Sissy Boy: Feminized and Loving It

By Alyson Belle

Hot, young people all over the world are in the middle of a modern sexual revolution: Unlike the older generations who came before us, we’re blurring the lines of gender and identity in ways that are affirming, sexy, fun, and exciting, both in and outside of the bedroom. This revolution isn’t about abandoning traditional notions of masculinity and femininity—what fun would that be? No, this is about expanding those definitions.

* Why should women get to be the only ones who feel attractive and desirable?
* Why should men get to be the only ones who feel powerful and dominant?
* Why should what we like to do in the privacy of our bedrooms define who we are as a person?

This book by bestselling romance and erotica author Alyson Belle is your blueprint and permission slip to play with gender roles, express your deepest sexual desires to your partners, explore your fantasies, and not feel the least bit ashamed about it. Why let your fantasies remain fantasies? There are people out there who would love to play with you in exactly the way you want.

Each of the book’s chapters will explore a different facet of your feminization and femdom play, as described below.

Chapter 1: Power and Consent
This chapter discusses dominant and submissive roles in sex and introduces some important concepts for any kinky bedroom play, including responsible use of power, enthusiastic consent, defining and respecting boundaries.

Chapter 2: Female Domination
This chapter provides an introduction for women who will be taking a dominant role in their bedroom play (femdom), explains how to develop the self-confidence and mindset necessary to play the domme in the bedroom, and suggests actual activities and methods to play with a submissive partner.

Chapter 3: Feminization
This chapter provides specific, detailed advice for feminizing men, including crossdressing and clothing selection guidance, make-up tips geared toward making even the most masculine men as feminine and pretty as possible, and more ideas for fun activities you can try while feminized.

Chapter 4: Humiliation and Punishment
This chapter introduces humiliation and punishment as possibilities for your bedroom play and covers how to decide whether they’re right for you and your partner. Responsible BDSM play including the proper use of “safe words” is discussed.

Chapter 5: The Talk
This chapter provides readers with strategies and tools to talk to their partner, whether male or female, about their desire to try feminization and femdom play. It discusses commonly asked questions, such as “Are you gay?”, “Are you transgender?”, and “Why is our sex life now not good enough?” so that readers can reflect and prepare to have an open, honest conversation about those same topics with their partner. It also provides guidance for cases where your partner has no interest in participating in your kink, and suggests methods for finding new partners who may already be comfortable with the idea of feminization and femdom play.

Chapter 6: Advanced Maneuvers
In this chapter, readers will learn how to satisfy their exhibitionist and multi-partner fantasies in ways that are safe, legal, and considerate.
No matter who you are, what stage of your life you’re at, and whether you’re an experienced kinkster or a blushing newbie taking her first kinky steps with her partner, you’ll find something of value within these pages. So please, let us be the first to ask you: “Who do you want to be? What do you want to feel? And what would make you happy?”

You certainly have our permission. Click the “Buy” button and start exploring today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Alyson Belle
• Release date: Jun 15, 2018
• ISBN: 9780463153345

Alyson Belle

Alyson Belle is a bestselling romance and erom author who has had a passion for transformation and body swap stories for as long as she can remember. She now delights in sharing her passion with the world by writing some of the sexiest stories around. With Alyson in control, your hottest fantasy ever is always just a click away...~~~ Visit my site for a FIVE FREE BOOKS including a copy of Forbidden Flirtations, a sexy, sizzling-hot story you can only get on my website! ~~~ Copy and Paste URL: http://alysonbelle.com/free-books/

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SISSY BOY: FEMINIZED AND LOVING IT

A How-To Guide For Men and Women

by

Alyson Belle

Copyright © 2017 Alyson Belle

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This book is intended to be read for entertainment and ideas, and is not to be relied upon for expert BDSM or sex play advice. Any activities readers undertake should be done with extreme caution, independent research, and their personal safety and security in mind. Play activities are meant as suggestions only, and this book should not be relied upon as a how-to guide for any play with the potential to harm participants.

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Introduction: Sissy Boys and Dominant Girls

It’s a brave new sexy world out there.

Hot, young people all over the world are in the middle of modern a sexual revolution today: Unlike the older generations who came before us, we’re blurring the lines of gender and identity in ways that are affirming, sexy, fun, and exciting, both in and outside of the bedroom. This isn’t about abandoning traditional notions of masculinity and femininity—what fun would that be? No, this revolution is about expanding those definitions.

Why should women get to be the only ones who feel attractive and desirable?

Why should men get to be the only ones who feel powerful and dominant?

Why should what we all like to do in the privacy of our bedrooms (or in the privacy of our consenting relationships) define who we are as a person?

We’re no longer bound by age-old preconceptions of this is how men should behave or this is how women should behave, thanks to an increasingly permissive modern world that throws away the restrictive baggage of the past in favor of something lighter, sexier, and far more playful. Rather than an oppressive society that tells you this is how you have to be, our modern era encourages us all to ask ourselves a different set of questions, if we’re only brave enough to do so: "Who do you want to be? What do you want to feel? And what would make you happy?"

I wanted to write this book because it’s a book I wished had existed a decade ago, when my partners and I were going through our sexual awakenings and grappling with how to navigate desires that felt unconventional at the time. There was a lot of shame tied up in our feelings and not a lot of support or guidance. But the truth is that we were just repressed. We were carrying all of the baggage that the social norms of older generations had made us carry, and we didn’t have a blueprint to set it down and just have fun.

This book is your blueprint. This book is your permission slip to play with gender, express your desires to your partners, explore your fantasies, and not feel ashamed about it.

Whether you’re a woman who’s turned on by the idea of dominating, feminizing, and controlling men, or a man who wants to experience the thrill of feeling glamorous, sexy, and submissive, this book can help you learn how to explore those desires in a safe and consenting environment, free of judgment, shame, or embarrassment. You shouldn’t feel bad just because you think crossdressing or domination is sexy.

Why let your fantasies remain fantasies? There are people out there who would love to play with you in exactly the way you want.

Lots of people come into these topics terrified of what their desires say about them. They’re worried they’re gay, or transgender, or insufficiently masculine or feminine (and women have plenty of their own hang-ups around domination that can be just as damaging in different ways). Often they have family members or social circles that are vehemently opposed to what they see as LGBT culture, whether for religious or cultural reasons. That’s gay is an epithet that starts to get hurled at boys as soon as they’re old enough to understand that they’re different from girls, and the gender policing just gets worse from there. It’s easy to develop deep-seated and damaging ideas about yourself that say your desires are wrong and bad, and that having unconventional desires makes you wrong and bad.

But that’s simply not true. Sex is the most natural thing in the world, and gender identities, norms, and roles are heavily sexualized in our culture. It consistently baffles me how modern culture can spend billions of marketing dollars every year hammering it incessantly into our heads that lingerie is synonymous with sex and feeling sexy, and then people are surprised when men occasionally express their universal human desire to feel attractive and sexy by wanting to try on lingerie for a few hours—the object synonymous with desire in their heads.

Of course people are going to be curious about what the opposite sex experiences in sexual situations. And that’s okay! You can explore that curiosity without wondering whether it means something about who you are as a person, because you’re the only one who can claim an identity for yourself. No one knows you as well as you do. Dressing up like a woman or wanting to submit to your girlfriend doesn’t mean you’re gay. Fantasizing about wearing make-up and getting fucked by men doesn’t mean you’re trans. Wanting to dominate your boyfriend and fuck him with a strap-on isn’t something to be ashamed of, nor does it need to define the identity you claim outside of the bedroom.

All of those things probably just mean you’re horny and that you have an enlightened view of gender dynamics in the bedroom.

Embrace your kinks. Don’t let your hang-ups stop you from trying things you’ve always wanted to try. Sex is supposed to be playful, positive and fun!

This book discusses a number of topics related to female domination (frequently called femdom), feminization (which is men dressing and acting in traditionally feminine roles, often for sexual gratification), and integrating crossdressing and power play into your sex life. Not only does it explain how to do these things with lots of examples for scenarios to try with your significant other, but it also provides methods for talking to your partners (both male and female) about your desires in a constructive, affirming way, and dealing with common objections raised by people who are initially uncomfortable with the idea of expanded gender roles in the bedroom.

While this book will be most useful for people who already have a sexual partner and want to know how to introduce elements of Femdom or Feminization into their relationship, Chapter 5: The Talk does discuss methods for finding new partners who are sex-positive and open to your particular kinks.

Each of the book’s seven chapters will explore a different facet of your feminization and femdom play, as described below.

Chapter 1: Power and Consent

This chapter discusses dominant and submissive roles in sex and defines some of the terms used throughout the rest of the book. It also introduces some important concepts for any kinky bedroom play, including responsible use of power, enthusiastic consent, defining and respecting boundaries, and dealing with the unfamiliar emotions that may arise when you experiment with new sexual roles.

Chapter 2: Female Domination

This chapter provides an introduction for women who will be taking a dominant role in their bedroom play (femdom) with their male partner. The first half discusses how to make the most of your dominant role and explains how to develop the self-confidence and mindset necessary to play the domme in the bedroom, and the second half suggests actual activities and methods dommes can use while playing with their submissive partner.

Chapter 3: Feminization

In this chapter, there is an introduction to the theory and history of feminization play and some discussion of why men may find it sexy. The rest of the chapter provides specific, detailed advice for feminizing men, including crossdressing and clothing selection guidance, make-up tips geared toward making even the most masculine men as feminine and pretty as possible, and some more ideas for some fun activities you can try while feminized.

Chapter 4: Humiliation and Punishment

This chapter introduces humiliation and punishment as possibilities for your bedroom play and covers how to decide whether they’re right for you and your partner. Responsible BDSM play including the proper use of safe words is discussed, and many different types of both humiliation and punishment are proposed and defined.

Chapter 5: The Talk

This chapter provides readers with strategies and tools to talk to their partner, whether male or female, about their desire to try feminization and femdom play. It discusses commonly asked questions, such as Are you gay?, Are you transgender?, and Why is our sex life now not good enough? so that readers can reflect and prepare to have an open, honest conversation about those same topics with their partner. It also provides guidance for cases where your partner has no interest in participating in your kink, and suggests methods for finding new partners who may already be comfortable with the idea of feminization and femdom play.

Chapter 6: Advanced Maneuvers

In this chapter, readers will learn how to satisfy their exhibitionist and multi-partner fantasies in ways that are safe, legal, and considerate. Realistic risks from public crossdressing, public indecency statutes, and sex play with strangers are discussed, and recommendations for getting involved with your local kink scene and joining (or hosting) sex parties are provided.

Chapter 7: Erotic Media Adventures

The final chapter covers entertainment media that you and your partner can enjoy together to explore femdom fantasies, including cyber-sex in chatrooms or online videogames, actual virtual reality applications which exist today and can scratch your kinky desire to try wearing someone else’s body, and erotic gender swap and feminization stories and audiobooks which can be read together to enhance your pleasure during your play.

My hope is that no matter who you are, what stage of your life you’re at, and whether you’re an experienced kinkster or a little miss vanilla taking her first kinky steps with her partner, you’ll find something of value within these pages. I wrote this book not only to serve as an introduction to femdom and feminization play, but also to open your mind to the possibilities of a whole new world of sexy, fun adventures you might not have ever discovered otherwise. Everyone should get to experience the joy of exploring the whole range of their sexual possibilities, and I would hate to have a pesky thing like outdated social taboos get in the way of discovering that playing a sissy little submissive sends you (or your man) into toe-curling shudders of delight.

So please, let me be the first to ask you: "Who do you want to be? What do you want to feel? And what would make you happy?"

You certainly have my permission.

Power and Consent

Sex frequently involves elements of power: Having it, taking it, and voluntarily giving it up.

Many things people consider sexy express that power imbalance through acts of dominance and submission. Dance partners have a leader and a follower. Courting involves a pursuer and the pursued. Someone has to lean in to get that first kiss.

The dominant partner is the one that has or takes the power, and the submissive partner yields to that power. Both roles can be very fun and very sexy to experience.

For the dominant partner, the chase can be truly thrilling. Being in control of a situation, choosing what moves to make and when to make them, guiding the flow of the interactions to yield to your desires (or to fulfill the desires you know your partner has) can be immensely gratifying and empowering. For the submissive partner, being the object of desire can be enchanting. The ebb and flow of resisting and then yielding to your partner’s desires, allowing them to use your body for their own gratification, and the novelty of running into limits set by your partner that you’re not used to experiencing can all produce thrilling and raw feelings of vulnerability and connection that some people rarely get to experience.

Note that I’ve been very careful not to mention gender so far!

That’s because while it’s traditionally accepted that men are dominant and women are submissive in the bedroom, you don’t have to follow those traditions. Even if you do most of the time, you don’t have to in the bedroom! In fact, one of the sexiest things there is to do is to reverse the usual dynamics of a relationship during sex. Novelty is exciting and transgressive. Nothing is more novel than a usually quiet, submissive woman becoming a dominant queen in the bedroom, or a macho, confident man, experiencing what it’s like to be forced to shave his body, dress up in skimpy lingerie, and make himself pretty to the satisfaction of his partner. The excitement of experiencing unfamiliar roles can be downright intoxicating.

However, a very important point I want to make is that power is not synonymous with consent. A dominant partner is dominant by the consent of the submissive partner. So in a sense, the submissive partner has just as much power to control the situation by agreeing to be subject to it… or leaving. This is a commonly misunderstood point to those new to BDSM-adjacent sex topics: that’s it really the submissive who has the power, despite the fantasy you’re playing out together.

Fuck, Yes: The Importance of Consent

Enthusiastic consent is critical in any sexual interaction. Remember that you’re both here to have fun!

What I mean by enthusiastic consent is that there’s absolutely no question in your mind that your partner wants to do (or at a minimum, has told you they are comfortable doing) whatever sexual act or play activity you’re asking them to engage in. Being pretty sure that they’d be okay with it doesn’t cut it. A blurry, reluctant affirmation doesn’t cut it either. If your partner is dragging their feet and you’re begging, guilting, or cajoling them into something, you don’t really have their enthusiastic consent.

If you’re forcing someone to do something they don’t want to do, it’s not conducive to fun or sexy situations… whether you’re a man or a woman. If you’re unable to get that enthusiastic consent from a partner, you should start by exploring why with them and making sure that both of you feel comfortable and safe before attempting to go any further.

If, for whatever reason, they can’t consent to try something new that you’re truly interested in, you need to ask yourself if there’s another way you can satisfactorily explore your sexual desires. There are lots of ways to have a happy, healthy, sexually fulfilling relationship with your partner and still address your own needs. Sexual compatibility is a very, very important topic, and unfortunately it’s one that gets frequently overlooked in discussions of relationship compatibility. I discuss this in more detail and suggest some methods of addressing this problem in Chapter 5: The Talk.

Because of how sensitive people’s feelings and anxieties around taboo topics can be—and as permissive as we’ve become socially, exploring cross-gender roles is still considered taboo by a large portion of people—it’s incredibly important to have a frank discussion around both of your desires, expectations, and boundaries. If you want to have a fun, exciting, and fulfilling sex life, you must be respectful of your partner’s boundaries, or you’ll lose their trust (and their desire to fuck you).

Feminization, domination, and humiliation play all involve a lot of trust that your partner won’t hurt you or cross your own boundaries. This is why consent is critical and discussions about those boundaries have to occur before your fantasies can become a reality.

If it surprises you that you need to think about these things, it’s possible you’ve never been in a situation where someone has had sexual control over you before. Many women or sexually submissive men experience scenarios early in their lives where they did not consent to a sexual act that was being pushed on them. But sometimes, individuals haven’t had that experience before. If this is you, you might find yourself surprised that sex can be uncomfortable or scary in ways you’d never considered when you’re in a submissive role!

Even if your hottest fantasy is being fucked in the ass by a huge dildo and forced to take it all, you may discover at six inches in that you don’t actually want those last three inches.

This is why the dominant partner also has a very important responsibility to the submissive partner. If you’ve never been in a position of dominance, it can be really exciting to suddenly have all the power! You might be tempted to push things too far because you think it’s sexy or