

ISBN: 978-1-4685-2439-0 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4685-2438-3 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2011962660

All scripture referenced in this book is taken from the King James Bible.

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CONTENTS

PREFACE

BE CONTENT

PRESSING TOWARD THE MARK

BEWARE OF THE COUNTEFIET

MAKING IT REAL

SO YOU’VE MADE SOME MISTAKES

FAMOUS SINGLE PEOPLE

PREFACE

This book is dedicated to all the single ladies who want a husband and have been wondering why you don’t have one. You’ve prayed, you’ve looked around and there is no perspective husband in sight. So you’re tired of waiting and you want to move on in a married life. Or perhaps you may need a father for the child that you had from a dead beat dad.

You may have stumbled in relationships that went absolutely no where; you wasted precious time with the wrong man. You want answers now. Well this book is written just for you. So just relax and while you read this book and let the Lord minister to your spirit.

BE CONTENT

Every day of your life serves a purpose. We wake up each morning with new challenges in our lives. I remember when I graduated from high school the world seemed large with adventures. I wanted to travel and explore new things. I desired to go to college but like many young people I didn’t know exactly what field I wanted to study. Many people travel down so many different roads in life, never connecting to a real sense of purpose in life; always drifting from one thing to another. I once read a poem by Langston Hughes that reads:

MOTHER TO SON

Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair;

It’s had tacks in it,

And splinters,

And boards torn up,

And places with no carpet on the floor—

The basic analysis of this poem is that life does not always turn out the way that you plan it, but if you allow God to direct your steps it would be the best life you could ever imagine. Being single is not the end of all. It does not mean you’re not in God’s plan. Sometimes in order to do God’s will it is better to be single. The Bible tells us that in I Corinthians 7: 32-33, "But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things of the Lord, but he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife". Being single, you have more time to follow God’s plan on building up his kingdom. For instance if you want to spend an entire day praying and praising God you can. You’re not concerned with time or the cares of this world. If God tells you to go and minister in a different part of the world, you don’t have to ask your spouse if they have received the same revelation from God as you did. Your only responsibility is to God alone and it is he only that you have to answer to. I remember one Thanksgiving I decided that I wanted to spend the entire day in prayer and fasting. I got up early and prayed for 8 hours. I was blessed I felt so renewed in my spirit and my heart was open to hear from the Spirit of God.

To be single and free is like a bird flying. You can go in any direction you feel that God is guiding you and if for some reason that direction is not successful, it is only God that you have to answer to. He makes no mistakes, if you are really being led by his Spirit. Singleness allows you a lot of time to wait on the Lord and you’re not in a hurry because it involves someone else’s life. Romans 8:14, "For as many as are led by the Spirit of God they are the sons of God." Never allow pity or boredom to enter into your heart because you are single. God has a plan for your life and everyone at one point in their life has to face being single, whether it’s through a divorce or the loss of a spouse. So whether you’ve never married or whatever the circumstances are that you are single you have to find contentment within yourself and that peace comes from God.

When I was in my twenties I had a friend who was desperate to get married before the age of thirty. She thought her happiness dwelt in someone else. She allowed loneliness and discontentment to enter into her spirit. So she married the first man that showed an interest in her and he happen to be on drugs. She married a man that did not share the same Christian faith as she did. She did not feel secure in her marriage and after a couple of years she left her marriage leaving a husband with two small children behind. The Bible clearly says in 2 Corinthians 6: 4 " Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness and communion hath light with darkness." What do you have in common with others with different beliefs? It states in the book of Amos 3: 3, Can two walk together unless they agree. You don’t need to be in a relationship to feel complete. Your completeness comes from God. Matthews 6: 33 says "but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you." People have many different motives for getting married. First think about what your motives and desires are. I once worked with a young man that wanted to marry a woman with pretty feet. How ridiculous that sounds, but many people have a preconceived idea of what they want their mate to look like and do not allow God to bring that person he designed for them. We watch television and read magazines that promote the idea that the better a person looks the more gratified you’ll be in a relationship. This is also ridiculous.

Years ago, I remember my father giving my mother a hug and saying that his feelings for her went beyond any superficial outside appearance. Please know that physical appearance changes from day to day. As we get older our appearance changes. Have you ever watched the growth of a child? He starts out as a cute baby but as the child grows he may grow into this awkward looking teenager and you wonder if that is the same baby you saw years earlier. I have seen grandmothers that once had a 23 inch waist but after having children that waist is now 40 inches. And everyone has seen how the average middle age man looks! Most of them just happen to have an enlarged stomach that usually hangs over their belt and some have a tendency to lose most of the hair on their head. So you see, looks don’t last. It may get your attention, but it’s going to have to be more than that for a relationship to last. God knows the desires of