21 Decisions for Great Sex and a Happy Relationship

By Lori Buckley

Before you make the decision to end your relationship, instead make the decision to read this book!

Internationally known relationship and sex expert, Dr. Lori Buckley gives you specific, easy steps to improve your sex life and your relationship.

All it takes is one decision to change the direction of your relationship. This book provides 21 decisions with action steps to get you started. Included are 10 effective exercises used in Dr. Buckley's private practice.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lori Buckley
• Release date: Jan 2, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301990597

Lori Buckley

Dr. Lori Buckley is a licensed psychologist (PSY20447) and AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a passionate therapist, speaker, host, columnist and educator, and has helped thousands of individuals and couples improve their relationships and enhance their sex-lives.Dr. Lori has appeared on numerous television and radio shows and is frequently quoted in national and international magazines. She conducts seminars and workshops for women, men and couples teaching ways to improve communication, increase sexual pleasure, satisfaction and love making skills, and is a member of The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), The Society of The Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), and The International Society for The Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH).

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About the Author

It’s been and continues to be my life’s mission to help others enjoy stronger relationships, greater intimacy, and hotter sex. I’m often asked why I became a relationship and sex therapist. Once you know my family history, you’ll understand why.

My parents divorced when I was about four years old. For both of them, it was their second marriage and divorce. My mother then got married--and divorced--three more times, twice to the same man. And my father was married two more times. His last marriage was when he was 72 and married a 35-year-old woman months before he died because he didn’t want to die alone. That’s nine marriages and a lot of suffering between the two of them.

Whenever saw couples that seemed happy I would wonder what they knew or did that my parents didn’t.

Despite my parent’s relationship difficulties, they were both very sexual and were comfortable talking to me about sex. Like most teenagers I was curious about sex and wanted to learn more. So, I started reading as much erotica and sex education books as I could get my hands on. When my friends had questions about boys or sex, I was the one they would come to for answers. They (and I) thought I knew what I was talking about! My interest and curiosity about sex continues to this day, as does my knowledge and experience. There is always more to learn and discover about sex, as well as ourselves and our partners.

So, helping people find and cultivate happy relationships and create and sustain satisfying sex lives has been my life’s mission. I have had a private practice in Pasadena, CA for almost 20 years, and have had the privilege to work with thousands of individuals and couples to help them build stronger, more intimate, more passionate relationships. I believe that having strong relationships (with ourselves and others) is what makes our lives rich and meaningful. I also believe that the greatest gift we can give our children is loving, happy and confident parents.

There are many great (and not-so-great) books written about sex and relationships, but most don’t address both in a practical way or give simple steps to help you improve them. Relating to each other both emotionally and sexually are equally important for healthy and satisfying relationships. That is why I’ve written this book. I want to give you the tools and skills to help you have a loving relationship and a satisfying sex life.

My mom always said, When sex is good, it’s five percent of the relationship, and when it’s bad it’s ninety-five percent of the relationship. I see evidence of this almost every day in my practice. However, I believe that great sex contributes to more than five percent of our relationship satisfaction, and that it significantly and positively impacts our lives as well as our relationships. There are not many experiences in life as great as mind-blowing sex with someone you love!!!

I decided to become a therapist so I could help people have more loving and happy relationships. I made sexuality a focus of my studies and my work because I believe pleasurable sex is essential for a loving relationship and a fulfilling life.

The information in this book is from my years of studying, as well as my personal experiences, and my experience successfully working with and learning from couples, and I know this information can work for you!

I encourage you to learn and practice the steps outlined in this book. By doing so, you will begin a lifetime journey