The Basic Instructions Before Lovin Eve- A Young/ All Man's Guide To Understanding Women

By K.A. Peoples

Did you know: According to the 2010 U.S. census, there is a 50% chance that you will be divorced within seven years and a 70% chance that (your future wife) will be the one who will ask for the divorce ; if you’re living in a state that has no-fault divorce laws, according to Margaret F. Brinig & Douglas W. Allen’s “These Boots are Made for Walking” Why Most Divorce Filers are Women . And surprisingly, 2011 U.S. census data showed that women were less likely than men to pay their child support. WHAT! A 1999 study done by the American Association of Blood Banks even shows that 3 out of 10 guys are raising children where they are not the biological fathers (simply put, women cheat). After breakup/divorce men between the ages of 20 and 29 are three times more likely to commit suicide than women. This was the eighth leading cause of death for all men living in the United States in 2005, according to the 2008 National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. As if that’s not enough, women are just as physically abusive as men, according to research done by psychologist John Archer and sociologist Murray Straus that reads:

“....men and women exhibit roughly equal rates of violence within relationships; some studies hint that women’s rates of physical aggression are slightly higher. This apparent equality is not solely a result of women fighting back, because it holds even for altercations that women start.”

Finally, According to the 2012 National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS), 53.5 percent of women were the perpetrators of child maltreatment, compared to 45.3 percent of men.

Well,what does this mean? It means that women are human beings not angels, and are just as capable of committing the same exact, shameful acts as us men! Young men growing up today in single-parent homes are being duped by social media, women’s groups, etc., into believing men are the ones who mostly screw up in relationships between men and women, leading to the breakup of the family household. We now know that this is the furthest thing from the truth. Consequently, this misconception has caused young men raised by single mothers to go into marriage with a misunderstanding of women and no understanding of the five basic principles of man-hood usually taught by fathers or other positive male figures. These principles are: builder, provider, protector, lawmaker and enforcer of his home and community. If a young man today does not have an understanding of these principles or is in company with a woman who is unfamiliar with these male traits, in my opinion, your marriage may be doomed, as the data shows. The Basic Instructions Before Lovin’ Eve, aka the B.I.B.L.E. is written to help good young men raised by single women understand the different types of women (good, bad, etc.) that are out there, the mind games to watch out for, your role as a man in your relationship, and even the court system (-if you find yourself divorced and seeking visitation to see your child). So before you put a ring on it, let the B.I.B.L.E. help guide you in your quest to search for your future Eve. But! When you’re in the abyss of love, you might not always listen to the advice given, because the heart does not always do what the mind tells it to. Whatever the case; this book’ (which comes from my 40 plus years of personal experience as a good man) will at least give you some understanding of the type of woman you’re in a relationship with, the strength of the relationship, and actions to take when a relationship fails.

• Language: English
• Publisher: K.A. Peoples
• Release date: Jul 14, 2015
• ISBN: 9780692479520

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THE

BASIC INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE LOVIN

EVE

Written

By

K.A. PEOPLES

Copyright 2015 by K.A. Peoples

DISCLAIMER

The author of this book is not an attorney. All information given comes from the writers own personal experiences. So before following any suggestions please seek the advice of a legal professional.

CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

WHO ARE WOMEN

DIFFERENT TYPES OF WOMEN

THE 52 FAKE OUT

THINGS MEN SHOULD NEVER DO

THE MARRIAGE

CHEATING WIVES

DIVORCE (THE 50 BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY)

FAMILY COURT

CHILD SUPPORT(UNCONSTITUTIONAL FORM OF SPOUSAL SUPPORT FOR WOMEN)

CONCLUSION

INTRODUCTION

What are little boys made of?

Snips & snails & puppy dogs tails,

And such are little boys made of.

What are young women made of?

Sugar & spice & all things nice.

Robert Southey (1820)

This old poem describes how our society sees most men today. This idea that women can do no wrong has been echoed mostly by today’s women groups, and supported by our current family court system. With over 63% of all homes currently run by single mothers (2010 U.S. Census) it’s no surprise that young men today buy into this idea; feeling like they must control this inherent evil that lurks within despite the fact that most guys love their mothers and no man wants to be labeled a woman-beater. So men do their very best to become the nice guy society says they should be! The young man who respects his mother and truly believes all women are sugar & spice and everything nice, that's how most mothers are so your future wife should be no different, right? Well, before you walk down that aisle or jump that broom, let’s take a look at a few statistics. According to the 2010 U.S. census, there is a 50% chance that you will be divorced within seven years and a 70% chance that (your future wife) will be the one who will ask for the divorce ; if you’re living in a state that has no-fault divorce laws, according to Margaret F. Brinig & Douglas W. Allen’s These Boots are Made for Walking Why Most Divorce Filers are Women . And surprisingly, 2011 U.S. census data showed that women were less likely than men to pay their child support. WHAT! A 1999 study done by the American Association of Blood Banks even shows that 3 out of 10 guys are raising children where they are not the biological fathers (simply put, women cheat). After breakup/divorce men between the ages of 20 and 29 are three times more likely to commit suicide than women. This was the eighth leading cause of death for all men living in the United States in 2005, according to the 2008 National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. As if that’s not enough, women are just as physically abusive as men, according to research done by psychologist John Archer and sociologist Murray Straus that reads:

….men and women exhibit roughly equal rates of violence within relationships; some studies hint that women’s rates of physical aggression are slightly higher. This apparent equality is not solely a result of women fighting back, because it holds even for altercations that women start.

This supports the statements made by Ms. Erin Pizzey, a woman credited for creating the first woman shelter back in 1971 for abused women in the UK. In her autobiography This Way to the Revolution: A Memoir written by Peter Owen. Ms. Pizzey: states that after establishing her first refuge, she determined that a majority of domestic violence was reciprocal, with both partners abusing each other in roughly equal rates. She reached this conclusion when she asked the women in her refuge about violence they experienced, only to discover that most of the women were equally as violent or more violent than their husbands.

According to the 2012 National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS), 53.5 percent of women were the perpetrators of child maltreatment, compared to 45.3 percent of men.

Finally, The Department of Justice (Bureau of Justice Statistics) released a report Rape and Sexual Assault Victimization Among College-Age Females, 1995-2013 that study, the rape and sexual assault of women (ages 18-24) on and off college campus. The term rape and sexual assault were defined by The National Crime Victimization Survey to include: a) completed and attempted rape, b) completed and attempted sexual assault, and c) threats of rape or sexual assault. The report showed that 1 in 52 women on college campus were victims of rape/sexual assault, not the 1 in 5 as previously reported. The report also shows a 50 percent, steady decline of rape and sexual assault of young women on and off college campuses.1 in 52 women being sexually assaulted anywhere in the world is nothing to be proud of! However, we can take pride in knowing, that, the steady decline of sexual assaults shows that we do not have a rape epidemic of young women on college campuses.

Have I gotten your attention yet? Thought so., well, what does this mean? It means that women are human beings not angels, and are just as capable of committing the same exact, shameful acts as us men! Young men growing up today in single-parent homes are being duped by social media, women’s groups, etc., into believing men are the ones who mostly screw up in relationships between men and women, leading to the breakup of the family household. We now know that this is the furthest thing from the truth. Consequently, this misconception has caused young men raised by single mothers to go into marriage with a misunderstanding of women and no understanding of the five basic principles of man-hood usually taught by fathers or other positive male figures. These principles are: builder, provider, protector, lawmaker and enforcer of his home and community. If a young man today does not have an understanding of these principles or is in company with a woman who is unfamiliar with these male traits, in my opinion, your marriage may be doomed, as the data shows. The Basic Instructions Before Lovin’ Eve, aka the B.I.B.L.E.  is written to help good young men raised by single women understand the different types of women (good, bad, etc.) that are out there, the mind games to watch out for, your role as a man in your relationship, and even the court system (-if you find yourself divorced and seeking visitation to see your child). So before you put a ring on it, let the B.I.B.L.E. help guide you in your quest to search for your future Eve. But! When you’re in the abyss of love, you might not always listen to the advice given, because the heart does not always do what the mind tells it to. Whatever the case; this book’ (which comes from my 40 plus years of personal experience as a good man) will at least give you some understanding of