The Beauty of a Woman: Her Four Emotional, Physical & Spiritual Phases
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Dr. Morgan explores a woman's needs, concerns, problems, passions, hopes and frustrations while drawing from the many confessions he has gained from thousands of women over the years. He guides the contemporary woman through the turbulent challenges and surprising pleasures that comes with each change in a concrete and compassionate way. Dr. Morgan reveals in this major new book that it is between puberty and post-menopause that life precisely happens and it is during this time that women are most likely to reinvent themselves and become masters of their fate.
The Phases:
Teens: A Time of Confusion and New Discoveries.
Twenties: A Time of Lifes Great Expectations and Ideals-The Superwoman
Thirties: Mid-Life Malaise-The Emotional Water Shed
Forties: The Climacteric Season of Change
Fifties: The Best of Life- Daring to Leave the Past Behind
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The Beauty of a Woman - Ray Morgan Omd
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Contents
A Message From My Lawyer
Foreword
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
CHAPTER ONE: STAGE ONE—PUBERTY AND ADOLESCENCE (AGES 10-21 YEARS)
Puberty—It’s More Than a Funny Word
Menstruation
Adolescence—Emerging into Adulthood
Let’s Look at Her Behavior
Let’s Look at Her Brain
Why This Phase is Especially Hard for Both Mother and Daughter
A Conversation with Your Daughter about Puberty
Be the Grown-Up and Stay Connected
CHAPTER TWO: THE FEMALE SEX ORGANS
Growing Up and Out (or Not)
Case in Point
Female Breast Development Stages
Pregnancy and Breast Development
The Female Reproductive System
Components of the Female Reproductive System
The Vagina Serves Three Purposes
The Purpose of the Uterus
Very Important Insights
The Menstrual Cycles—What Really Happens in Those Twenty-Eight Days?
CHAPTER THREE: THE EMOTIONAL AND NUTRITIONAL NEEDS OF THE ADOLESCENT GIRL
Adolescent Girls Need Dependable Parents
Is Your Self-Esteem Reflecting In Your Daughter?
Loving your daughter through her self-esteem issues
Her self-esteem is how she perceives herself
A lack of a healthy self-image often leads to behavior problems
Does a healthy self-esteem mean being narcissistic or arrogant?
Be her best cheerleader
Identify and redirect inaccurate beliefs
Breaking your own parenting pattern of the past
It’s time to leave mother and father (or home)
She sees the reflections in the mirror
Give her positive reflections
Your Adolescent Daughter’s Nutritional Needs
Whole-Grains
Vitamin D for Bone Health
Energy Requirements
Water
Physical Activity
Fats and Oils
Proteins
Calcium
Iron
Iron Deficiencies
Zinc
Zinc Deficiencies
Folate
Folate Deficiencies
CHAPTER FOUR: THE STAGES OF THE ADOLESCENT GIRL’S DEVELOPMENT
Early Adolescent Girl (11-13 Years)
The Eleven-Year-Old
The Twelve-Year-Old
The Thirteen-Year-Old
The Science of Gender Identity
The Middle Adolescent Girl (14-16 years)
The Fourteen-Year-Old
The Fifteen and Sixteen Year-Old
Keeping Order in Your Home Without Losing Your Daughter
Late Adolescence (17-21 years)
Your Daughter’s First Gynecological Examination
Explaining the Importance of the Exam
CHAPTER FIVE: STAGE TWO-THE GREAT EXPECTATION AND IDEALS: THE SUPERWOMAN (AGES 25-35) LIFE EXPECTATIONS
Attracting The Wrong Men!
Why Is She Blaming The Man?
So What’s A Girl To Do? These Men Will Always Be Around!
Know The Facts About These Types Of Men
Be Aware Of Their Deceptions
Learn To Decipher These Men
Do You Value Yourself?
The Proverbs 31 Woman
Always Let Your Mate Know How You Need To Be Loved
Case In Point
Love Lesson
Your First Love
The Childbearing Years
Healthy Habits for the Childbearing Years
Planning Pregnancy
You’re Pregnant! What’s Next?
High-Risk Pregnancy
Preparing for a Normal Labor and Delivery Process
Signs of Labor
Stages of Labor
You Are A Super Woman! Your Idealistic Dreams of Love, Marriage, Sex, Children and Careers
Case in Point
Plan Your Schedule
Lifestyle Change
Your Gynecological Visit
What to Avoid Prior to Your Pap Smear:
Pap Smear Classifications:
Twelve Things Every Woman in Her Twenties Should Know
The Super-Woman’s Nutritional Needs
Natural Treatments
Calcium:
Chaste Tree Berry
Magnesium
Evening Primrose Oil
Acupuncture
Dietary Suggestions
Exercise
Relaxation
Other Natural Remedies for PMS:
Your Spiritual Needs
The Four Spiritual Components of Women
Recommended Books for Childbearing Woman
CHAPTER SIX: STAGE THREE-MIDLIFE MALAISE: THE EMOTIONAL WATERSHED (AGES 35-45)
The Watershed Observations of Discontent
Observation
The Watershed Observations Of Discontent Continues
The Midlife Slump
From Denial to Transformation
Time Of Reflection And Questioning Of Life Choices
Case in Point
How Did I Get Here?
Observation
I Would Like To Get Pregnant
The Midlife Crisis
Single Again
The Loss of Your Authentic Self
Cultivating Your Authentic Self
Reclaiming Your Identity And Authentic Self
Financial Strategies During Your Transitional Or Watershed Journey
Numbness, Denial, Impulsiveness And Conflicting Advice
Divorce
How To Avoid Financial Traps During Illness
How To Avoid Financial Traps Before You Say I Do
Again
How To Avoid Financial Traps During Grief or Loss
Nutritional Needs For The Watershed Years
Your Spiritual Journey is Different, But It Continues
Questioning Choices In Life
You Shape Your Life By The Choices You Make
Sex In Your Watershed Years
CHAPTER SEVEN: STAGE FOUR-THE CLIMACTERIC SEASON OF CHANGE (AGES 45-55)
A Time When The Reproductive System Physically Shuts Down
Lifestyle Changes
The Climacteric Period
Postmenopausal Symptoms
Vaginal Bleeding
Vaginal Dryness and Itching
Hot Flashes
Bladder Infection and Stress Incontinence
Bone Pain and Fractures
How Long Does Menopausal Symptoms Last?
Treatment for Postmenopausal Symptoms
Postmenopause And Self-Esteem
Postmenopause Self-Esteem And Success Stories
Society and Menopause
Well-Being After Menopause
Hormone Replacement Therapy
Tips For Maintaining A Positive Self-Image During Postmenopause
Recommendations for Boosting Your Self-Esteem:
Emotional Well-Being
Sexual Well-Being And The Postmenopausal Woman
What Are Some Causes of Low Libido in Women?
At What Age Does Low Libido Occur?
How Do You Treat Low Libido?
What Role Does Stress and Other Mental Health Issues Play in Low Libido?
What Other Menopausal Problems May Adversely Affect Your Sexual Life?
An Important Note about Family Planning
Case in Point
Living a Balanced Life
Moving Forward from Here
What Should I Give Up?
CHAPTER EIGHT: ALONG THE WAY YOU MAY EXPERIENCE—DEPRESSION ITS CAUSES, SYMPTOMS, AND TREATMENT
The Best Way of Understanding Depression
Are There Different Forms of Depression?
A Few Basic Signs of Depression
The Causes of Depression Vary
Genetic Depression
Chemical and Hormone Depression
Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder
Postpartum Depression
Menopause
Stress
The Link Between Intimate Partner Violence And Depression
Depression and Other Coexisting Illnesses
How Does Depression Affect Adolescent Girls?
How Does Depression Affect Older Women?
Treatments
Prescribed Medication
Is It Safe To Take Anti-Depressant Medication During Pregnancy?
Anti-Depressant Side Effects
Final Thoughts
A Word from the Author’s Wife
A Word from the Author’s Daughter
A Word from the Author’s Daughters-in-law
About the Author
A Message From My Lawyer
This book is published under the First Amendment of the United States Constitution, which grants the right to discuss openly and freely all matters of public concern; and to express viewpoints no matter how controversial or unaccepted they may be. Medical groups and pharmaceutical companies, however, have finally infiltrated and violated our sacred Constitution. Therefore, we are forced to give you the following WARNINGS:
This book is intended as an educational reference guide only, not a medical or psychological manual. The information given here is designed to help you make informed decisions about your life. It is not intended as a substitute for any treatment that may have been prescribed by your medical professional. The author takes no responsibility for the misinterpretation and deliberate or accidental misuse of the information presented in this book.
Therefore, if you are ill or have been diagnosed with any disease or mental illness, please consult a competent medical doctor before attempting any natural protocol mentioned here. Remember any one of the protocols in this book could potentially be dangerous, even lethal. So if you must proceed, do so with CAUTION and with the knowledge of your doctor.
Foreword
Studies in child development outline every nuance of a child’s growth and have even given us comforting labels such as the Terrible Twos
or the Noisy Nines
as a way of identifying key transitional stages in our children’s lives. These studies have been crucial in helping us understand a child’s journey from birth to puberty. However, until recently, no guide has existed to help us understand the mysterious process by which we transition from an adolescent woman to an adult woman.
The center of a woman’s journey occurs between the years of eighteen and fifty. This is a time of change, growth, and opportunity. As a registered Clinical Social Worker, I have spent most of my career working with women who have had difficulty navigating through the different phases of their life’s journey during this time. I have personally likened this stage to the lifecycle of a caterpillar.
The caterpillar has a built-in genetic component that causes it to experience metamorphosis during the various stages of its life cycle. Each stage has a different goal but due to the natural instinct of the caterpillar it is oblivious to these changes. Similarly, a woman goes through periods of transformation where she takes on a different identity at each stage of her life. As she moves from adolescence (bridging the gap between childhood and womanhood) to menopause (the mature stage), she faces the challenges of meeting her emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. She is aware of these needs, but may lack insight into how to successfully cross the bridge during these stages.
Dr. Ray Morgan’s widescreen view of a woman’s life journey speaks eloquently to all women, as he brings wisdom and a coherent vision of these passages—teens, twenties, thirties, and forties—toward what can potentially be the best years of her life. In this book, he keenly provides a holistic view of the beauty of a woman in each stage of her life cycle. He meticulously identifies the nutrients necessary to properly nourish our bodies in order to obtain complete emotional and spiritual growth during each phase of her life cycle.
I had the distinct pleasure of working with Dr. Morgan, a man of profound intellect, for more than 20 years. He has a thorough understanding of the nature of the female gender. He is a teacher, counselor, and healer and has helped to mend broken lives through his knowledge of the Word of God.
Unlike the caterpillar, we are not oblivious to the emotional, spiritual, and physical changes we face with each phase. We read various materials that explain what we are feeling or facing, but sometimes before we reach or have a clear understanding of a particular phase, our bodies have moved on to a different phase! Because of this, we get lost in a sea of thoughts and emotions. It can be confusing and downright sad that we slide into stage after stage without a strong sense of what is happening. We often conform to how others view us and we tend to wear these descriptions as gloves that cannot be removed. It leaves us filled with frustration, anger, and a range of other emotions because it seems that we are just flowing through life without a purpose.
Go ahead and allow yourself to be immersed in this book, The Beauty of a Woman—Her Four Emotional, Physical & Spiritual Phases. It will unlock the keys to your wholeness and transform you into a beautiful butterfly.
Diana Brathwaite, LCSW/R
Preface
As a family therapist for the past thirty years, I have counseled thousands of women from all walks of life, many of whom were confident, loving, and giving of themselves. Some have had a difficult time with life, while others were angry, blaming, confused, dishonest, disillusioned, hurt, and have hurt others. I have found that almost all of their problems were the result of not having the tools needed to navigate their journey from childhood into womanhood and its massive need for a healthy body: emotional, physical, and spiritual.
Often I would ask these women to chronicle their feelings as an initial therapeutic tool. With their permission, I am sharing a few of the notes and letters I have received after my conferences and workshops. Their names have been changed to protect their privacy. These women share their agonies, fears, disgust, wants, disappointments, longings, confusion, love, and faith. I noticed for a time that these women were held in a life of uncertainty, confusion, and clarity all at once. Sometimes their old way still wins, however, for most of the women there are always second chances (glorious second chances!) I have noticed the farther they went along their journey of womanhood and the more they grasped for truth, the more they unfolded.
Here are some excerpts from a few of the notes and letters:
Hi Dr. Morgan,
I came to your workshop today hoping to speak to you. I am a forty-two year old woman and my life is a mess. I got married for the fourth time last year. I don’t like or love my husband and I doubt if he loves me. We fight every week; he calls me an ugly bitch and a hoe [sic]. He broke my nose last Christmas and I spent the day in the hospital. He pushed me out of the bed. He hasn’t had sex with me in eight months. Dr. Morgan, I wish I was dead. Can you help me? Lots of things happened when I was young. My dad used to hit my mother. He used to call me a stupid bitch. He tried to kiss me once when I was little, and I fought him off; after that he never liked me. When I was twelve my aunt’s husband had sex with me. I had to go to the hospital. My aunt told the nurse I was raped by another man. The man went to jail for it. I have a college degree in Social Work. My mother always told me I was too sensitive, and need to toughen up. I cry/laugh all the time; especially if no one is watching. I suffered with depression in my teens and still do; I have had temporary amnesia. I can’t get my childhood out of my mind; it was very bad. I can’t seem to get that man who went to jail out of my spirit. When I am alone for a long time I think of killing myself. I can’t forget some situations and I think a lot about my mother and why she never fought back or defended me from my father. What did I do to deserve this life? . . .
Hope you can help,
Sara
36195.pngMr. Morgan,
Thanks for coming to my church today. I wish I could talk to you sometimes. You sound expensive. I had a bad childhood from what I can remember, and it’s been a journey, but I’ve come to a very happy middle ground… . I am a Christian, praise the Lord, Hallelujah. I trust no one. Just Jesus! I have a sleep disorder, or heavy sleeping. No best friends or friends, period! I can’t be honest about my feelings with anyone and I simply can’t find anyone to share them with comfortably. My parents had a drug problem and I had to raise myself and my brother. We didn’t have a childhood, I had two children by the time I was fourteen. I spent my childhood fighting off men. I am now fifty; I drink sometimes to take the edge off.
Glory to God,
Brenda
36058.pngWritten on September 1, 2012
Hi Doc,
Hope you don’t mind, but I’m gonna have to do this a little bit at a time, It hurts and it’s kind of a long story. By the way, you helped me today to look at myself differently. My mom was in the Army when she got pregnant with me. From what I understand, my dad could have been one of two or three guys. She always acted like she resented me, and I never could live up to her expectations no matter what I did or how hard I tried. I was molested by her brother when I was like eight or nine, and when I told her about it she slapped me and told me to stop lying.
Right after that she sent me to live with my grandmother in the West Indies. It was horrible, what a really messed up place. My grandmother hated me. The couple of times that my mother sent me clothes, my grandmother gave them to my cousins and her friend’s little daughter. The teacher was prejudiced against me because I was American. She called me names and made me feel like I was worthless. I remember when I had my first period. I told my grandmother I was bleeding. She said she didn’t have a pad and sent me to school without one. I bled all over the place. It was so embarrassing, the teacher called my grandmother to pick me up. When she got to school she gave me a beating in front of the other kids in my class. That night I ran away from my grandmother’s house. For the next three days I slept in the park under a bridge. My grandmother’s friend took me in for the next month, and they let me call my mother in Brooklyn. I told her I wanted to come home, she said there wasn’t nothing she could do about it, so I would have to stay with them for the next six months until she could send for me.
At that time I was twelve, I didn’t hear from my mother until I was fourteen and a half. During that time I was raped by no less than fifteen men at the house. My mother came only when I stabbed one of the men trying to rape me; he died and I spent eight years in jail in Jamaica for it. I am out now and live in Brooklyn, New York. In jail, I became invisible the best I could. I didn’t really trust anyone. The few times I did, I got beat terribly. This went on for quite a while until my cell mate slapped me around, that is when I snapped (I actually didn’t know when it happened). I snatched her up by her hair and beat the hell out of her until she ended up in the corner bloody and unconscious. No one ever bothered me after that.
Today, I am twenty-nine. I have had a hysterectomy, mastectomy and suffer with digestive and psychological problems. Doc, I believe my bad childhood had a lot to do with my problems today. I live in a small room by myself; I don’t like being around other people. I would like to go back to work so I hope someone will help me. My mother is my only family here, but we don’t talk. I don’t