The Art of Romance

By Wolfgang Riebe

REALISTIC | INFORMATIVE | FUNNY | DOABLE | ROMANTIC

A COMPREHENSIVE BOOK CONTAINING TIPS AND IDEAS TO ADD THAT MAGIC SPARK TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Do you feel that your relationship is lacking romance? Or do you just want a few tips on being more romantic? After speaking to, and helping thousands of couples re-discovering the romance in their relationships, Wolfgang Riebe has written the ultimate 'How To' guide on romance and produced an online video course.

Everything is covered, from being more attentive, understanding each other as a couple, honest communication, fun ideas and adult play. It is a ‘must have’ for all couples!

An insightful guide that will enable you to discover the magic of truly Romantic Relationships and create amazing Memorable Magical Moments in your lives.

Chapters include: On Becoming A Perfect Partner, Problems Facing Modern Marriages, Do You Really Expect Your Marriage To Take Care Of Itself? Outside Invasion, Dishonesty Versus Honesty, Predictability/Monotony, Conditioned Role Playing, Enjoy One Another's Developmental Periods Through Life, Problem Solving Suggestions, Do Not Wait For Life To Pass You By, Children, What Is Love? Exercises To Becoming A Perfect Partner, Where It's All At... The Bedroom, Time To Listen, Organise Your Time Together, Pamper Each Other, Get To Know Each Others Bodies, A Honeymoon Once Per Year, Become Interested In Your Partner's Interests, Your Own Romance Novel, Play With Each Other, Sex Talk, Spending Time Alone, Threesome's, Videos & Photos, Sexual Preferences, Fighting & Arguments, Develop Your Five Senses And Take Your Lovemaking To The Nth Degree, and much more.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Wolfgang Riebe
• Release date: Jul 15, 2010
• ISBN: 9781458092663

Wolfgang Riebe

Wolfgang began his career as a magician on British television on BBC & ITV, later traveling around the world as a headline act on cruise liners before tackling expeditions throughout the Arctic & Antarctic where he performed world-class illusions to thousands of international passengers.In later years he relocated to Cape Town from where he focused on the EMEA market combining strategically planned illusions with speaking in order to reinforce corporate messaging throughout Africa, Europe and the Middle East. He completed a thesis in Complexity Thinking and its affect on Innovation amongst leadership in multi-national organisations at the York St John university in the UK.In 2012 the National Speakers Association (NSA) awarded Wolfgang the CSP (Certified Speaking Professional) designation, which is the highest award given to any professional speaker in the speaking world. This designation is currently only held by less than 800 professional speakers globally.His passion is to share life truths and connect people through logical thinking and fun, as can be validated through his You Tube channel (inspiringtheworld) with over 1000 videos. In 2015 he appeared as a TEDx speaker and is currently based in Geneva, Switzerland where he focuses on the English Speaking meetings & events market and has performed in over 165 countries during the last 30 years.From symposiums, conferences, strategic planning sessions, cruise liners, television to expeditions, his vast variety of incredible life experiences make him the perfect host as your Keynote Speaker, Master of Ceremonies and Celebrity Comedy Entertainer, turning your whole event into an unforgettable sophisticated experience where creates Memorable Magical Moments for everyone.

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THE ART OF ROMANCE

By Wolfgang Riebe

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THE ART OF ROMANCE ONLINE VIDEO COURSE

This entire book is available as an online video course here:

https://www.wolfgangriebe.com/E-Learning/Romance/romance.html

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INDEX

Foreword

Introduction

On Becoming A Perfect Partner

Problems Facing Modern Marriages

Do You Really Expect Your Marriage To Take Care Of Itself?

Outside Invasion

Dishonesty Versus Honesty

Predictability/Monotony

Conditioned Role Playing

Enjoy One Another's Developmental Periods Through Life

Problem Solving Suggestions

Do Not Wait For Life To Pass You By

Children

What Is Love?

Exercises To Becoming A Perfect Partner

Where It's All At... The Bedroom

Time To Listen

Organise Your Time Together

Pamper Each Other

Get To Know Each Other's Bodies

A Honeymoon Once Per Year

Become Interested In Your Partner's Interests

Your Own Romance Novel

Play With Each Other

Sex Talk

Spending Time Alone

Threesome's

Videos & Photos

Sexual Preferences

Fighting & Arguments

Develop Your Five Senses And Take Your Lovemaking To The Nth Degree

Some More Great Ideas

A Last Word

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FOREWORD

Maybe it is 'forward' of me to write a book on romance and sex. But hey, when I look at the world, the high divorce rate and the issues couples have today – I think it's about time that more people tackled the topic and did something about it.

By no means do I claim to be a specialist on the subject, but life has taught me many lessons, and I have researched much on the subject. You see, I married this fantastic woman at a young age, and today, 30 years later she is still the sexiest woman on earth to me. I have had some friends criticise me for referring to my wife as sexy at her age - and I don't understand their viewpoint! If I love, adore and respect my partner, and practice romance in my marriage, then by gosh, at the age of 80 she should still be able to make my loins stir!

We have become so obsessed with this false and materialistic society today, coupled with glamorous personalities, that something has gone seriously wrong. Of course there are sexy men and women out there who make our heads turn and who have a tighter butt, or bigger boobs than our partners. But does that really make them sexier? Who is it with whom you feel comfortable, and share all your inner desires with? On whose shoulder can you cry when things aren't going your way?

You need to recondition yourself to stop falling prey to what the conditioned masses are doing out there. During a recent mastermind group meeting a few of us where pondering the high divorce rate and one of my colleagues suggested it could have something to do with our current 'quick fix' culture. People have become so used to changing their mobile phones every year or two, upgrading their computers regularly and trading in their cars every 18 months, that we have all become conditioned to 'trade in' the old for the new. Hence changing partners and getting divorced has become part of the norm.

A very sad outlook, but I do believe he had merit in the argument. Therefore it is time we all sat back and analysed what is really important in life. In my opinion, society is far less content today than it ever was. If I compare couples today, they separate over the silliest disagreement. In the 50's and 60's this was unheard of. As a couple you sorted out your disagreements and you spoke to each other. You definitely didn't blame your parents, priest, teacher or previous government for your character flaws! You took responsibility! You didn't go see a marriage counsellor – you worked it out as a couple. You communicated effectively and honestly.

Here now are a number of romantic and practical ideas that both of you as a couple can try and implement in your relationship in order to re-kindle the fire and make the magic happen.

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INTRODUCTION

The fairy tale dream: You meet your partner, fall in love, and live happily ever after.

One conjures up images in one's mind of romantic candlelight dinners, holidays on tropical islands, nights of passionate love making, romantic walks in the rain, bringing up a close-knit loving family, and many other happy reveries.

Reality, however, is somewhat different to the above, and is filled with many challenges and stumbling blocks that one has to conquer. If love were as easy as the fairy tale definition above, then we wouldn’t be experiencing all the marital problems and high divorce rates that have become so prominent in today's global society.

I want you to consider the following scenario:

You are at work and suddenly receive a phone call. Your wife has just had an accident with the car and is in hospital. Or it could be you, the wife at home, receiving a phone call from her husband’s work that he just had a heart attack, and has been rushed to hospital.

How will you feel if you arrive at the hospital to hear that your spouse has just died? What will your first reaction and response be?

Yes! You will be grief stricken, but go beyond the grief for one moment. Or imagine that your spouse is lying on a bed, doctors all around fighting for his/her life.

What thoughts will be rushing through your mind?

Thanks for the wonderful time we have had together, but please don’t let it end now. I doubt it! The more common thoughts may be, Oh God! Please give us one more chance, just to patch things up and start all over again. I know I haven’t always been the perfect partner, but please, give me one more chance!

What will you be thinking? This, my dear reader, is reality! You CAN do something about your marriage! Right now is the time! So, if you are going to need a second chance, then please take careful note of the points made in this book!

As a global Inspirational Keynote Speaker I want to share one of my favorite stories on marriage right in the beginning of this book. I do not know who wrote it, it was sent to me on email – but it's an awesome lesson.

TAKE HOLD OF EVERY MOMENT

A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package. He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.

"She got this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on. She was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it." He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house. His wife had just died! He turned to me and said:

"Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion". Those words changed my life.

Now I read more and clean less.

I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.

I spend more time with my family, and less at work.

I understand that life should be a source of experiences to be lived up, not survived through.

I no longer keep anything.

I use crystal glasses every day.

I'll wear new clothes to the supermarket, if I feel like it.

I don't save my special perfume for special occasions; I use it whenever I want to.

The words Someday... and One Day... are fading away from my dictionary.

If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now.

I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends.

She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come.

I would regret it, because I would no longer see the friends I would meet, letters that I wanted to write One of these days. I would regret and feel sad, because I didn't say to my brothers and sons, not enough times at least, how much I love them.

Now, I try not to delay, postpone or keep anything that could bring laughter and joy into our lives. And, each morning, I say to myself that this could be a special day.

The dream of living a wonderfully happy and enriching life with your partner IS possible, and not as difficult as many people think. Fair enough, the stress of our daily living such as having to work late, putting up with traffic jams, caring for sick children, mowing the lawn, doing homework with the kids, entertaining the boss and his wife for dinner, or just trying to cover your monthly costs, are all stress related factors which influence our personal marital lifestyle.

However, these CAN all be overcome!

Attaining your dream of becoming a perfect partner is possible, and requires far less effort than you realise! Like everything in life, if you want to be good at something, then you have to learn and practice. Practice makes perfect, and the more you work on your marriage, the better it will become.

In striving to become a perfect partner, honesty is the key concept. Without total honesty and openness between you and your spouse, you will never be able to lead a fulfilling life with them. It is only by being honest and open that the two of you will truly get to know each other intimately, and be able to grow together, thus building up your trust and respect for one another.

Each chapter covers specific points, and explains certain exercises which both of you should partake in together. These require total honesty in order to be successful. Once you can do this, 99% of the hard work is done!

When talking about becoming a perfect lover, I am not concentrating on the sex aspect alone, but am encompassing the whole concept of marriage, intimacy and spending your life with your spouse. Once you have mastered this, great sex will come naturally. So rather than being a sex manual, this book is a How To Guide on understanding each other better. It teaches you how to live together meaningfully for the rest of your life, and keep the fire burning in your marriage.

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