Handing Back Control
By Ruth Embery
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There have been periods of time, events and instances throughout my life where God has taught me about myself, my desire to control my world and my circumstances, and about freedom. It has been a journey that has been quite painful at times. I liken it to when you have been gripping something heavy with your hands for a long time and you need to prise your fingers loose and they are numb and aching at the same time. However, I see it as a journey towards freedom. I am learning to let go of needing to be in control in some significant areas that show something of God and of what He values and desires for us and from us.
Ruth Embery
Ruth lives in the beautiful Dandenong Ranges, just out of Melbourne, Australia. Her passion is communication, which includes writing, blogging and speaking/teaching engagements. Other interests include pretty much anything outside, from bush to beach to mountains, travel, gardening, and exploring other cultures. As a teacher, she loves learning, and so is always investigating something new.
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Handing Back Control - Ruth Embery
Handing Back Control
Copyright 2015 Ruth Embery
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DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to every control freak out there, particularly those who are not yet aware of it. May you find the freedom and abundance that comes with letting go.
"I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance
(to the full, till it overflows)."
(John 10:10, AMP)
"Whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it."
(Matt 16:25)
- Jesus
Contents
Acknowledgements
Preface
Introduction
1: Handing Back Control of What I Have
2: Handing Back Control of Others
3: Handing Back Control of My Future
4: Handing Back Control of God
5: Handing Back Control of the World
6: Handing Back Control of Offence
7: The Life Restored
Conclusion
Postscript
For Discussion or Reflection
About Ruth Embery
Connect with Ruth Embery
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
I would like to thank the many friends who have encouraged me to write over the years, particularly those who seeded the thought that I could write a book. Of course, the major contributor in the department of encouragement has been my cherished husband, Martin, whose almost blasé confidence in my ability and what I have to say has often been all that has kept me at it. I would further like to acknowledge his wonderful creativity and design expertise in putting together the cover and title. Thanks also to my helpful friends, David Gallus and Helen Damster for donating their time and abilities to proof read and edit. It almost goes without saying that I also give thanks to God, without whom I would have no story to write. To Him be the glory.
It has been a long time coming, but here it is.
"He’s not a tame lion"¹
Preface
I stood at the top of the hill, hoping desperately that this was the last one. Several arguments were running around in my head. I was sorely tempted to give up. I was tired and aching all over. The fear that I am getting old and past it flashed through my mind. Not that I am a quitter, but I am over 40 now… No! It is simply the lack of exercise over the last couple of months that had reduced my fitness to about its lowest ever. I contemplated the hill again. It was a long way to the bottom. One voice started telling me that I would probably fall over at the point where there was a bit of a hillock. Either that or where the trail started to turn. Maybe even both. Another voice told me So what? You can get back up again.
(But I was sincerely starting to doubt the truth of that.) A louder voice yelled back Don’t be so negative! If you think about falling over, of course you will. Self-fulfilling prophecy. Decide you won’t fall over, be confident.
My husband, Martin, and I were having one of our rare weekends when our blended parental responsibilities were at their other parents’ homes and we were free to have some ‘us’ time. It was the first weekend of the ski season (actually, of a couple of ski seasons) where there was enough snow to ski and we were free! We had bought ourselves cross country skis a couple of years back, but the snow season had been so abysmal the last year we really hadn’t got out and used them much. It seemed a God-given opportunity, one of those times where you felt that you had been unaccountably and wonderfully blessed. The snow report said Excellent for XC skiing on groomed trails
. The weather was beautiful, with clear blue skies and no wind. There are really no better conditions for a day out in the bush skiing. However, at this point I was beginning to wonder whether God had blessed me, or whether He was actually having a great laugh at my expense.
As I continued to study the features of the hill, taking off my skis and walking it was starting to look good. But then it would take so much longer than skiing it, even if I did fall over. And I would probably only fall over once. Martin had skied ahead. I had told him to. He was full of supportive comments and instructions, but I was past it. I think he had realised it was time to leave me to my inefficient and pain inducing self. In fact, he was probably starting to get concerned at this point and wondering if he needed to come and rescue me. It was time to make a decision and move. I would do it. I was getting better and if I could just maintain my snowplough, I would be fine. Time to stop thinking and get on with it. All the instructions went through my mind as a checklist as I perched at the edge of the slope. Bend your knees, keep your back straight, weight over your heels. I used my stocks to push myself forward. The first stretch, I managed to keep my speed in check and my body under control. I tried to focus on just a little way ahead, occasionally glancing further along to be prepared for what was to come. I was doing ok. I was ok. Just as I began to relax, there were some bumps on the trail. I tensed and started to stress. My hips locked agonisingly and I had to shift position. And it was all downhill from there! My speed increased to out of control; I started to lose my balance. Out of nowhere, my arms and stocks began to flail wildly as I madly tried to make my body obey. Needless to say, I found myself, once more, face first in the snow, legs at unusual angles, although nothing damaged except my pride. I lay there for a while, wondering why it was so easy to lie in the snow, but so hard to want to get up again and hoping no one would come down behind me. Whether they were equally out of control and I would have to desperately try to get out of the way, or whether they were of that variety of people who look at you with pity as they glide by with confidence and ease, I was not in the mood.
I did eventually make it back to the car park without having to remove my skis. As much as I was struggling, I love cross-country skiing and will go back for more. I just wish that I could make my body do what it needs to, because that would mean that I would ski so much better and come home in far better shape.
Thinking about everything I have heard (though not mastered) about cross-country skiing, I see my experience as something of a life illustration. It shows me how holding on to control too tightly causes me pain and grief. Learning to let go of my fear, to try doing things differently, even when they feel all wrong is just as relevant for my life as my skiing.
My experience and observations, living in Western society, are that we hold a belief that we should be able to do whatever we want to do if we just focus on it and try hard enough. From soap operas, to