Sex & Marriage

By Sylvan Fredrick

Are you longing for a lasting and genuine relationship where sex is a product of love rather than temporary pleasure? Sylvan Fredrick wrote Sex & Marriage with that thought in mind. Discover the wonder of exploring sexual pleasure within the marriage covenant as God intended. Learn all of the elements of maximizing pleasure while lovingly giving pleasure to your spouse. Whether you are soon to be married or have been married for years, Sex & Marriage was written for you. From technical angles of physics/physiology of sexual intercourse to exploring toys, masturbation and oral sex, Sylvan gives a broad scoping exposition into all the elements of a healthy sexual relationship.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Sylvan Fredrick
• Release date: Mar 22, 2015

Sylvan Fredrick

Sylvan Fredrick is a scientist with great interest in medical research. He has a master of science degree in physiology and has conducted research in prostate cancer as well as other medical disorders.

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Sex & Marriage

Sylvan Fredrick, MS

Copyright 2015

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INTRODUCTION: Sex & Christianity

Sexual love (eros) is a wonderful expression of intimacy that was meant to be shared only between husband and wife. In Song of Solomon, the lover says,

Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine…..A bundle of myrrh is my wellbeloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts…His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me…My beloved is mine and I am his: he feedeth among the lilies….

If you are married or soon to be married, Sex &Marriage was written for you. As a Christian and physiologist, I want to present just how exhilarating the gift of love making is that God has given and ordained for married couples. I want to present some technical info (be patient) and then some fun tricks to try. Sexual love in marriage is a wide spectrum of pleasuring your spouse while delighting in their beauty and feeling their wonderful body as it rubs against you while making love. Some basic techniques and understanding of the body’s design can help you maximize your intimacy.

Sex outside of marriage is forbidden by our Creator because He intended it to be the glue in a marriage covenant: And a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and these two shall be one flesh. Adam said when God presented Eve to him: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh…. (Gen. 2:23). When people chose to violate this plan, guilt, resentment, fear, and uncertainty are given ground to flourish. So many misrepresentations of sex are made in our culture that it is difficult to believe anyone waits until marriage to have sex. That is not true! It is a well-established principle that when a couple has premarital sex, the woman later resents the man even after marriage for having not valued her enough to wait until they were married¹. Ever see a hen-pecked man? Now that doesn’t mean they had premarital sex, but I can safely predict that rarely is the man respected well who has had sex with his bride prior to saying, I do." If you have already made the mistake of yielding to temptation, God is forgiving and can even repair damage if you are willing to admit that you were wrong.

My desire for writing Sex & Marriage is to help newly married or soon-to-be married couples find the answers they seek about areas of intimacy that aren’t discussed by most people in polite company. It isn’t because sex is dirty or bad; it’s because it’s intimate. You chose your spouse to be with you for life because you wanted them and them alone. No do-overs. No maybes. Nope. You want them for life. You don’t want to use pornographic sites for ideas? That’s a rhetorical question. Of course you don’t. That information doesn’t belong in your life; it’s garbage. I want to provide a