One Day She Woke Up and Decided to Be Brave: A Woman's Journey from Fear to Courage

By Lyn Kelley

New, updated edition 2023. Dr. Lyn shares with you her most profound revelations – all of those that have given her strength, comfort and courage. Reading them can help you also turn your fears into courage. Each week for a year, she will give you thoughts, ideas and calls to action that will give you more power and strength than you can imagine.
We are currently living in a world full of terror.
All we have to do is turn on the T.V. and there it is – constant mass killings and threats to our personal safety. There are worldwide religious wars, religious extremist terrorists, ISIS, Jihad, the Taliban, etc. Closer to home, we have drug addicts, car accidents, plane crashes, thieves, school shootings, kidnappings, rapes, murders, riots, identity theft and all forms of criminal behavior. Then we have “acts of God,” such as earthquakes, hurricanes, tornados, floods, fires, tsunamis, deadly viruses, etc. There are more than enough things for us to be afraid of. It’s no wonder we are all terrified.
What can we do? We could choose to barricade ourselves in our safe room of our gated, locked, security guarded, super-reinforced brick walled homes. But eventually we would need to go out. It’s unrealistic to think we could always be protected, even in our own homes. Most people have ineffective coping skills, which only serve to make matters worse rather than better. If we allow fear to control us, we will eventually go insane. We have to find a way to cope with fear in a healthy way if we want to actually live. This book will give you the courage you need to tackle any danger or threat, and live a life of peace and joy. Each day you will wake up and decide to be brave!

Introduction: Life Is a Rush Into the Unknown
Week 1: Courage to Turn Fear into Faith
Week 2: Courage to Feel Good
Week 3: Courage to See a New Perspective
Week 4: Courage to Detach
Week 5: Courage to Face Uncertainty
Week 6: Courage to Confront the Truth
Week 7: Courage to Trust in Divine Intervention, Protection and Grace
Week 8: Courage to Let Go of Toxic People
Week 9: Courage to Pursue Your Own Happiness
Week 10: Courage to Feel Peace
Week 11: Courage to Be Queen
Week 12: Courage to Get Angry
Week 13: Courage to Handle Crises
Week 14: Courage to Accept Growing Older
Week 15: Courage to Face Criticism and Disapproval
Week 16: Courage to Ask for Help
Week 17: Courage to Have Fun
Week 18: Courage to Trust Yourself
Week 19: Courage to Go from Worrier to Warrior
Week 20: Courage to Say “No”
Week 21: Courage to Set Limits and Boundaries
Week 22: Courage to Stop the Insanity
Week 23: Courage to Use Tough Love
Week 24: Courage to Accept Others for Who They Are
Week 25: Courage to Face Reality
Week 26: Courage to Use Your Power
Week 27: Courage to Put Yourself First
Week 28: Courage to Speak Up
Week 29: Courage to Be Vulnerable
Week 30: Courage to Move from Scarcity Mode to Abundance Mode
Week 31: Courage to Trust Your Higher Power
Week 32: Courage to Not Panic
Week 33: Courage to Make Decisions
Week 34: Courage to Trust the Process
Week 35: Courage to Feel Your Fear
Week 36: Courage to Protect Yourself
Week 37: Courage to Forgive Yourself
Week 38: Courage to Act “As If”
Week 39: Courage to Accept the Things You Cannot Change
Week 40: Courage to Handle Your Financial Fears

Week 41: Courage to Face Conflict
Week 42: Courage to Overcome Illness
Week 43: Courage to Move Past Losses
Week 44: Courage to Seek Adventure
Week 45: Courage to Persevere
Week 46: Courage to Change
Week 47: Courage to Dream
Week 48: Courage to Make Declarations
Week 49: Courage to Show Appreciation
Week 50: Courage to Detach
Week 51: Courage to Love
Week 52: Courage to Be Brave

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lyn Kelley
• Release date: Jul 20, 2016
• ISBN: 9781370442133

Lyn Kelley

As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is "to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives." Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here's a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend's family invited me to a musical show called "Up With People!" This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn't care about my grades, I received all A's in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn't get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn't speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn't STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children's psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, conducted biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, s...

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One Day She Woke Up and Decided to Be Brave

A Women’s Journey from Fear to Courage

By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC

Table of Contents

Introduction: Life Is a Rush Into the Unknown

Week 1: Courage to Turn Fear into Faith

Week 2: Courage to Feel Good

Week 3: Courage to See a New Perspective

Week 4: Courage to Detach

Week 5: Courage to Face Uncertainty

Week 6: Courage to Confront the Truth

Week 7: Courage to Trust in Divine Intervention, Protection and Grace

Week 8: Courage to Let Go of Toxic People

Week 9: Courage to Pursue Your Own Happiness

Week 10: Courage to Feel Peace

Week 11: Courage to Be Queen

Week 12: Courage to Get Angry

Week 13: Courage to Handle Crises

Week 14: Courage to Accept Growing Older

Week 15: Courage to Face Criticism and Disapproval

Week 16: Courage to Ask for Help

Week 17: Courage to Have Fun

Week 18: Courage to Trust Yourself

Week 19: Courage to Go from Worrier to Warrior

Week 20: Courage to Say No

Week 21: Courage to Set Limits and Boundaries

Week 22: Courage to Stop the Insanity

Week 23: Courage to Use Tough Love

Week 24: Courage to Accept Others for Who They Are

Week 25: Courage to Face Reality

Week 26: Courage to Use Your Power

Week 27: Courage to Put Yourself First

Week 28: Courage to Speak Up

Week 29: Courage to Be Vulnerable

Week 30: Courage to Move from Scarcity Mode to Abundance Mode

Week 31: Courage to Trust Your Higher Power

Week 32: Courage to Not Panic

Week 33: Courage to Make Decisions

Week 34: Courage to Trust the Process

Week 35: Courage to Feel Your Fear

Week 36: Courage to Protect Yourself

Week 37: Courage to Forgive Yourself

Week 38: Courage to Act As If

Week 39: Courage to Accept the Things You Cannot Change

Week 40: Courage to Handle Your Financial Fears

Week 41: Courage to Face Conflict

Week 42: Courage to Overcome Illness

Week 43: Courage to Move Past Losses

Week 44: Courage to Seek Adventure

Week 45: Courage to Persevere

Week 46: Courage to Change

Week 47: Courage to Dream

Week 48: Courage to Make Declarations

Week 49: Courage to Show Appreciation

Week 50: Courage to Detach

Week 51: Courage to Love

Week 52: Courage to Be Brave

Don't Be Afraid

By Tyrone Wells

You feel the fear creeping under you

There's a current come to swallow you

Because you know there's nothing you can do

You've lost control and It's not up to you

Down on your knees, you're praying please

A voice is saying

Don't be afraid- it's all right you're not alone in the dark

you'll get through the night

Don't be afraid- I see you I know your name

And I know what you've been through

Don't be afraid Don't be afraid

Fear's a fire, the walls are caving in

You see the demons and the seraphim

The battle lines stretch from east to west

The war it wages when all you want is rest

It's all crashing down, still through the sound

A voice is saying

Don't be afraid- it's all right you're not alone in the dark

you'll get through the night

Don't be afraid- I see you I know your name

And I know what you've been through

Don't be afraid Don't be afraid

Perfect love casts out all the fear

It calls you closer, I hope that you can hear

Introduction

Life is a rush into the unknown. You can duck down and hope nothing hits you, or stand up tall as you can, show it your teeth and say ‘Bring it on, Baby, and don’t be stingy with the jalapenos!’

--Anonymous

I started keeping a diary when I was five years old. My grandmother gave it to me when she realized I was reading the newspaper aloud and taking copious notes about current events. On my fifth birthday she handed me a wrapped gift and said, Because you want to write. I was so excited when I opened it. My very own diary…with a lock and key! Now I could write out all my thoughts without anyone ever knowing them. It was the best gift I ever received. I still keep a diary to this day, only I call it a journal.

The reason this diary was so important to me was because I was a very shy, quiet, introspective child. Even though I came from a large family, I spent a lot of time alone. I needed a place to express my inner world, and was able to do that through writing. I was timid, fearful, sensitive, and always worried. Being observant and thoughtful were my strengths. I say thoughtful meaning always thinking, although I was thoughtful as in caring about others as well. But the second meaning has really been more of a deficit than a strength for me, because I cared far more about others than I did about myself. Therefore, I gave myself away, on a silver platter, trusting that people would reciprocate. It wasn’t until much later that I realized that some people, no matter how nice I was, would stomp on my platter.

Anyway, back to my thoughts. I had tons of them. More than enough for a five-year old skinny girl with small bones, freckles and long hair to hide her face. Most of my thoughts were scary. I was afraid of everything. Writing down my thoughts and fears was my best defense against going insane. And I suppose it still is! I’ve written 37 books so far…I don’t want to write…I have to write. Enough people read my books (and tell me they like reading what I write) to keep me motivated, and thank God, because otherwise I would be very poor.

When I was in Kindergarten, I thought it was strange that I was the only one in the class who already knew how to read. The teacher told my mother I should skip a grade, but I was already the smallest, quietest, and shyest girl in the class, and she was afraid moving me up would cause me to become even more introverted, or worse – bullied. My sister was in 2nd grade then, and one day she brought home some Nancy Drew books from the library and I devoured them. Then I asked my Mom to take me to the library so I could check out more books. This became a weekly ritual. My mother would say, Seriously, Lyn, you need to stop reading so much…the library is going to run out of books! I couldn’t stop. I had to read. But the reading caused even more thoughts. I started becoming a detective and a problem solver. I had to solve everyone’s problems. I found a new strength! Hence, my career choices….becoming a school teacher, then psychotherapist, then life coach, then writer.

So my books fueled my thoughts even more, which made me a bit crazy (and tired) but my diary was my sanity. I suppose I wrote the way other children talk out loud, because I couldn’t talk out loud much. My family talked enough for a small country, that is, when they weren’t yelling and fighting. I didn’t like the screaming...it scared me…so I retreated to my bedroom and yes, you guessed it, read and wrote. I was able to tune them all out and have them leave me alone.

Revelations

When I was nine years old I had my first revelation. My parents were going through a nasty divorce and I was lying on my bed crying. I started writing in my journal and then stopped. I couldn’t think of anything else to write. I asked God to help me, help my family. I finally stopped thinking and