Knowing The Game VL 1

By Gary Abra

0k I know the title of this book is a little misleading and it is meant to be however, the actual premise of “Knowing the Game” is not about teaching people how to be players, macks, pimps, gold diggers or any other adjective used to describe someone that has the ability to manipulate a square. Instead, my main objective is to turn a Square* into Aware*. This isn’t a self-help book and I’m not teaching you how to talk or act. I like to think of myself as a dating coach; in any league a coach has the experience of being the player so he’s not telling you anything that he thinks, he is simply stating information that he knows.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Gary Abra
• Release date: Jan 7, 2012
• ISBN: 9781465843616

Gary Abra

Gary D. Abra is a first time author who is generating a lot of buzz as well as controversy with his deep analytical opinions of the dating world. He takes from as his experiences and simplifies them in a way that anybody young or old can understand and relate to. He often says that he writes in an effort to clear up the guessing game of dating and even out the playing field for everyone.

Book preview

KNOWING THE GAME

Valued Lessons 1

2nd edition

Gary D. Abra

UntouchableGary

The Pulmonary Arterial Hypertension edition

Published by Gary D. Abra at Smashwords

© 2015 Gary D. Abra

All rights reserved. No part or portion of this book may be reproduced in any form without the permission of the author or publisher.

ISBN 978-1-329-04778-5

Contact: Gary D. Abra

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Other books by Gary D. Abra coming soon: Knowing the Game Vl 2, Cocktails Noir-memoirs of knowing the game

Special Thanks

Angela Lee Alex Harris Stephanie Wise Lamonica Gipson Aolani Donegan Brandi Sneed…Joneka Smith Shenita Harper Selena Ray Christopher Coffey Lakeisha Coffey Rhonda Wright Bryan Hill Garie Price Courtney Byrd Cadreisha Akinfe Camille Moukwa Gloria Bates…………..Charles McMillan DeDe Moore Hayward Abney III J. Kyle Nicholson Joshua Hamilton Juanica Thomas…..Keia Lumpkin Kobee Moore Makeba Jackson ……Pebbles McClain.. Quincy Williams Deborah Bolton…Shareese Williams Shnaka Walker.Clark…………Tariq Nasheed Gary Lillie Prince Huffman Jr…………………Vanessa Narcisse .. Jasma Johnson …Jamal J. Gulston………Kimberly Codrington Rita Jackson Photography Toni Gadsden Janet Laurent…Nikki Cofield LatissaChaNelle

And everyone else that commented on my post’s, influenced me to write this either directly or indirectly or just wanted to see me succeed. Also, a special thanks to all the women I’ve encountered in my life whether good or bad that gave me the experiences to be able to write this and all the fellas I chopped it up with and took pointers from.

Lots of males and females were hurt or helped during the making of this book…

Table of Contents

Introduction-

Lesson One: Being a Nuisance

Lesson Two: Body Language

Lesson Three: Be a Listener

Lesson Four: Trickin’

Lesson Five: Know Your Worth

Lesson Six: Get a Life

Lesson Seven: The More Things Change

Lesson Eight: Jealousy

Lesson Nine: Stay Consistent

Lesson Ten: Silence is Golden

Lesson Eleven: The 1, 2 Rule

Lesson Twelve: Tip Drill

Lesson Thirteen: My Standings

Lesson Fourteen: 20 Second Rule

Lesson Fifteen: 1st Kiss

Lesson Sixteen: Bad Boys

Lesson Seventeen: Appearance

Lesson Eighteen: Rejections

Lesson Nineteen: Was It Your Idea?

Lesson Twenty: The Embrace

Lesson Twenty 1: Make Moves

Lesson Twenty 2: Smell of Fear

Lesson Twenty 3: Calls and Texts

Lesson Twenty 4: You’re Not Alone

Lesson Twenty 5: Too Busy?

Lesson Twenty 6: Too Much Makeup

Lesson Twenty 7: Masking

Lesson Twenty 8: Out of the Blue?

Lesson Twenty 9: Bored Easy

Lesson Thirty: Such Irony

Lesson Thirty 1: Call Blocking

Lesson Thirty 2: Eye Contact

Lesson Thirty 3: 1st Dates

Lesson Thirty 4: Zero Tolerance

Lesson Thirty 5: Braggart

Lesson Thirty 6: All Talk

Lesson Thirty 7: Level of Patience

Lesson Thirty 8: The Name Game

Lesson Thirty 9: The Shoulder Rule

Lesson Forty: High Expectation

Lesson Forty 1: Publicity Stunts

Lesson Forty 2: Group Jobs

Lesson Forty 3: Confidence

Lesson Forty 4: Planning

Lesson Forty 5: The Truth

Lesson Forty 6: A Professional Dater

Lesson Forty 7: Save the Drama

Lesson Forty 8: Get Out!

Lesson Forty 9: Space and Time

Lesson Fifty: 1st Lesson

Bonus Chapter 1

Bonus Chapter 2

Dictionary of Slang:

Introduction

0k I know the title of this book is a little misleading and it is meant to be however, the actual premise of Knowing the Game is not about teaching people how to be players, macks, pimps, gold diggers or any other adjective used to describe someone that has the ability to manipulate a square. Instead, my main objective is to turn a Square* into Aware*. This isn’t a self-help book and I’m not teaching you how to talk or act. I like to think of myself as a dating coach; in any league a coach has the experience of being the player so he’s not telling you anything that he thinks, he is simply stating information that he knows. The coaches have been through the three-a-day practices and played in all kinds of weather. They know that the game doesn’t change so the best you can do is be better prepared and that’s what I’m here to do for anyone that chooses to read along and listen.

While you read keep in mind that this book is intended for both sexes. I did this because for one: I’m not sexists and two: men and women make the same mistakes all the time that they may or may not be privy to. So you will notice as you read along that I use the words they or he/she a lot to show the similarities in dating situations.

I will bet money that you will see yourself, someone you know, or someone that you have dated or heard about in this book. I’ve personally dated all types and had to listen to many, MANY stories about their failed relationships and dating experiences. I soaked all of that information in and put together all the similarities, while at the same time removing all the fabrications and embellishments to give everyone a dictionary on the whole dating scene. Most of you are already aware of what’s going out there but the number is far greater for the number of squares out there that have no clue what to do, where to start or where they went wrong.

I started off as a square myself, YES me! I was always shy and insecure about my looks or how to talk to women and this went on well into my early twenties. Back then there were no books like this out at least not until The Art of Mackin by Tariq Nasheed. I picked that up the moment it came out and applied all the principles that I wasn’t afraid to try and it was a big help! After I got rid of SquareGary and evolved into UntouchableGary I started noticing patterns with everyone that I dated. I was even so bold as to say or do things on purpose just to see if I would get the same reaction or response out of Jane Doe that I got out of Sharon Doe and of course, I did. So after many years of analyzing my successes and failures I one day decide to post a series on Facebook title Knowing the Game and received amazing feedback and encouragement to continue because initially I was only going to do maybe ten. As I kept posting I kept recalling different situations even pissing a few people off along the way because it was hitting too close to home for them I guess. Eventually, what started off as something for kicks and giggles turned into fifty lessons and at the urging of my friends now a book. However, the game is too big to just end with fifty lessons that’s why this is volume one and I’m well into volume three as we speak!

Nowadays everyone has a damn book out trying to get people to act and think in a certain way. These books only cater to one extreme either to males or females, where mine is going to call out both sexes and talk about the mistakes that both make. Some of these authors go wrong by assuming everyone is the same. If you are talking to adults you have to realize that they are not going to change because most are content with who they are but what an adult will do is listen and learn,